Akukho mntu uthandabuzayo ukuba intlonipho ibalulekile kulwalamano oluthile ukuze lube sempilweni. Ukuhlonipha iqabane kuthetha ukuthanda nokuthanda omnye umntu ngazo zonke izinto ezintle kunye nazo zonke iziphene.
Ngelishwa, kwizibini ezininzi namhlanje kukho ukungabikho kwembeko, okuphelela konakalisa kakhulu ubudlelwane obukhankanywe ngasentla. Khumbula ukuba ngaphandle kwentlonipho alunakubakho uthando kwaye iqabane liba yityhefu okanye libe yingozi.
Intlonipho kubudlelwane
Ukuhlonipha iqabane lakho kuya kubandakanya uthotho lwezinto okanye izinto esiza kubona ngezantsi:
- Phatha kwaye uhloniphe iqabane lakho njengomntu . Ukukhwaza okanye ukuthuka omnye umntu akufuneki kuvunyelwe nangaliphi na ixesha. Oku kucinga ukungabikho kwentlonipho enkulu engakwenziyo nakuphi na ukulunga kwesi sibini. Ngamanye amaxesha, ukuzithemba kakhulu kunye nokuhlala ngokupheleleyo kwindawo yentuthuzelo, kubangela imbeko ukuba iphele ilahlekile ngayo yonke into ebandakanya oku. Awunakho ukubekeka into njengembeko ngenxa yokuba iyityhefu enefuthe elibi kubudlelwane.
- Kuqhelekile ukuba kwisibini ngasinye umntu abe nezinto azithandayo kunye nezinto abanomdla kuzo kunye nobuntu ohluke ngokupheleleyo kobo bathandekayo. Kubaluleke kakhulu ke ngoko ukwazi ukuba ungamhlonipha njani omnye umntu njengoko enjalo. Awunakho kwaye akufuneki uvumele elinye lamaqabane ukuba litshintshe ngenxa yokwanelisa nokugcina omnye wonwabile.
- Kwisibini, umntu ngamnye ungumnini weemvakalelo kunye neemvakalelo zabo. Kodwa ngaphandle kwalonto, kubalulekile ukuqonda nokuhlonipha iimvakalelo zomnye umntu. Kuqhelekile ukuba abantu abatshatileyo babeneeyantlukwano ezithile ngokubhekisele kwimeko yeemvakalelo kodwa ngenxa yokuhlonela oku akufuneki kubangele naluphi na uhlobo lwengxaki. Uvelwano lukwadlala indima ebalulekileyo kwisibini Kwaye kubalulekile ukwazi ukuba ungazibeka njani ezicathulweni zenye ukuze ubudlelwane bulingane ngokulinganayo kwinqanaba leemvakalelo.
- Enye into ethetha ukuba intlonipho phakathi kwabatshatileyo yinyani yokuba nenkululeko eyaneleyo yokukwazi ukunxibelelana nabanye abantu ababalulekileyo ebomini abanjengosapho okanye abahlobo. Esi sibini kufuneka sibahlonele obu buhlobo kwaye singabohlukanisi nabo kuba ngale ndlela bayaphula kanobom le nhlonipho sele ikhankanyiwe. Ayinakuvunyelwa phantsi kwazo naziphi na iimeko ukuba umntu lowo akanakubona abathandekayo bakhe ngenxa yokunyanzelwa kwesi sibini. Oku kuthetha ukuba ulwalamano olupheleleyo luyingozi kwaye kwangaxeshanye kuyityhefu ekufuneka ushiye kuyo.
Ngamafutshane, intlonipho kwisibini kubalulekile ukuba isebenze ngokugqibeleleyo kwaye ithathelwe ingqalelo isempilweni. Ngelishwa, ukunqongophala kwentlonipho kubudlelwane ihlala ixhaphake kakhulu kunokuba ungacinga ekuqaleni.