Kwiimeko ezininzi, ukufika komntwana kunokubangela isibini esitshatileyo esibonakala sigqibelele qala ukungcangcazela. Uxanduva lweqela ngalinye, kunye nenkathalo eya kulufuna usana, yinto enokwaphula imvisiswano kwesi sibini. Ukuze ugweme konke oku, kubalulekile ukukhetha ukuba ngumzali okwabelwana ngawo, okwenza amaqela omabini avuyiswe kwaye angabeki engozini ubudlelwane ngokwawo.
Kwinqaku elilandelayo siza kukuxelela kutheni ukwabelana ngomzali kunceda ukuphucula ubudlelwane besibini.
Ukubaluleka kokwabelana ngobuzali ngokunxulumene nesi sibini
Yahlula-hlula imisebenzi eyahlukeneyo malunga nokukhulisa umntwana, yinto enokunceda ukwenza izibini zonwabe kwaye zihlale ixesha elide. Ukusebenzisana ngokulinganayo ekunyamekeleni umntwana omncinci yinto eyenza ubudlelwane besibini buvumelane ngakumbi. Ngoko ke kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba kubudlelwane apho elinye lamaqela liphethe yonke into, iingxoxo kunye neengxabano zisekukhanyeni kwemini.
Ngethamsanqa kwaye ekuhambeni kweminyaka, izinto zitshintshile kwaye Abazali abaninzi bachitha ixesha elingakumbi nabantwana babo. Oku kubalulekile kwesi sibini njengoko kukhulula oomama kwimithwalo emininzi. Ukuba ngumzali okwabelwana ngako ke ngoko kulungile ukuba isibini somelele kwaye sinokuhlala ixesha elide.
Iingcebiso zokufikelela kubuzali okwabelwanayo phakathi kwesibini
Akukho lula okanye kulula ukwenza ukuba ngumzali okwabelwanayo kukwenza. Phezu kwayo nje inkqubela ethile, kusekho inxalenye yoluntu ecinga ukuba ukunyamekela iintsana kufanele kunyanyekelwe ngomlinganiselo omkhulu ngumama.
Le yinto engenzi nzuzo kwaphela ubudlelwane kwaye yiyo loo nto uthotho lwemiba kufuneka luthathelwe ingqalelo:
- Gcina incoko okanye incoko neqabane ukuze kumiselwe uxanduva malunga nokuba ngumzali. Kuhle ukuhlanganisa imisebenzi eyahlukahlukeneyo, kuba loo nto iyingenelo kulwalamano.
- Zigcine uzolile xa usenza izigqibo ezithile. Kufuneka ubonakale uzolile kwaye ukhululekile ukuphepha iingxabano ezithile.
- Iqela elinye akufuneki livunyelwe ukuba liphathe uninzi lokhathalelo lwabantwana kunye nomsebenzi wasekhaya. Ukukhuliswa komntwana kufuneka kwabelwane ngokulinganayo.
- Ukusebenzisana kuya kunceda ukunciphisa uxinzelelo kunye nokudinwa kwesi sibini. Le yinto ngokungathandabuzekiyo kuncedo lwakho.
- Akufunekanga uxoxe phambi kwabantwana bakho. Yonke into enxulumene nemfundo kunye nokukhuliswa kwabo kufuneka kuxoxwe ngasese.
- Xa kuziwa ekugwebeni umntwana ngenxa yokuziphatha kwakhe okubi, Kubalulekile ukuba niyenze ngokubambisana nangemvumelwano.
- Kufuneka sithethe ngendlela ecacileyo necacileyo malunga nesibini kwaye uphephe iingxabano ezithile okanye imilo.
Ngamafutshane, ukukhetha ukuba ngumzali okwabelwana ngako yinto enceda ekuphuculeni ubudlelwane njengesibini. Ukwabelana ngokulinganayo zombini uxanduva kunye nokhathalelo, Yinto entle kakhulu kwikamva elihle laso nasiphi na isibini. Awunako ukuvumela elinye lamaqela ukuba liphathe wonke umsebenzi kwaye elinye lenze nje into, kuba oku kubandakanya umonakalo omkhulu kubudlelwane.
Eyona nto ifanele ibekho xa kuzalwa umntwana kukuba ukhathalelo lwemihla ngemihla lwenziwa ngendlela elinganayo ngoyise kunye nomama. Kuye kwenzeka ukuba kuqinisekiswe, ngenxa yezifundo ezahlukeneyo, ukuba ukuba ngumzali okwabelwanayo kunceda isibini ukuba sonwabe ngakumbi kwaye siseke imvisiswano eyomeleleyo kubudlelwane.