Kubudlelwane obuninzi, abantu abakwazi ukuvumela elinye iqela kubudlelwane ukuba liphefumle ngokukhululekileyo, Ibizwa ngokuba lulawulo. Unokulawula inyathelo ngalinye leqabane lakho kwaye ufune ukwazi umzuzwana ngamnye wobomi bakhe. Ucinga ukuba ukuba ne-hypercontrol yinto eqhelekileyo, kodwa eneneni oku kuya konakalisa ulwalamano lwakho ngokuthe ngcembe.
Ukuba uyazibuza ukuba kutheni ubudlelwane bakho obutsha bungahlali ixesha elide, kungenxa yokuba awuwaniki amaqabane akho inkululeko. Okulandelayo siza kuthetha malunga nokuba kutheni kufuneka umnike inkululeko engakumbi kunye kutheni iqabane lakho liya kukuthanda ngaphezu kokuba awukuthandi.
uzakukhumbula
Nangona kukho abantu abafane bavakalise ukuncamathela kwabo, benza umgudu wokwazi yonke into ngamaqabane abo. Ukuba uthumela imiyalezo okanye ufowunele iqabane lakho rhoqo ngemizuzu eyi-10, awubaniki ixesha elaneleyo lokukukhumbula. Kuba iwazi inyathelo lakho ngalinye, ngokucacileyo, uyixelela into oyenzayo rhoqo ngemizuzu eli-10, Amathuba ukuba uya kudinwa nguwe ngokukhawuleza kunokuba ucinga.
Mnike nje inkululeko iiyure ezininzi, akukho mibhalo, akukho minxeba, yenza nje umsebenzi wakho, kwaye yiloo nto. Uya kukukhumbula kakhulu kwaye ekugqibeleni uya kuba nethuba lokukufowunela okanye lokuthumela umyalezo kuqala.
Uya kukubulela
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba nithandana kangakanani, ukuthatha ikhefu lexesha elifutshane kubalulekile kubudlelwane obuphilileyo. Umhlaba wabo akufuneki ujikeleze wena kuphela, njengokuba ilizwe lakho akufuneki lijikeleze iqabane lakho. Chitha ixesha lakho nabahlobo bakho abasenyongweni kwaye umvumele achithe impelaveki enye nabahlobo bakhe. Ukuba u-introvert kwaye unqwenela ixesha elithile, mqonde kwaye ufihle ifowuni yakho kwindawo apho ungayifumani khona, ukuba unenkathazo yokumnika ixesha lokukhulula ... tIqabane lakho liya kuyixabisa kwaye likuthande ngokungaguqukiyo phantse ngaphandle kokuba uqaphele, kwaye ngaphandle kokuba wenze umzamo ongako.
Zihloniphe iinjongo kunye namaphupha abo
Ukuba iqabane lakho liyakuthanda kwaye lenza nantoni na oyicelayo, linokugqibela ngokuchitha ubomi bakhe ngokuba ngumhlobo wakho osenyongweni, utata, umntakwenu, kunye “nekhoboka” zonke zihlanganiswe ndawonye. Ngale ndlela, uya kumenza angahoyi iinjongo kunye namaphupha akhe. Eyona nto imbi kakhulu kukuba uya kukucaphukela oku kwiminyaka emi-5 okanye eyi-10 kwaye uya kukugxeka ngokuba ubomi bamaphupha akhe. Ngaba uyafuna eso siphelo? Hayi! Ukuxabisa amaphupha kunye neenjongo zomnye nomnye kunye Ukuzinika ixesha elaneleyo lokuzifeza kubalulekile kulo naluphi na ulwalamano.
Uya kufuna ukukutshata
Uyafuna ndikucebise? Uyafuna akutshate? Mnike inkululeko. Ukuba ukhethe wena, ngoko akayi kubuya umva. Abantu abafuni nabani na okufutshane nabo olawulayo okanye ocinezelayo ngokweemvakalelo. Ukuba benithandana ixesha elide kwaye akafuni kukucebisa, unokuqhubeka ecinga kakhulu ngokuziphatha kwakho. Ngaphandle koko, Unokoyika ukuhlala phantsi kophahla olunye nomntu olawulayo.
Inkululeko ayiyi kunika iqabane lakho ithuba lokukuqhatha ... Ukugxotha iingcinga zakho ezingalunganga kubalulekile. Ukuba ufuna ukuba ubudlelwane bakho buhlale, kufuneka woyise ubuhlobo bakho kwaye umnike inkululeko ethile. Umlingane wakho unobomi bakhe ... kwaye kufuneka ube nobakho.