La ukukhathazeka Kuyinto a isimo semizwa lapho umuntu ophethwe yikho ehlangabezana nemizwa yokungaqiniseki, ukukhathazeka noma ukwesaba, konke kubhekiswe njengesikhuthazo sokufeza inhloso yomuntu siqu yanoma yiluphi uhlobo. Ngokusho kwezinye izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo, singakhuluma ngamazinga amane okukhathazeka:
- Ku kuqala, umuntu usesimweni sokuqapha, unamandla okuxoxa nokusabela ukuxazulula izinkinga ezithile.
- Ku okwesibili, inkambu yokubona komuntu incane kakhulu futhi abakwazi ukubona yonke imininingwane yemvelo ebazungezile. Noma kunjalo, umuntu akalahlekelwa amandla okuphendula nokuxazulula izinkinga.
- Ku izinga lesithathu, umkhakha wokubona uncishiswe kakhulu, wehliselwa emininingwaneni eyodwa. Lapha umuntu uzama ukugxila ekutholeni ukukhululeka, akhohlwe ukuxazulula izinkinga.
- Ku Izinga lesine nelokugcina, umuntu angene ethukile. Kulesi sigaba kunokungahleleki okungokomzwelo futhi umuntu angagxila kuphela emininingwaneni engahlangene nhlobo nembangela yangempela yenkinga. Ukuphela kwento eheha ukunakwa kwakho yilokho okunikeza ukukhululeka ngokushesha.
Ngokuvamile, izimpawu zokukhathazeka zikhathaza umuntu ohlupheka kakhulu ngoba ekuqaleni abakwazi ukukuhlobanisa nesizathu noma izimbangela ezisicasulayo. Okulandelayo, sizobona ukuthi yiziphi izimpawu zayo ezijwayelekile, imiphumela yomndeni engayibangela nokuthi ingelashwa kanjani ekhaya.
Izimpawu zokukhathazeka
Iningi labantu lizwa isimo salo sokukhathazeka lapho lifinyelela emazingeni angajabulisi (ezingeni lesithathu nelesine) futhi izimpawu nezimpawu zomzimba zalesi sifo zivela ezigabeni ezithuthukile zokuthuthuka. Kunjalo izimpawu ziyahlukahluka kuye ngomuntu, kepha ezivame kakhulu yilezi:
- Ukujuluka okweqile kwezandla.
- Isicanucanu, ukuhlanza nohudo.
- Ubuhlungu bekhanda
- Ubuhlungu obuthile emzimbeni, njengasesiswini noma emuva, obudalwa izinzwa.
- Ukuzwa ukuqina noma ukubhoboza esifubeni.
- Ukukhishwa kokububula noma ukuphefumula okujulile ngezikhathi ezithile zesikhathi.
- Ukuqwasha.
- Ukwethuka okuthuthukile nokucasuka.
- Ukudangala, ikakhulukazi ngesikhathi sesigaba sasebusuku.
Uma ezimweni ezithile noma ezinkingeni uzizwa zimbalwa zalezi zimpawu, into ejwayelekile kakhulu ukuthi uhlushwa wukhathazeka. Into enhle kakhulu ukuya kudokotela womndeni wakho ukuthola izeluleko ngezinkombandlela ezithile noma ukukuqondisa kabusha kuchwepheshe ongakudla.
Imiphumela yomndeni
Ngezikhathi ezithile, ukukhathazeka kungadluliselwa kusuka komunye umuntu kuye komunye. Isibonelo: umama ofika ekhaya ethukile noma ecasukile ngenkinga ethile abe nayo emsebenzini wakhe. Akayikhulumi ngomlomo le nkinga emndenini wakhe, kepha bobabili umyeni wakhe nezingane bayabona ukuthi kukhona okwenzekayo kuye nokuthi bekungekuhle impela. Konke lokhu kunemiphumela, yize ekuqaleni singakuboni. Kungaholela ekubeni izingane zakho zingabi bikho kakhulu emakilasini ngakusasa noma umyeni wakho alale kabi ngalobo busuku.
Ngalokhu sisho ukuthi yize ukukhathazeka okunje kuthinta umuntu oyedwa kuphela, kungadluliselwa ngokungazi kwamanye amalungu omndeni.
Ungaluphatha kanjani uvalo ekhaya
Uma endlini yakho kukhona umuntu ohlushwa ukukhathazeka, noma nguwe ophethwe yikho, kubalulekile ukwamukela le mihlahlandlela esiyincomayo ngezansi:
- Zama lokho umuntu othintekile uhlaziya kahle inkinga lokho kubangela ukukhathazeka kwakho. Lolu sizo luzodingeka kumuntu othintwe ukukhathazeka ngoba ulahlekelwa okwesikhashana amandla akhe okuhlaziya isimo futhi ngenxa yalokho afune izixazululo.
- Umuntu kufanele azungezwe i- umoya ozolile nonobungane.
- Funa iseluleko sezokwelapha lapho izimpawu ziba nzima kakhulu kumuntu ngamunye. Udokotela uzokwazi ukuthola ukuthi ngabe angumkhiqizo wokukhathazeka noma ngabe aphendula ngempela ekuguqulweni kwezinto eziphilayo. Futhi, ungabeka imishanguzo esiza isiguli ukuthi siphumule futhi sigxile kubo.