Nangona ukungatshati kunokuba mnandi ngamanye amaxesha, kukho abanye xa unqwenela ukuba neqabane. Nokuba uyalonwabela ixesha lakho kwaye ubukele umabonwakude obonisa ukuba uthe phithi yiyo kwaye ulandela ishedyuli yakho, unqwenela ukuba nomntu omthandayo. Kuqhelekile ukuziva ngale ndlela. Ayinamsebenzi ukuba umhlobo wakho osenyongweni uyonwabele ukuba yedwa okanye ukuba umama wakho uthi uyonwabile yindlela ozimele ngayo. Ukuba ufuna ukudibana nomntu, ufuna ukudibana nomntu, ixesha. Kodwa ke, ayinguye wonke umntu okufanele.
Endaweni yokuziva ungonwabanga ngokungatshati, lixesha lokuba uthathe inyathelo kwaye wenze izinto ezinokukunceda ukuba wazi lo mntu uya kugcwalisa uthando ngentliziyo yakho. Ukuba awutshatanga ixesha elide, ungaphoswa zezi zisombululo ziya kunciphisa eli xesha liba lide kakhulu.
Thatha unyaka
Ewe kufuneka uzinike unyaka ukuze ufumane uthando lokwenyani, kuba izinto azenzeki ngobusuku obunye. Bhala isicwangciso oza kusilandela kunye nothotho lwamanyathelo okwenza oko kwenzeke. Kungabonakala kungaqhelekanga ukuyenza xa ufuna ukudibana nomntu, kodwa ngumbono olungileyo kuba uya kuziva ucacile, uzolile kwaye uququzelele kwimfuno yakho yokufumana uthando lokwenene. Kungcono kunokuba buhlungu kuba ungatshatanga kwaye uyazibuza ukuba kutheni ungatshatanga ixesha elide ...
Xa ungatshatanga ixesha elide, nantsi into onokuyenza: zinike unyaka ukuze ufumane uthando lokwenene. Lixesha elaneleyo lokuba ungabi noxinzelelo malunga nemihla emibi onokuba unayo. Kwakhona lixesha elifanelekileyo. Amathuba okuba, kwiinyanga ezimbalwa okanye kwiiveki ezimbalwa, ungaya kumhla wokuqala omangalisayo okanye udibane nenkwenkwe okanye intombazana ngabahlobo okanye umsebenzi ogqibeleleyo kuwe. Imalunga nokuvuleleka kumathuba ngaphandle kokuthatheka.
Uya kuyazi xa ungalindelanga
Le cliche iyinyani. Xa ungatshatanga, unabahlobo nosapho abakuxelela ukuba “uyakudibana nomntu olungileyo xa ungalindelanga… kwayeNgokwenyani, yinto eyinyani ekufuneka uyigcinile engqondweni.
Ungazi izibini ezadibana xa babecinga ukuba abanakuze bafumane umntu ogqibeleleyo kubo. Babelindele ukuba bangatshati ixesha elide kakhulu kunokuba babephelile. Isebenzile kubo kwaye inokusebenza nakuwe. I-Clichés inokuthuthuzela ngokwenene, ngakumbi xa unengxaki. I-cliche sisikhumbuzo sokuba izinto ziyasebenza kwaye yonke into izakulunga, kwaye oko kubalulekile ukuba ukhumbule ngeli xesha.
Mamela kubahlobo bakho kunye nosapho kuba banokwazi into elungileyo kuwe.
Ukungatshati kuthetha ukufumana iingcebiso kubahlobo, kusapho, kwanabantu ongabaziyo. Naphi na apho uya khona, ukusuka kwiiwebhusayithi ukuya kwiimagazini kunye neengoma zothando, iimuvi kunye neenoveli, uya kufumana uhlobo oluthile lweengcebiso malunga nendlela yokufumana uthando.
Inokudina kwaye iphazamise. Unganqwenela ukuba wonke umntu angayeka ukuthetha nawe ngento yokuba awutshatanga. Kodwa emva koko awunakufumana ingcebiso oyifunayo. Xa ungatshatanga ixesha elide, abahlobo bakho kunye nosapho banokuba neengcebiso zokukunceda ufumane loo mntu ubuzama ukumazi. Mhlawumbi umhlobo wakho osenyongweni wayengatshatanga iminyaka elishumi ngaphambi kokuba batshate, okanye lonke iqela labahlobo babo alitshatanga kodwa baziva benethemba lokudibana nomntu kungekudala.