Uthando lunokuphambanisa abantu. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, yeyona mvakalelo inamandla. Xa uthandana neqabane lakho, kodwa iingxaki zihlala zisenzeka kwaye iimilo zibonakala zingenasiphelo, ungazama ukugcina konke kunye. Nangona kunjalo, eli licebo elibi, kuba ukuba ubudlelwane abuzukuhlala, isiphelo siza kuza kwakamsinya okanye kamva, nokuba wenza ntoni.
Abantu benzelwe omnye nomnye abayi kuze bazame ukuqhubeka nobudlelwane kwithemba lobuxoki lokuba kuya kubakho ukulungiswa ngokukhawuleza kwezona ngxaki zinkulu. Baya kulawula ukusombulula ingxaki yobudlelwane ngokunxibelelana nokulungisa isimilo, kodwa abanakuze benze enye yezi zinto zilandelayo ukuzama ukugcina izinto kunye.
Ukuba nomntwana
Le yeyona nto imbi kakhulu kubudlelwane obuwohlokayo kuba ukuba nosana kunokubangela iingxaki ngakumbi kunokuba kusombululeka. Ngokuqinisekileyo, unokucinga ukuba ukwabelana ngobomi kuya kukudibanisa ngandlela thile, kodwa akunjalo. Nditsho nabantu abonwabileyo abanabantwana abasoloko bekwenza oko.
Inqanaba loqhawulo-mtshato lonyukile kwaye ngoku lijikeleze ama-50%. Oko kuthetha ukuba isiqingatha sabantwana abazalwayo kuya kufuneka sinyamezele uqhawulo-mtshato lwabazali nokuba abazali babo bavuya xa kuzalwa umntwana. Oku kuthetha ukuba ayizukunceda kuphela ukuzisa umntwana kwesi sibini, kodwa ingonzakalisa neenzame zokulungisa ubudlelwane.
Kwakhona, Ukuba nabantwana kuyabiza, kudla ixesha, kwaye kufuna ukusebenzisana kunye nonxibelelwano oluhle. Ukuba sele unengxaki ngokusebenzisana kwaye kubonakala ngathi awukwazi ukunxibelelana nexesha elide ukusombulula iingxaki zakho, yintoni ekwenza ucinge ukuba umntwana uza kuyisombulula? Ekuphela kwento umntwana aya kuyenza kukuqinisekisa ukuba kuya kufuneka ukuba babekhona ebomini bomnye nomnye ubomi babo bonke, kodwa oko akuqinisekisi ukuba loluphi uhlobo lobudlelwane abaya kuba nalo.
Tshata
Ukuba ubudlelwane bakho buphakathi kwembambano, ukutshata kuya kwandisa ixesha elingenakuphepheka kwaye kongeze ixabiso elinzima kuqhawulo-mtshato. Ixesha elibandakanyekayo ekucwangciseni umtshato linokuba luvavanyo lokugqibela kwizibini ezitshatileyo, ke yinto ephosakeleyo ukucinga ukuba ukuba awunakho ukwenza ubudlelwane busebenze, ngaba ukutshata kuya kunceda ukuqinisa ubudlelwane kwaye kubasondeze kunye? Hayi akunjalo.
Usuku lomtshato luya kuba lolona lulungileyo kuni nobabini kwaye le ayiyondlela ekumele ukuba ibekho ngayo. Umtshato yinto eyakha ubudlelwane bokwenyani, hayi umtshato, ke ukuba ucinga ukuba ukubeka ecaleni iingxaki ukwenza izifungo kuyakwenza zonke ezinye iingxaki zihambe, Uyaphazama.
Ukuzibandakanya kwizenzo zesondo ongafuni kuzenza
Ukuba iqabane lakho alonwabanga ngobomi bakho bezesondo kwaye bekucenga ukuba uthathe inxaxheba kwinto ongonwabanga ngayo, ukuqhubeka nokwenza oko akuyi kulondoloza ubudlelwane bakho. Kulungile ukunikezela kwiminqweno nakwimibono yomnye, Kodwa kuya kufuneka uvume ngaphandle koxinzelelo lokuphulukana nomntu omthandayo ukuba ayenzeki.
Ukuba nobabini anihambelani ngesondo, akukho mali yamaphupha eya kulungisa loo nto. Ukuba iqabane lakho likuthanda kakhulu njengoko lisithi liyakuthanda, ngekhe liphuphe ngokukubeka kwindawo apho ungakhululekanga khona ngokwesondo.