Ubudlelwane besibini kufuneka bunike ukhuseleko kunye nokuthembana kuwo omabini amaqela kunye ukufezekisa intlalontle ethile ebangela ukuba ibhondi idale ngokwayo. Amathandabuzo kunye noloyiko yimiba echaphazela kakubi ubudlelwane. Kukho izizathu ezininzi ezinokubangela ukuba umntu angaqinisekanga ngobudlelwane bakhe.
Kwilandelayo siza kukuxelela into omawuyenze kwimeko yokuba nobudlelwane obungakuthembisiyo.
Izizathu zokuba ungaqinisekanga ngobudlelwane bakho
Ziliqela izizathu oko kunokwenza ubudlelwane bakho bungakuqinisekisi konke kwaye awonwabanga kuyo:
Ukoyika ukuba wedwa
Uloyiko lokuba wedwa sesinye sezizathu eziphambili zokuqhubeka nobudlelwane obungenabungqina kwaphela. Ndikhetha ukuhlala nomntu nokuba irelationship ayihambi kakuhle kwaye kuphephe ukuba wedwa kungekho mntu. Enoba kuyintoni na, kumele kuboniswe ukuba isibini sifanele sisekelwe kuthando nakuthando kungekhona ekubeni sodwa.
Ukuxhomekeka ngokweemvakalelo
Ukuxhomekeka okuthile ngokweemvakalelo kusenokuba semva kokuqhubeka nomntu ngaphandle kokuqiniseka okuncinane. Ukuxhomekeka ngokweemvakalelo kuyafana nobudlelwane obungenampilo okanye obuyityhefu. Isibini kufuneka sanelise ngokupheleleyo umntu, into engenakwenzeka xa unokuxhomekeka ngokweemvakalelo kwiqabane lakho.
Rhoqo
Abantu abaninzi abakholelwa kubudlelwane babo, nangona kunjalo baqhubeka ngokufanayo ukuze bafumane intuthuzelo elula okanye yesiqhelo. Kolu hlobo lwezibini, uthando okanye umsa uye wathabathel’ indawo umsa ngomnye umntu. Kukho uloyiko olukhulu kunye noloyiko lotshintsho kwaye bakhetha ukuba kunye neqabane elingaqinisekanga kwaphela.
Yintoni omawuyenze ukuba umntu unobudlelwane obungakuqinisekisanga
Eyokuqala kuzo zonke kukuqonda ukuba ubudlelwane abusebenzi kwaye ukuba akufanelekanga ukuqhubeka ngolu hlobo. Kuhle ukuzinika ixesha lokucinga nokucinga ngokuzolileyo. Iingcali kulo mbandela zicebisa okanye zicebisa ukuba uzibuze uthotho lwemibuzo:
- Ngaba ufanele ukuba nobudlelwane apho ndingonwabanga?
- Kutheni ndingakwazi ukuphelisa ubuhlobo?
- Ixabiso qhubeka nobudlelwane?
- Kwakuza kwenzeka ntoni ukuba ndophule ikhonkco neqabane?
Kufuneka kuqatshelwe ukuba akukho lula okanye kulula ukufikelela kweli nqanaba kwaye Kwiimeko ezininzi, uncedo lonyango luyimfuneko.a. Injongo yale mibuzo kukwazi ngendlela ecacileyo into enqwenelekayo kwaye ukusuka apho ungaqhubeki nesibini ukuba akukho hlobo lokukholelwa kuso.
Xa yonke into icacile, kubalulekile ukuhlala ecaleni kwesibini kunyeXpose ukuba kucingwa ntoni ngobudlelwane besibini. Unxibelelwano oluhle lubalulekile xa kufikelelwa ekusombululeni iingxaki ezahlukeneyo ezikhoyo phakathi kwesibini.
Iimfuno ezahlukeneyo kubudlelwane besibini
Iingcali ezininzi zicebisa ukuba zicinge ngezinto ezibalulekileyo neziyimfuneko ukuze ubudlelwane busebenze.. Kuyacetyiswa ukuba udwelise oko kubalulekile xa ugcina ulwalamano oluthile nomnye umntu. Khumbula ukuba umntu ngamnye wahlukile ngoko iimfuno aziyi kufana xa kufikwa kubudlelwane obusebenza ngokufanelekileyo. Emva kokuba iimfuno ezinjengonxibelelwano, intlonipho, ukuthembela okanye iinjongo ezidibeneyo zisekiwe, lixesha lokuhlalutya ukuba ngaba zidibene nobudlelwane okanye ukuba, ngokuchaseneyo, azenziwanga.
Ngamafutshane, Akucebisi okanye kucetyiswa ukuba nobudlelwane obungaqinisekisiyo. Iqhina elidalwe kufuneka lisekelwe kuthando kunye nokuthandana kunye nokufezekisa ulonwabo oluthile kunye nokuphila kakuhle.