Ukuzithanda kufuneka ihlale iluthando lomntu wokuqala. Ukuthanda wena kubalulekile, kubalulekile ukuba ukwazi ukuzinika okona kulungileyo kuwe nakwabanye. Akukho meko apho ukuzithemba kwakho kungathathwa njengento engalunganga, kuba akukho nto iphosakeleyo ekuzixabiseni, usazi ukuba ungakuxabisa njani konke ukulunga nokuzithanda ukuze uthande abanye.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuzithemba asiyonto yokuzalwa, luphawu ekufuneka lusetyenzisiwe kubomi bonke. Kungenxa yokuba nangawuphi na umzuzu imeko inokwenzeka ishukumise iziseko zobudlelwane obuqinileyo bomntu ngamnye. Ukuzithanda kunokuphulwa, konakaliswe, Inokukwenza uthandabuze, ungathembi kwaye ikwenze ucinge ukuba awuxabisekanga ngokwaneleyo.
Ungakwandisa njani ukuzithemba
Kukho iindlela zokwandisa uthando lwakho, izixhobo ezilula onokuzisebenzisa ukuphucula indlela oziva ngayo. Kungenxa yokuba uluvo olo iimeko indlela yakho yokunxibelelana nabanye abantu. Ukongeza, ukuzithemba kwakho okanye ukuzithemba kubalulekile xa kuziwa ekuzenzeni uzibonakalise usemsebenzini, kunye nokujongana neemeko ezibi ezivelayo ebomini.
Ukusebenza ngokwakho ukwandisa ukuzithemba kuya kukunceda uphile ngcono, kuba ixesha elininzi ulinikezela kuphuhliso lwakho lobuqu kunye neemvakalelo, kokukhona uzixabisile izinto ozenzayo kunye nokuzithemba kwakho kuyomelela. Oko kukuthi, iba sisangqa ukuba usebenza usuku nosuku, kwaye kancinci kancinci uyazithanda ngakumbi nangakumbi. Kungenxa yokuba ukuzithemba akuthethi ukuzicingela wedwa, kodwa luthando kuluhlu olubanzi lwegama. Obu buchule buza kukunceda wandise ukuzithemba kwakho.
Ziqhelise ukubulela
Ukuba awuzixabisi izinto osele unazo, awungekhe wonwabe ngokupheleleyo nezinye izinto ezininzi oziphumelelayo. Kungenxa yokuba akukho nto iya kuhlala yanele kwaye ke kuyakuhlala kukho ukuziva ungoneliseki. Ngokuqinisekileyo ebomini bakho zininzi izinto onokubulela ngazo, izinto oziphumeleleyo ngomzamo wakho. Uphahla onokuhlala kulo, iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zokutya efrijini, ubudlelwane bomntu, kwanezinto eziphathekayo.
Busuku ngabunye cinga ngento oyenzileyo ngaloo mini, njengokugqiba umsebenzi, ukuba nolwazelelelo kwabanye abantu, okanye ukwenza umthambo. Nantoni na oyicebisileyo kunye nomzamo owenzileyo. Yiba nombulelo kuwe kwaye uya kuba nakho ukuxabisa iinzame zakho, ngokwenza njalo wandise imvakalelo elungileyo kuwe.
Khathalela umfanekiso wakho
Impilo yomzimba kunye nempilo yengqondo zihamba kunye, enye ayinakubakho ngaphandle komnye. Oku kuthetha ukuba kufuneka uyikhathalele impilo yakho, ngokutya, ukwenza imisebenzi yomzimba kunye nemikhwa esempilweni, kodwa Kuya kufuneka ukhathalele impilo yakho yengqondo ngokuhlakulela ingqondo yakho, ufunda iincwadi, umamele umculo, unakekele umfanekiso wakho wangaphandle oyena ubulisa yonke imihla esipilini. Ukukhathalela isiqu sakho kwakhona kukuzithanda kwaye kokukhona uyenzayo, kokukhona uziva ulungile kuwe.
Lwela into oyifunayo ukuze wandise uthando lwakho
Umntu unentlalontle ngokwendalo, kufuneka sabelane nabanye ngobomi kunye nexesha, yiyo loo nto sikhangela iqabane esiza kuguga nalo. Kule ndlela, uhlala ulibale into oyifunayo ukuze uhlangabezane neemfuno zomnye umntu. Obu bubudlelwane obubi, kuba ngaxa lithile unokuziva unetyala, athe wathatha ixesha lakhe kunye nawe kunye nokungazinikeli ixesha olifunayo.
Funda ukuthi HAYI
Umntu ozixabisileyo uyakwazi ukuthi hayi kwizinto okanye kwiimeko angazithandiyo. Ukucinga ngawe, into oyifunayo, into oyithandayo kunye nendlela ofuna ukutyala ngayo ixesha lakho kunye nezixhobo zomeleza ubudlelwane bakho. Ukuba ufuna ukubeka phambili iimfuno zakho, ungoyiki ukuthi HAYI, kuba loo nto ayikwenzi umntu ozithandayo, kodwa umntu ozithandayo.
Ubomi kukuphila, ukubonwabela kunye nabantu abanegalelo kuwe. Kodwa ukuba nobudlelwane obusempilweni nabanye abantu, kubalulekile ukuba nobudlelwane obuhle nesiqu sakhookanye. Sebenzela kolo lwalamano ngendlela onokwanelisa ngayo abanye abantu.