Isauna ta bambanta a ka'ida da kuma a aikace. Yawancin mutane suna ɗaukar soyayya a matsayin wani abu mai lafiya wanda dole ne a girmama abokin tarayya tare da ƙaunataccen ƙaunatacce. Koyaya, kuma abin takaici, a aikace akwai alaƙa marassa lafiya wanda a ciki rashin girmamawa ga abokin tarayya ko halaye marasa kyau suka mamaye.
A cikin labarin da ke tafe za mu gaya muku bambance-bambance tsakanin ingantacciyar soyayya da wasu kuma masu cutarwa ko marasa lafiya.
Tsanani da damuwa
Gaskiya ne cewa a farkon kowace dangantaka kowane abu yana da kyau ƙwarai kuma ƙarfinsa ya fi girma ta kowace hanya. Akwai matukar damuwa game da ko ma'auratan suna cikin farin ciki da annashuwa a cikin dangantaka. A tsawon shekaru, wannan ƙarfin yana raguwa sosai kuma maganganun soyayya da juna ba ɗaya bane. Akwai raguwa mai mahimmanci a cikin damuwa daga farkon.
Ikon abokin aiki
Game da soyayya mara daɗi ko mai guba, ɗayan membobin ma'auratan sun yi ƙoƙari don cire mafi ƙarancin rabin sa daga mafi kusancin kewaya don haka zai iya ɗaukar ta zuwa ƙasan sa. Yana da ƙari, Suna ƙoƙari su juya ma'auratan akan abokai da dangi kuma su mallaki rayuwarsu. Akwai babban son kai na son samun kulawa koyaushe daga abokin. Wannan sarrafawa wani abu ne wanda zai iya faruwa ta hanyar hankali da na halitta.
Kishi
Wani bangare wanda zai banbanta lafiyayyen soyayya da waninsa wanda ba, Tsananin kishi ne na ɗayan ɓangarorin da ke tsakanin ma'auratan. Ana haifar da kishi da gaskiyar cewa ɗayan mutanen da ke cikin dangantakar ta yi imanin cewa abokin tarayya nasa ne kuma ba zai iya cudanya da wasu mutane ba. Dole ne ma'auratan su kasance a kowane lokaci bisa dogaro ga duka biyun kuma idan wannan ya faskara yana da kyau irin wannan cuta da matsanancin kishi su fara faruwa.
Rashin girmamawa da raini
Wulakantawa da rashin girmamawa wata alama ce ta ƙauna mara lafiya. Aunar da ake ɗauka lafiya ce wacce duka mutane biyu suka amince da juna sosai. Wannan yana da mahimmanci idan girman kai ya kara karfi kuma yarda da kai yana girma a hankali. Loveaunar lafiya lafiyayye komai don ma'aurata kuma baya neman lalata burinsu da burinsu a rayuwa. Haka kuma ba kyau ga kyakkyawar makoma ta wata alaƙa don bayyana kurakurai ko kuskuren da abokin zamanka yake da su.
A takaice, halaye da ke kasancewa tsakanin lafiyayyen soyayya da wata wacce za'a iya daukarta mai guba a sarari suke. Kamar yadda muka riga muka tattauna a sama, ƙaunatacciyar soyayya tana da al'ada sosai fiye da yadda mutane zasu zata. Ba za a yarda da shi cewa a farkon dangantakar ba, soyayya ita ce manufa kuma yayin da shekaru suka wuce, shi kansa sannu a hankali yana samun wani nau'in soyayya bisa hassada da a cikin rashin girmamawa da amincewa ga masoyi.