Kukho amaxesha xa usebudlelwaneni, kungaziwa ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba iqabane lakho likukhathalele ngokwenene okanye alinalo. Ungaluthandabuza uthando lwabo kuwe kwaye oku kungakwenza uzive umbi ngawe kunye nolwalamano lwakho. Ngokuqinisekileyo, umntu ongakhathaliyo akakufanelanga ukuba kubomi bakho Nokuba unexesha elinzima lokucinga ngento oyenzileyo engalunganga. Ke ngoko, apha ngezantsi siza kuchaza izinto ezi-3 ukuba ukuba iqabane lakho liyakwenza oko kuba abakhathali ngawe.
Ukuba ufumanisa ukuba iqabane lakho lenza enye yezi zinto, ke kubalulekile ukuba uphinde uvuselele ubudlelwane bakho kwaye ukuba kukho imfuneko, ukuba uyaqonda ukuba olu lwalamano ayilolwakho. Kufuneka uqale wonwabe nesiqu sakho emva koko wonwabe ngumntu okuhloniphayo. Kodwa zeziphi izinto ezinokwenziwa liqabane lakho ezibonisa ukuba abakukhathalelanga? Qaphela.
Kukwenza ube nomona
Ayingabo bonke abantu abenza le nto, kodwa abanye bayenza enkulu. Zininzi izinto onokucinga ngazo ukuba uyayenza. Inokuba kukuzama ukubonisa into. Mhlawumbi ufuna wazi ukuba awuzukunikela ingqalelo epheleleyo ngaloo ndlela.
Njengokuba evakalelwa ngokungathi ufuna ukukukhumbuza ukuba akathandani kwaphela nawe. Oku kunokuba ngenxa yokungazithembi. Mhlawumbi ucinga ukuba uyilindele loo nto kwaye ukuba akayidlali loo ndima angayibona njengomntu onqwenela kakhulu, usisidenge kakhulu okanye umntu ongenamava.
Unokukholelwa ukuba ukugcina umtsalane kuye kufuneka azibonakalise rhoqo, kwaye ukufumana ingqalelo kwamanye amantombazana kunokuba yinxalenye yendlela yakhe.
Usenokuba uzama ukukohlwaya
Ukuba ukubonile ubonakalisa umdla komnye umntu, unokufuna ukubuyela kuwe ngenxa yalonto. Ukuba uthelekisa amanqaku, unokuvumela ukuba umbone ejonga amanye amantombazana kube kanye okanye kabini kwaye uyeke, Okanye ndingayenza ngenjongo ngalo lonke ixesha ukusukela ngoku ukuya phambili.
Akukho ndlela inokuthenjwa yokwazi ukuba uyenza ngenjongo okanye akukho nto iyenye ngaphandle kokuphuma uye kukubuza. Ukuba uyayenza loo nto, uya kuzenza isidenge, kuba uya kuyikhanyela ngokupheleleyo… nokuba uyenza ngengqondo epheleleyo.
Isibini esitshatileyo esinemicimbi kubudlelwane, sigxeka omnye komnye ngeengxaki
Usenokungakhathali ukuba uyaqonda
Abanye abantu bayinto engenazintloni ngokudlala ngothando ngamantombazana. Kwimeko yakho, akadlali ngothando konke konke, kodwa kunokuba yindlela nje ahamba ngayo namanye amantombazana. Ukuba kunjalo, mhlawumbi ucinga ukuba kulungile ukuba wenze njalo. Y Ukuba ucinga ukuba yinto eqhelekileyo, oko kuthetha ukuba kuya kufuneka ukwazi ukuyenza nawe ukuba uyafuna.
Nokuba siyintoni na isizathu sokuba umntu athandana naye ajonge amanye amantombazana, into ebalulekileyo ekufuneka uyikhumbule yindlela aziphatha ngayo. Ukuba wayebukele nje, ngekhe ibeyinto ekufanele ukuba uzikhathaze ngayo kwaphela.
Ukuba kujongeka ngathi izama ukwenza into ethile phambi kwakho, unokuba nengxaki yokwenyani. Nika ixesha elincinci lokuba ubudlelwane buqole, kwaye ukuba usajonga amanye amantombazana, Mxelele ukuba yingxaki kwaye awuzimiselanga kuyinyamezela loo nto.
Okanye, ukuba kuyakukhathaza kakhulu ukulinda kwaye ubone ukuba ngokuthe ngcembe iyayeka na emva kwexesha, emva koko thetha naye kwangoko kwaye umazise ukuba uziva njani.