Abantu abaninzi abayiqondi indlela ekubaluleke ngayo ukonwaba ekukhuleni kwabantwana ngokweemvakalelo. Okwangoku ngenxa yeengxaki zoqoqosho nezentlalo ezikhoyo kuluntu lwethu, iintsapho ezininzi zikufumanisa kunzima ukonwaba kuba zinengxaki zokucinga kuphela, kodwa yonke into ngumba wesimo sengqondo, nokuba umnyama kangakanani itonela.
Njengoko usazi kakuhle, abantwana abanakho ukukhula ngaphandle kwenkxaso yakho, ngandlela zonke. Kuya kufuneka ube sisikhokelo sakhe sokumnceda ukuba ahlole eli lizwe linzima. Kuya kufuneka ubeyimodeli echanekileyo yobudlelwane phakathi kwabantu kwaye kuya kufuneka ufunde ukuseta imigaqo kunye nemida ukuze abantwana, ukongeza ekuziva bekhuselekile, bazi okulindeleke kubo ngawo onke amaxesha.
Abantwana bathatha isimilo, imikhwa, amasiko kunye neendlela zokuphila zabazali babo... kubaluleke kakhulu ukuhlala kubudlelwane obusempilweni phakathi kwabazali nabantwana ukuze abantwana bakhule kakuhle ngokwasemoyeni kwaye babe nobuntu obuqinileyo nobukrelekrele. Abantu abonwabileyo baya kuba nakho ukukhulisa abantwana abasempilweni kwaye bonwabile, injongo yam namhlanje kukuba ubone ukubaluleka kokonwaba kuwe nakubantwana bakho, kwaye ujonge indlela yokonwaba nokuba yeyiphi na le nto uyiyo ngoku.
Abantwana abonwabileyo kunye nempumelelo yobuqu
Usapho olonwabileyo yeyona ndawo intle kubantwana abakhulayo kwaye ke, banokuba ngabantu abaphumeleleyo. Abantwana babona abazali babo njengoothixo abazi yonke into, ke ngoko, phambi kokuba eli nqanaba lidlule (eliza kudlula), kubalulekile ukuba wamkele uxanduva olungqamana nawe kule nto kwaye ulawule izenzo zakho namazwi akho ukuze abengcono umzekelo wabantwana bakho. Abantwana abakhulele kwiintsapho ezonwabileyo bathanda ukufikelela iinjongo zabo ngokulula kwaye kunokwenzeka ukuba baphile ubomi babo ngokupheleleyo.
Ulonwabo kunye noqeqesho lwengqondo lwabantwana
Usapho njengomthetho lunendima ebaluleke kakhulu ekukhuleni ngokweemvakalelo kwabantwana, ngokwasentlalweni, ngokwasemzimbeni nangokweemvakalelo. Njengabazali kuya kufuneka nibonise umntwana wakho ukuba kunjani ukuziphatha kakuhle kwaye ube ngumzekelo kumntwana wakho. Kodwa kufuneka ulumke, kuba abantwana bayazinkqaya kwaye baxelise izinto ezintle nezimbi. Iintsapho ezonwabileyo zihlala zikufundisa ukuba uphuhlise izakhono zentlalo ezilungileyo, izakhono ezibalulekileyo kwaye ezinokukunceda ufumane ulwimi olufanayo nabantu abakungqongileyo kwaye uphuhlise ukuqonda kobunkokeli.
Kwakhona, ukuba ufuna abantwana bakho bonwabe ebomini Kuya kufuneka umkhulise ngokomgangatho wakhe. Ubushushu buvela ebusaneni kwaye abunakutshintshwa kamva kuba yinxalenye yomntwana wakho. Olu lwakhiwo lobushushu luya kuxhomekeka kuzinzo lweemvakalelo zosapho kunye nendlela umntwana afundiswa ngayo ukuba abone inyani. Ukuzinza ngokweemvakalelo kusapho kubaluleke kakhulu ukwenza isimilo somntwana kwaye nokuzithemba kwakhe kuyomelezwa.
Ukuba ngutata akukho lula kodwa yeyona nto ilungileyo inokwenzeka kuwe
Ukuba ngutata akukho lula njengokuba ucinga, kwaye loo nto yaziwa kuphela xa umntu esiba ngutata okanye umama. Ngumsebenzi weeyure ezingama-24 ongahlawulwanga okunyanzela ukuba uhlale ukulungele ukufundisa, ukuxhasa kunye nokufumana igama elifanelekileyo lokukhuthaza umntwana wakho. Ungutitshala wokuqala kwaye kuya kufuneka uncede umntwana wakho aphathe izakhono ezahlukeneyo zokumnceda ngamathuba amaninzi kwixa elizayo.
Abantwana abaphuma kwiintsapho ezonwabileyo baphathwa ngothando nentlonipho kwaye oku kuya kufundisa abantwana ukuba basebenzisane eluntwini kwaye bajongane noxinzelelo kunye neengxaki benethemba kwaye bahlala befuna izisombululo. Ukuba ngumzali kunzima kodwa xa ubona umntwana wakho onwabile kwaye ephumelele, uya kuziva ungoyena mzali uzidlayo emhlabeni.