Xa kufikelelwa ekwazini umntu, intetho yomzimba ithetha okungakumbi kunamagama. Ngelishwa ayingawo onke amadoda anesibindi sokuthatha inkunzi yenkomo ngempondo abuze amantombazana ukuba yintoni na esengqondweni yawo. Mhlawumbi ukhe wadibana nomfana kwi-date kwaye ucinga ukuba akakuthandi ngenxa yokuziphatha kwakhe, kodwa mhlawumbi ukuba unentloni akayi kukwazi ukwazi ukuba kwenzekani entloko ... kwaye mhlawumbi ndikuthandile.
Kwabaneentloni, nangona kubonakala ngathi akunakwenzeka, unokuzichaza iingcamango zabo ngenxa yolwimi lomzimba wabo. kwaye hayi kangako kumazwi akhe. Ukuze ukwazi ukuyenza kuya kufuneka wazi ezinye izitshixo kuba sisakhono esibalulekileyo. Ngaphezu kwako konke, ukuba uqala ukuziva utsalelekile kuloo nkwenkwe, ke le mikhondo iya kuba yinto entle kuwe ukuze ukwazi ukuqikelela ukuba kuqhubeka ntoni entlokweni yakhe.
Ukuba ufuna ukucacisa ulwimi lomzimba wendoda eneentloni, ungaphoswa yile migca ilandelayo.
uyancuma nawe
Ngaphambi kokuba amazwi akubonise indlela abavakalelwa ngayo, inkangeleko yobuso babo iya kukuxelela okungakumbi. Inkangeleko yobuso bakhe iya kukuxelela oko kuqhubeka engqondweni yakhe. Ukuba uyancuma ngokuqhubekayo ngaphandle kwesizathu esicacileyo, kwaye xa umbambe ekujonga kwaye encuma ngokukhawuleza ajonge kude, luphawu olupheleleyo lokuba uyakuthanda.
Ukuba uziva ukhululekile, unokuphinda uncume uze ujonge ukuze nabo bazi ukuba uneemvakalelo ngabo.
Ubambe ixesha elide ejonge
Bonke abantu bayakhukuliswa koko bakubonayo. Ukuba ukhe umbhaqe ekujongile, ingakumbi kwigumbi eligcwele abantu, kuyacaca ukuba ndiyakuthanda. Ukuba nobabini nigcina unxibelelwano lwamehlo rhoqo, intlantsi inokuba inyuka.
Iyakuchukumisa 'ungazimiselanga'
Ukuba 'ngempazamo' uye wakubamba okanye ukubrasha ingalo yakho okanye naliphi na ilungu lomzimba wakho izihlandlo ezininzi... yindlela asondela ngayo kuwe, kuba akabi nabuganga bakwenza ngenye indlela. Xa uthetha naloo nkwenkwana, jonga ukuba izama ukukubamba ngaphezu kokuba kuyimfuneko kwaye ngendlela echwechwayo, kuba ukuba kunjalo, emva koko kucacile ukuba ufuna indlela yokujongana nawe.
Kwanaxa uncokola, usenokuzama ukulinganisa ulwimi lwakho lomzimba engaqondanga ukuze uzive (naye ungekho zingqondweni) ukuba uza kuwe. Ukuba ubuyisela umnxeba kwingalo okanye egxalabeni lakhe, ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuziva ukuba uhamba ngendlela efanelekileyo.
Ithetha nawe ngokwahlukileyo kunabanye
Ukuba xa ethetha nawe ubonakala esoyika okanye eqalisa ukubhuduzela... kusenokwenzeka ukuba iintloni zakhe ziyamkhathaza. Sukuyithathela ngqalelo lonto, unovalo nje kuba enawe... kodwa yeyexeshana. Ukuba, ukongeza, xa ethetha nawe uchukumisa iimpahla zakhe, iinwele zakhe ... okanye uthinte iimpahla zakho okanye iinwele, kungenxa yokuba unomdla kuwe kwaye ugxininise ngokupheleleyo kuwe ngaloo mzuzu.
Ngezi zitshixo ezisisiseko, ukususela ngoku ukuya phambili uya kuba nako ukwazi ukuba loo nkwenkwe ineentloni ineemvakalelo kuwe okanye ayikho.