Kholwa noma ungakukholwa, ngokusho kocwaningo olwenziwe e-University of St. Louis (United States), ubuchopho bethu "buhlelelwe" ukuthi buphole ekudumazekeni, ngisho nakwezomzwelo. Kuyindlela yokuzivumelanisa nabantu, okuthi ngayo, futhi ngenxa yokuqina, sikwazi ukuthuthuka kumjikelezo wethu wempilo.
Siyazi ukuthi akulula ukukholelwa. Sonke sidlule kulezi zigaba zokudumala, ukudabuka nokungakhululeki ngokomzwelo lapho kungelula neze ukugqashula isibopho nomuntu okwathi kuze kube muva nje, abeyinsika yokuphila kwethu. Manje, ukuqonda le nqubo kakhudlwana, namuhla ngo Bezzia Sikumema ukuba ucabangele lezi zici.
Ukudumazeka nokusabela kwayo ebuchosheni bethu
Izazi zezinzwa ezinjengo-Ethan Kross, zisitshela ukuthi ukudumala kufana "nokusha" ebuchosheni bethu. Kuzwakala ngaphandle kokungabaza kushaqisa kakhulu, ikakhulukazi ngoba uma sibona nge-resonance, singathola ukuthi yiziphi izindawo zobuchopho ezenziwa zasebenza, futhi ngokweqiniso, ukudumazeka kothando, okuvuselela izindawo ezithile ezizokuqinisekisa lokho "umphefumulo wami ubuhlungu".
- Ukwenza isivivinyo nokutadisha, uDkt Kross wenza izivivinyo eNyuvesi yaseMichigan ukuze hlaziya umsebenzi wobuchopho ngokusebenzisa i-magnetic resonance imaging kumavolontiya ahlukahlukene abebhekene nesikhathi esiyinkimbinkimbi somzwelo.
- Kamuva, lapho ebona izinhlaka zemithambo yegazi ezazixakeke kakhulu, wenza ezinye izivivinyo "eziphazamisayo" eqenjini labafundi baseyunivesithi abavolontiya. Futhi kwakuwuhlobo luni lokuhlolwa? Kwathelwa inkomishi yekhofi elishisayo engalweni yabo. Kwakumayelana nokuzwa ubuhlungu "bokusha."
- Njengoba kungamangalisa njengoba kubonakala sengathi izindawo ezivulekile ze-neural zazifana, okungukuthi, ukudumazeka okusebenzayo nokushisa ngokomzimba kusebenze izindawo ezimbili zobuchopho ezihambisana nobuhlungu bomzimba: i-cortex yesibili yesomososory kanye ne-posterior dorsal insula.
Lokhu kuzokhombisa, impela ukuthi ubuhlungu obungokomzwelo obudalwa ukuphoxeka, ukukhaphela noma ukuhlukana, kufanelana nesingathekiso sakudala esithi "Basiphulile izinhliziyo", "ngiphukile", noma "ngishisiwe".
Ingqondo yakho ihlelwe ngendlela yokuthi ukwazi ukuyinqoba
Siyazi ukuthi le nkulumo ingadala ukungabaza okuthile, ubuchopho bami buzohlelwa kanjani ukunqoba ukudumazeka kothando? Uma kunjalo ... kungani kungibize kakhulu ukuthi ngikwazi ukuphila ngemuva kokuthi umlingani wami engishiyile?
Yebo, ukuze siyiqonde kangcono kufanele sicabangele lobukhulu.
- Ngokusho kukadokotela wezifo zengqondo uBrian Boutwell, abantu, ngokwezakhi zofuzo, bahlelelwe ukuthi babheke umaqondana futhi bakhe ubuhlobo obuzothinta umphakathi. Ubuchopho bethu bungokomzwelo nobenhlalo, ngakho-ke sidinga ukuvula ikhasi ukuze sizivulele umhlaba futhi futhi sithole omunye umlingani. noma umane, sivumele ukuthi siphile ngokulingana futhi nomndeni noma nabangane. Ukudabuka akusona isimo saphakade, akuyona into eguquguqukayo, ewusizo noma ecebisayo ebuchosheni.
- I-correx ye-prefront yisakhiwo esibhekene nokusungula amasu, amacebo, ukufuna izinsiza ezintsha zokuphuma kulesi simo sokuvinjelwa ngokomzwelo.
- Kunezinhlaka eziningana nama-neurotransmitters "ally" komunye nomunye ukuze sinake ezinye izinto, ekuphumeni nabangane futhi, ngokuthatha uhambo olude ngenkathi ushiswa yilanga, ngaleyo ndlela kuvuselele ukuhlanganiswa kwamavithamini, okuvumela i-endorphin ukuthi ivele, leyo hormone esithokozisa ngomuzwa wenhlalakahle ...
Manje, kepha kungani kukhona abantu abathi ngemuva kokuphoxeka bawele esimweni sokuphelelwa yithemba ngisho nokucindezeleka?
Isakhi sofuzo
Isisindo sezofuzo sinquma ezimweni eziningi ukuthi kubiza thina kakhulu noma kancane ukuphuma kwinqubo ethinta ukuphoxeka. Ngisho Ukuhlala kumongo ocindezelayo nongasizi lutho kungenza imicabango yethu igxile kokubi kuphela: «Angikufanele ukuthandwa», «konke akuhambi kahle», «Ngimiselwe ukuhlupheka ...»
Umcabango ulolonga imizwa yethu, futhi imizwa isiholela ezimweni ezide kakhulu zokungabi lusizi nokudabuka.
Sonke sinamandla okuqina
Ukuqinisela yikhono lokubhekana nobunzima futhi ufunde kukho. Sonke sinesipho ngoba siyingxenye yalolu hlelo lobuchopho bethu olusivumela ukuthi siphume ebunzimeni ukuze siqhubeke nokuqhubekela phambili.
- Qonda ukuthi izinhlungu zingezesikhashana manje, ukuthi ngeke zihlale. Thatha sengathi impilo yazi ukuthi ikwamukela kanjani ukuphoxeka ukuze ufunde kubo futhi uvule ikhasi.
- Umsebenzi wethu kulokhu kuphila ukufunda, nokwakha injabulo yethu. Ukuphila ngokudabuka kulahlekelwa yingxenye yempilo yethu nokuzivalela emathubeni amasha.
- Ikuvumela ukuthi uthole usizo, ukuxhaswa ngabangani nomndeni okuzokwenza ubone ukuthi impilo isafanelekile.
- Zama ukudlula ezigabeni ngokuxolela. Siyazi ukuthi kubiza, kepha ukuthethelela kuyindlela yenkululeko neyokuqeda isibopho. Khumbula njalo ukuthi inzondo izokwenza ukuthi ubuyele nsuku zonke enkumbulweni yalowo muntu, uzoba yisithunjwa saphakade salesosithunzi esedlule.
Akufanele. Thethelela, vula ikhasi, uhambe futhi ngemibono emisha ubheke ikusasa futhi ube ngumuntu ofuna ukuba yikho ngempela. Lowo wesifazane ozibuka esibukweni futhi azizwe aziqhenya ngalokho ayikho nangakho konke okulindele esikhathini esizayo. Kuyafaneleka!