El uthando lweqiniso Akuveli ngomlingo, futhi akuhlali ngaphezu kweminyaka ngenxa yokuthandana wedwa. Yonke imibhangqwana ezinzile futhi ejabulayo iyazi ukuthi uthando lwangempela ludinga umzamo, nomsebenzi wansuku zonke lapho imininingwane ihlale ibalulekile. Kubalulekile ukuthi umsebenzi wansuku zonke wobudlelwano wenziwe ngamalungu womabili, okwamanje lapho oyedwa kulaba bobabili enikeza konke ngaphandle kokuthola lutho, ibhalansi ilahlekelwa ukulingana kwayo futhi nobudlelwano balahlekelwa ngamandla. Yeka impilo.
Singasho ukuthi ezikhathini eziningi umgomo we "uthando lwezothando" Iphakela ngokungafanele umqondo wothando lweqiniso. Abantu abayiwo uhhafu wengxenye yewolintshi abafuna umuntu ozosisiza. Singabantu abaphelele abanethemba lokuthola omunye umuntu ophelele, ovuthiwe futhi onokwethenjelwa, esingabelana naye impilo. Futhi leyo phrojekthi idinga umzamo wansuku zonke lapho kucatshangelwa imininingwane emincane.
Kepha… Ingabe lukhona uthando lweqiniso?
Kungenzeka ukuthi lapho kufundwa isihloko sale ndatshana ngaphezulu kweyodwa kudonse ukumamatheka kokungabaza ebusweni bakhe. Uthando lweqiniso lukhona, ngalokho kunokungabaza. Manje, akekho ozoqinisekisa ukuthi lobu budlelwane bungunaphakade, ukuthi injabulo ihlala njalo ngaso sonke isikhathi noma ukuthi asinamandla okuzivikela kuyo ukudumazeka nalowo mlingani okhethiwe.
Othandweni akukho okuqinisekile, kepha into ebalulekile ukukuphila nsuku zonke ngamandla amakhulu, ngokugcwala okuphelele, wazi ukuthi umzamo oqhubekayo sobabili. Uthando lweqiniso akusilo uthando lwezithandani, luthando oluvuthiwe oluhlanganisa ukuzibophezela, olwaziyo ukufinyelelisa ezivumelwaneni futhi, lokho-ke, kubheka lezi zici esizozichaza manje kuwe.
1. Uthando lweqiniso lusekelwe othandweni olwaziyo
Ukukhuluma ngothando oluqondayo akusho ukukhuluma ngengokomoya, kepha ngobudlelwano bokusebenza kwengqondo, kwalobo budlelwano obuvuthiwe obungadingi, obungathumeli futhi obuhlonipha izikhala, nakho okuthandela ukukhula komuntu uqobo. Ngakho-ke kubalulekile ukuthi uwagcine la maphuzu engqondweni ukuze ufunde ukuthuthukisa uthando olwaziyo:
- Ukunikela ngothando oluqotho kulo mbhangqwana, kufanele siqale sazi ukuthi singazithanda kanjani.
- Abantu abavuthiwe futhi "abazi" abafuni umlingani ofanele, bazama ukuzenza uhlobo lomuntu abamfunayo kwasekuqaleni.
- Abantu abanamandla ngokomzwelo abesabi isizungu. Ukungabi nophathina ngokwesibonelo akuyona into ehlukumezayo, futhi uma bekwenza, bahlala ubudlelwane ngokuphelele futhi obukhulu.
- Abalahlekelwa yinkohliso nobumsulwa babo ngokuthanda ngobuqotho nangokuvuleleka. Bayazi ukunikeza uthando, futhi, futhi, bayazi ukuthi nabo ngokwabo bafanelwe ukuthandwa.
2. Uthando lweqiniso yilokho olusenza sikhule njengabantu nanjengabantu abashadile
Abantu kufanele bavame ukubhekana nezinhlaka ezimbili zobudlelwano bomuntu siqu, ngakolunye uhlangothi kunendiza ngazinye, lapho kungafanele siziyeke khona ukuzihlonipha, izindinganiso zethu, ukukhula kwethu siqu. Bese kuthi, kube naleyo ndawo ejwayelekile lapho sakha khona impilo njengezithandani bese kuthi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi siqhubekele phambili sibe "munye".
Emibhangqwaneni eminingi kunzima ukuhlukanisa i- "Mina" kusuka "thina", futhi ngandlela thile kuyinto ebalulekile ekusimeni nasenhlalakahleni yethu engokomzwelo:
- Uthando lweqiniso yilolo oluthemba umlingani walo futhi lumvumele ukuthi alondoloze izikhala zakhe, izinto azithandayo, ubungani bakhe kanye nomsebenzi wakhe. Qonda ukuthi konke lokhu kuyingxenye yakho ukukhula komuntu.
- Una umuntu onelisekile Kusuka emsebenzini wakhe nakuye uqobo, ungumuntu ojabule kakhulu futhi onezinsizakusebenza zangaphakathi eziningi, ukuze yena, anikeze injabulo enkulu futhi ephelele kakhulu kumlingani wakhe. «Uma ngijabule ngingakujabulisa», «Uma ngingajabule ngizokulethela usizi kuphela.
3. Ukubaluleka kwezinto ezincane
Kuyaye kuthiwe thina bantu besifazane yibona ababeka inani eliphakeme kakhulu emininingwaneni emincane yosuku. Kwesinye isikhathi inkinga enkulu ilele kulezi zici:
- Akufanele nanini sithathe izinto kalula. Uthando aluyona into ehlala njalo njengalowo mdwebo esiwulenga odongeni ngesipikili nokuthi siwubuka ngentokozo, sicabanga ukuthi uyohlala njalo uhle njalo. Ubudlelwano obuthintekayo bubuthakathaka kakhulu kunalokho esicabanga ngakho, futhi buxhomeke kakhulu osukwini nosuku, ukuphoxeka okuncane okungaqoqeka, ukudumazeka, inqubo eyingozi njalo, igama ngesikhathi esingalungile, noma igama elingaveli lapho kufanele ...
- Kubalulekile ukuthi singalokothi sibheke ubudlelwano bethu njengokuthile okuqinile nokuqina njengensika. Sebenza ubuhlobo bakho njengosuku lokuqala futhi ukhathazeke ngezinto ezincane kakhulu. Yilapho kuhlala khona uthando lweqiniso. Kulokho kubheka uzungu esidlweni sakusihlwa, lapho uvalelisa ngokuthi ngiyakuthanda, ngokumangala okungalindelekile, ngokubona lezo zenzo zomzimba, ekugoqeni kwalezo zingubo, kulolo kumamatheka okuqukethe ukukhathazeka.
Ukuphetha, khumbula ukuthi uthando lweqiniso akuyona into engaqhamuki ndawo, cabanga ukuthi ubudlelwano obude kakhulu kuye kwadingeka bulwe ezivunguvungwini ezinzima kakhulu, lapho ukuxhumana kubalulekile, lapho uthando luyinsika, nalapho imininingwane yabancane, yilezo amahange ansuku zonke ukulungisa ubuhlobo bethu. Kuyafaneleka ukuzama, kufanele ungakhohlwa ukuthi izinto ezincane yilokho okwakhayo amaphrojekthi amakhulu.