Ngokuhamba kwexesha kunye neminyaka kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba uthando luguqule kwaye ayifani nasekuqaleni kobudlelwane. Ukuhamba kwexesha kuchaphazela imiba yomzimba kunye neemvakalelo zabantu, ukuguqula ubudlelwane. Uthando ke ngoko luyaqhubeka lukhona nangona ngendlela eyahlukileyo kunokuba yayiyiyo kwiminyaka yokuqala yobudlelwane.
Kwinqaku elilandelayo siza kukuxelela Ixesha lichaphazela njani uthando kunye nobudlelwane.
Ukuhamba kwexesha kunye nokuguqulwa kobudlelwane
Akuthandabuzeki ukuba ukuhamba kweminyaka kuya kuguqula naluphi na ulwalamano. Kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba kwiminyaka yeshumi elivisayo uthando lunamandla ngakumbi, luyityhefu ngakumbi kwaye alunampilo. Ukutyhubela iminyaka, uthando lukhula ngakumbi kwaye lusempilweni kuzo zonke iinkalo. Nangona indlela esiziva ngayo uthando luyatshintsha kwaye luguquguquka ngokuhamba kwexesha, i-essence ngokwayo isekhona, ngakumbi kwezo zibini zicinga ukuba ziphilile.
Izigaba ezithathu zothando ngokwexesha elidlulileyo
Kubudlelwane obuthathwa njengobunempilo, izigaba ezithathu okanye amanqanaba anokwahlulwa: elo lokuwela eluthandweni, uthando lothando kunye nothando oluqolileyo.
Ukuwela kwinqanaba lothando
Esi sigaba sothando sibonakala ngokuthanda abantu bobabini kunye nokuphucula zonke izinto ezilungileyo zesibini. Ukwabelana ngesondo kusekho kweli nqanaba kuba kukho ukwanda kwehomoni. Olu hlobo lweemvakalelo xa kufikwa eluthandweni alunakunyamezeleka ngokuqhubekayo, ngoko kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba lunciphe ngokuhamba kweminyaka.
Iqonga lothando lothando
Kweli nqanaba, uthando kunye nothando zisekhona, nangona ngendlela eqaphela kakhulu. Esi sibini samkelwa njengoko sinjalo, zombini iimpawu zabo ezintle kunye neziphene zabo. Kweli nqanaba kufuneka kubekho unxibelelwano oluhle kunye nesibini kunye neenqobo ezibalulekileyo ezinje ngentlonipho okanye ukuthembana kufuneka kubekho. Iingxaki zivela kwaye amaqela kufuneka ancedisane ukuze azisombulule ngeyona ndlela ifanelekileyo. Kwesi sigaba, izibini ezininzi zigqiba kwelokuba ziluphelise ubudlelwane kuba zizifumana zingenako ukuzisombulula ezi ngxaki, nto leyo ebangela ungquzulwano oluqhubekayo kunye nemilo.
Iqonga uthando oluqolileyo
Ngokuhamba kwexesha kunye neminyaka, uthando luya lukhula. Esi sibini siyakwazi ukucombulula iingxaki ezahlukeneyo kunye. Luthando olukhululekileyo apho ukuthembana kunye nentlonipho yomnye umntu ilawula ngaphezu kwayo yonke into. Ingozi enkulu yothando kulolu hlobo lwesibini luwela kwi-monotony ecima ilangatye. Yiyo loo nto kubalulekile ukuyigcina ikhanyisiwe kwaye uqhubeke nobudlelwane obuhle nangona ixesha lihamba.
Ngamafutshane, kuqhelekile ukuba uthando alufani ekuqaleni kobudlelwane njengoko kunjalo emva kokuba kunye neqabane lakho iminyaka kunye neminyaka. Ngokuhamba kwexesha, uthando luya lukhula ngakumbi kwaye Amaqela anika ukubaluleka ngakumbi kwizinto ezifana nentlonipho, ukunyamezelana okanye ukuthembana. Ngothando olukwishumi elivisayo, kwelinye icala, inkanuko kunye nesondo zinokubaluleka kokwenyani kunye nokukhethekileyo. Into ebalulekileyo kuyo nayiphi na imeko kukudala iqhina elihle kunye nomnye umntu apho bahlonitshwa khona kwaye apho uthando lunempilo kwaye lukhululekile ngokusemandleni.