Uninzi lwexesha, abazali bayothuswa yimvukelo yolutsha kwaye bafuna ukuyiphepha ngazo zonke iindlela. Abazoli ngelixa bephatha ulutsha olungalawulekiyo kuba abafuni ukubeka emngciphekweni ubudlelwane babo nabo. Abafuni ukuba umntwana wabo ofikisayo abaleke kubo aze azenze ikheswa.
Imvukelo yolutsha ayisiyonto intsha, ngakumbi abazali. Ikho ukususela oko abantwana behlala emhlabeni. Nawe usenokuba wenza into enesidima xa wawukwishumi elivisayo. Uyakhumbula usoloko ukhala ngento engekho okanye uvale iingcango? Kodwa umbuzo ngulo, kutheni ulutsha luba nemvukelo? Zintoni izizathu ezingunobangela wemvukelo yabakwishumi elivisayo? Ukuqonda ukuba kutheni umntwana wakho esenza ngokungakhathali kubalulekile ukuqonda into onokuyenza ngayo.
Apha siza kugxininisa ezinye izizathu zokuba umntwana wakho ovukelayo avukele.
Ubume
Njengokuba abantwana bengena kwishumi elivisayo, banokuba nobunzima bokuzazi ukuba bangobani. Unokuhlala uzibuza imibuzo enje "Ndingubani?", "Ndenza ntoni apha?", "Yintoni injongo yobomi bam?" njl. Njengoko ucinga ngale mibuzo, uyazama ukufumana okuninzi malunga nobukho bakho kunye nokuzimela. CIsikhukhukazi sikhathalele imibuzo yabo, baphela bethatha yonke into bebodwa. Baba ngabavukeli kwaye bafuna ukuzenzela izigqibo.
Independencia
Umzabalazo wenkululeko inokuba sesinye sezizathu zovukelo lolutsha. Kuyaqondakala ukuba, xa umntwana efikisa kwinqanaba lokufikisa, balindele ukufumana inkululeko engakumbi nokuzimela geqe kubazali nakwintsapho yabo. Le yinto enokufunwa nguye nawuphi na umntu ofikisayo.
Nangona kunjalo, eyona ngxaki iqala xa abanye abazali ngokungazi benza impazamo kwinkululeko, ucinga ukuba umntwana wakho angaphuma ezandleni zakho. Impendulo yakho kwinkululeko ekhulayo yabakwishumi elivisayo inokuba ngunobangela wemvukelo.
Umzekelo, ukuba awumvumeli umntwana wakho ukuba ajonge nabahlobo bakhe ngenxa yokoyika iingxaki ezinokuvela, ayizukumenza abaleke umntwana wakho ngaphandle kwemvume yakho.
ulawulo
Abakwishumi elivisayo bayathanda ukulawula ubomi babo. Zihambile iintsuku apho abazali babedla ngokulawula ulutsha lwabo kwaye bathathe isigqibo ngayo yonke into malunga nabo: ukuba ulutsha lwabo luza kunxiba ntoni, luyaphi, luya kudibana nabani, njl. Xa abantwana bekhula, bayathanda ukonwabela ukuthatha igunya kwizenzo zabo.
Bafuna ukulawula ubomi babo ngokwabo. Nangona kunjalo, Abayithandi into yokuba abazali babe ligunya kwaye banyanzelise izigqibo zabo malunga nabo. Xa oku kusenzeka, badla ngokucela umngeni kwizenzo zakho. Bayavukela xa abazali bengazithembi izigqibo zabo.
Ukwamkelwa
Akunakuphikwa into yokuba abakwishumi elivisayo baphenjelelwa ngoontanga babo ngexesha lokufikisa. Ingcinezelo yoontanga ibaphembelela kakhulu. Abakwishumi elivisayo bafuna ukwamkela uhlobo loontanga babo, Bafuna ukuba yinxalenye yesihlwele sabo kwaye bafuna ngamandla ukwamkeleka.
Baziva benyanzelekile ukuba benze konke okwenziwa ngumntu wonke. Ngokwenza njalo, banokuba semngciphekweni wokuphulukana nobuntu babo. Banokulibala ukuthanda kwabo. Banokuba ngomnye umntu kwaye bayamkele ngokupheleleyo indlela yokuphila yabanye. Ingcinezelo yokufuna ukwamkeleka kwisihlwele ikhokelela kwimvukelo. Abasaziphileli ubomi babo kwaye bafuna ukuba ngomnye umntu. Abazange bamamele nabazali babo okanye izalamane zabo kwaye benze into evakala ilungile kubo. Bayalibala ukwamkela eyona nto bayiyo.
Atención
Ulutsha lungenza nantoni na ukuze lufumane ingqalelo. Bayayithanda xa umntu ehoya inkangeleko yabo, izenzo zabo, nendlela yabo yokuphila. Bafuna ukuba abantu babaqaphele, kwaye baya kwenza nantoni na ukuze baqwalaselwe. Ukungakhathalelwa kwabazali kunokubangela ukuba bafune ingqalelo yabantu abangalunganga ngeendlela ezininzi eziphosakeleyo. Umzekelo, amantombazana afikisayo, xa engafumani nkathalo elungileyo ekhaya, aphume ayokufuna intuthuzelo koontanga bawo. Banokukuchaphazela kakubi; ndikukhokele uhambe ngendlela engalunganga kwaye ubuze ukuba wenze izinto ezimbi.
Emva kokuchonga oyena nobangela wokuvukelwa kolutsha, ungamnceda umntwana wakho kwaye umenze abone umfanekiso ocacileyo wenyani. Xa ufumana umntwana wakho okwishumi elivisayo evukela, sukuvutha ngumsindo, kodwa ukwenza ngokuzolileyo. Zinqumle kancinci. Vumela inkululeko ethile kwaye umvumele ukuba enze izigqibo zobulumko. Khumbula, ungumkhokeli wabo.