Ngamanye amaxesha ukungathembeki akufuneki kube ngokwasemzimbeni ukuze kwenzeke. Ukunganyaniseki ngokweemvakalelo kunokubangela umonakalo omkhulu kwabo baziva bekhohlisiwe ngamaqabane abo. Ayenzeki ngendlela ecaphukisayo kwaye amaxesha amaninzi, xa isenzeka loo mntu uziva engcatshiwe akakuqondi kakuhle ukuba kwenzeka ntoni. Kodwa ukungathembeki ngokweemvakalelo kunokuvelisa iziphumo, iziphumo esiza kukuxelela zona ngoku.
Yenza kwaye ukhuthaze umgama
Ukuba ubandakanyeka kumcimbi weemvakalelo, ke kukhuselekile ukuthi kukho imiba esisiseko kubudlelwane bakho. Ukuba usebudlelwaneni obuzinikeleyo kunye no-monogamous, iqabane lakho kufuneka libe ngowona mthombo wolwaneliseko lweemvakalelo zakho. Kuya kufuneka abe ngulo mntu uya kuye xa wonwabile, ulusizi, okanye ufuna nje inkxaso eyongezelelweyo.
Inyaniso yokuba ufuna oku kumntu ongamaziyo kuthetha ukuba mhlawumbi wahlukene neqabane lakho kwinqanaba leemvakalelo. Ubudlelwane ngumsebenzi onzima ukwakha, kwaye kunzima ngakumbi ukuwugcina. Ngamaxesha athile, Umntu ekufuneka ubambelele kuye ngumntu wokugqibela ofuna ukuthetha naye.
Oku kuvula ucango lokuba ukhangele omnye umntu. Oko kukwathetha ukuba imicimbi kubudlelwane bakho ekhokelele kumcimbi wakho ayiphendulwa. Kutheni le nto kufuneka uzihluphe ngokulungisa ubudlelwane bakho ngoku xa unokufumana isisombululo kwenye indawo?
Ayisiyonto ingalunganga kuphela kwiqabane lakho, ikwalungile kuwe. Ukuba awushiyanga ubudlelwane, ngokucacileyo ezinye iintlobo zothando zihlala. Ngokubeka iimfuno zakho zeemvakalelo kumntu ongaphandle kobudlelwane bakho, ikakhulu ngokungafanelekanga uyicaphukisa ukuba isilele kuba awenzi nzame zokuyigcina.
Zizindawo zokunganyaniseki
Imicimbi yeemvakalelo ayinakho ukubandakanya ukwanga okanye isondo, kodwa kuninzi ukuxoka nokukhohlisa okubandakanyekileyo. Basisiseko sokunganyaniseki. Akukho mntu utyale imali kubudlelwane bakho uya kulunga ngebhondi yakho, wabelane ngeemfihlo ezisondeleyo kunye nokwakha ubudlelwane nomnye umntu. Ukuba uyayenza le nto, kunokwenzeka kakhulu ukuba ugcine ubudlelwane bakho beemvakalelo ebumnyameni ngayo.
Ngokuqinisekileyo unokungayiqapheli imiqondiso, kodwa kunokwenzeka ngakumbi ukuba uyayinciphisa indima yaloo mntu kubomi bakho kwiqabane lakho. Ukhe waxoka kwaye wathi abanamsebenzi xa kucacile. Kungenzeka ukuba iqabane lakho likujongile malunga nolwalamano lwakho kwaye livumile ukunqumla ubudlelwane, kodwa ayenzanga.
Xa ulixhoba
Ukuba ulixhoba lenkohliso ngokweemvakalelo, sele uyazi ukuba ivula amanxeba angavaleki ngokulula. Baqhuba umsantsa phakathi kwakho nomntu omele ukuzibophelela kuye. Kwangokunjalo, ukuba ubandakanyeka kwimicimbi yeemvakalelo, kusenokwenzeka ukuba uzama ukukuqinisekisa ukuba ayinabungozi ngoba akukho sini sibandakanyekileyo. Akunje ngale.
Imicimbi yeemvakalelo iyonakalisa ngokumangalisayo, nangakumbi kunokwasemzimbeni, kwaye ukuba uyayigcina, ngekhe ube kubudlelwane ixesha elide. Ukuba ufuna ukugcina ubudlelwane bakho, kuya kufuneka wenze into elungileyo. Susa isithathu sobomi bakho, thembeka kwiqabane lakho, mthembise ukuba umcimbi uphelile kwaye unethemba lokuba angakuxolela. Ukuba awunomdla wokugcina ubudlelwane bakho, ke hlukana nezinto neqabane lakho. Kodwa ungaqhubeki ubagcina kwilimbo. Ayilunganga kuye wonke umntu obandakanyekayo.