Ukuba uye waqaphela ukuba ngamanye amaxesha awumthandi iqabane lakho, kuya kufuneka uyazi ukuba kutheni le nto isenzeka ukuze wazi ukuba wenze ntoni ngayo. Kuxhomekeke kubudlelwane bakho kunye nento oyifunayo kuyo, kuya kufuneka wenze ngendlela enye okanye enye. Olona luvo lulungileyo luya kuhlala luthetha kwaye unyaniseke kwiqabane lakho. Vula ingxoxo enyanisekileyo, Intlonipho kunye ngqo ngale ndlela yeyona ndlela ilungileyo yokwenza le ndlela.
Ngapha koko, unokumxelela ukuba uyamthanda yaye umkhathalele, kodwa uthiye naxa esenza izinto ezithile. Ngethemba, iqabane lakho liya kuba likhulile ngokwaneleyo ukuba liqonde ukuba uthetha kakuhle kwaye liya kwenza konke elinako ukumisa okanye ukuguqula indlela abenza ngayo into ekukhathazayo. Isiphakamiso esihle kule nto kukuba ubuze iqabane lakho ukuba kukho izinto malunga nawe angazithandi ngamanye amaxesha. Qinisekisa ukuba umenza azive ekhululekile kwaye ehlonelwa.
Ukuba ufuna ukuba basabele ngendlela elungileyo, nawe kufuneka wenze oko. Ukuba oku kusebenza kakuhle, kufuneka ubone ukuphucuka kobudlelwane bakho kunye nezinto ezenziwa liqabane lakho ongathandiyo kufuneka uziyeke. Ukugqithisa okuchaseneyo koku kwindlela yangaphambili kukuqhawula kunye neqabane lakho. Nangona oku kunokubonakala ngathi sisigqibo esingxamisekileyo, asinokuxhomekeka kwimeko yakho.
Ukuba kukho izinto ezininzi kakhulu malunga neqabane lakho ezibangela ukuba ungawathandi ngamanye amaxesha, okanye ukuba ziingxaki ezinzulu kakhulu, ngoko unokufuna ukuhlukana. Oku kuya kuba kokona kulungileyo kubo nakuwe. Kusenokuba buhlungu ekuqaleni, kodwa ekuhambeni kwexesha uya konwaba ngakumbi. Kananjalo awuyi kuba nethuba lokuqhubeka ungathandi ezinye izinto ezininzi ngalo mntu kwixesha elizayo.
Olunye uluvo kunye nokhetho ngaphambi kokwahlula kukuthatha ikhefu. Ngokwenza oku, unokubona ukuba ingxaki iqabane lakho ngokwenene, ukuba uyamkhumbula okanye ufuna nje indawo ethile. Enyanisweni, usenokude uqonde ukuba usenokuba uye waluthabatha lula ulwalamano yaye uthanda yonke into ngabo. Ngokwenza oku, niya kunika ikhefu nobabini, kwaye Nangona inokuba buhlungu, inokugcina ubudlelwane bakho.
Inokuba yintoni ingxaki?
Oku kukwanzima ukukuthetha kuba iyahluka kumntu nomntu. Nangona kunjalo, kwabanye abantu kuthetha ukuba basenokuba baphumile kwisigaba sehoneymoon. Kwabanye, kunokuthetha ukuba ubona amacala amaninzi eqabane lakho njengoko usondela, kodwa ayingomacala oyithandayo okanye ocinga ukuba banawo. Kusenokuthetha ukuba uphulukene nolo nxibelelwano lukhethekileyo, iqhina, uthando, imvakalelo, intlantsi okanye umdla.
Nangona oku kunokuba nzima, kuyinyani kwaye wena kunye neqabane lakho ninokufunda indlela yokusebenza ngale nto, nihlukane, okanye nifunde ukuyamkela. Nangona kunjalo, kungakhathaliseki ukuba wena kunye neqabane lakho nizama kangakanani ukuyeka ukwenza ezi zinto ungazithandiyo,, kubalulekile ukuba ungatshintshi imilinganiselo yakho, iinkolelo, izimvo okanye isazisi sesibini.
Okokuqala kufuneka uzithande, ungazitshintshi okanye ufihle iqabane lakho. Bafanele ukuba bakuthande kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni na, abafuni ukukutshintsha ... Kwaye okufanelekileyo kukuba awufuni ukutshintsha nabani na. Wonke umntu unjengoba anjalo, uyawamkela okanye awuwamkeli. Ke khumbula ukuba kukho umgca olungileyo phakathi kokwazi ukuba iqabane lakho alithandi nto ngawe kunye cuyitshintshe okanye uyiyeke, xa ithelekiswa nokutshintsha ngokupheleleyo ukuba ungubani na.