Asinguye wonke umntu oneemfuno ezifanayo zesini. Mhlawumbi iqabane lakho lifuna ukwabelana ngesondo ngaphantsi kwakho kwaye oko akuthethi ukuba likufuna kancinci. Kodwa kuthekani ukuba iqabane lakho alinamdla kangako kwisini njengawe? Usenokuzibuza enoba usakubona unomtsalane okanye, okubi nangakumbi, ukuba uyifumana kwenye indawo. Nangona kunjalo, eyona nto ingcono onokuyenza, ukuba oku kunjalo kubudlelwane bakho, musa ukothuka. Nanga amanye amanyathelo okujongana nento yokuba iqabane lakho lifuna isondo esincinci kunawe.
Thetha ngayo
Eyona nto ingcono onokuyenza xa kubonakala ngathi i-sex drive yeqabane lakho ibiphantse yangabikho kukuvula imigca yonxibelelwano. Kunokuba ucinge ukuba eyona nto imbi, mbuze ngayo. Ukuba nithandana, nobabini kufuneka nikwazi ukuthetha ngayo nantoni na, kuquka nobomi benu bokwabelana ngesondo. Musa ukumhlasela ngenxa yokungafuni ukulala ngesondo, kodwa ngokuzolileyo mbuze ukuba kukho into eyenzekayo kwaye umphulaphule ngokwenene.
Amathuba kukuba, uya kumangaliswa koko akuxelela kona. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba uxinezelekile emsebenzini okanye udinwe kakhulu yimihla ngemihla. Xa ninokuthetha kunye ngesihloko, kuya kuba lula kakhulu ukusebenzela kwizinto ezifanayo.
Sebenzisa umdlalo wangaphambili njengobudlelwane obusondeleyo
Luphephe uxinzelelo lokwabelana ngesondo ngokuqalisa uhlobo lokwabelana ngesondo ngaphandle komdlalo wangaphambili. Nize nincamisane ngomlomo okanye nincamisane njengoko ubuqhele ukwenza xa ubusemtsha. Ubuhle bolu hlobo lobudlelwane obusondeleyo kukuba xa isondo asiyiyo eyona nto iphambili, iba nomdla kakhulu kwaye ingalindelwanga kunesiqhelo. Xa uphelelwe luxinzelelo, usenokukwazi ukuyenza kwakhona.
...Okanye nezinye iindlela zobudlelwane obusondeleyo
Ukuzama ukunyanzela ngesondo xa umntu drive iphantsi soze isebenze, ngoko ke ukuba ufuna ubuhlobo obunzulu kwaye akafuni, kungcono ukuba uzame ezinye iindlela zokuyenza. Uyakwazi ukugoba kwicala labo ebhedini ngenxa yokubanga okanye Ningade niphululane amalungu omzimba ukuba ayisebenzi loo nto.
Zininzi izinto eninokuzenza ukuze nibe neentlobano zesini kunye ezingenanto yakwenza neentlobano zesini. Jonga umzimba wakhe kwindawo ezolileyo, engenasondo kwaye unokubuyela ukunxibelelana ngokwasemzimbeni.
Musa ukuba nomsindo
Eyona nto imbi onokuyenza kukuqalisa ingxabano. Loo nto ayinakusombulula nto kwaye inokwenza izinto zibe mandundu ngakumbi. Iqabane lakho liya kurhoxa kwaye usenokukucaphukela ngokumenza azive ngolu hlobo.
Kuya kufuneka ufike ezantsi kwesizathu sokuba afune isondo esincinci ngendlela ezolileyo nengqiqweni, kuba ukuba uyacaphuka, Awunakuze ufumanise ukuba kuqhubeka ntoni kwaye ungaphela ulonakalisa ubudlelwane.
Vula ucango lokuzenzekelayo
Ukuba wena kunye nesoka lakho nihlala nilalana ngolwesiHlanu ebusuku emva kokutya ukutya kwaseTshayina kunye nokubukela iNetflix, isondo kunye nolindelo lwesondo kunokuba lula kakhulu kuye ukuba angakhathali.. Kubalulekile ukugcina i-spontaneity iphila xa kuziwa kubomi bakho bokwabelana ngesondo kuba uya kuyixabisa ngakumbi kuneseshoni yesondo ecwangcisiweyo.
Ukuba isoka lakho lifuna ukwabelana ngesondo kancinci kunawe, qiniseka ukuba uyamothusa ngenye indlela okanye ngenye ngesithembiso sento ayifunayo kodwa engekayifumani kuwe kwaye uya kuyixabisa.