Ubudlelwano bombhangqwana ngamunye buyizwe elinokwehluka nokufana kwalo. Kunezithandani eziya ziqina ngokuhamba kweminyaka kanti ezinye ziyama zingakwazi ukuqhubekela phambili. Phakathi kwezixhumanisi ezihlukene ezingadalwa, kukhona eyodwa evamile, njengoba kunjalo ngothando lokuxhumana.
Kuwuhlobo lothando olwenzeka kulobo budlelwano obunqoba kalula ukuhamba kwesikhathi futhi lapho ubungane bubaluleke kakhulu. Esihlokweni esilandelayo sizokhuluma okwengeziwe ngothando olunobungane nezici zalo.
Ithiyori kanxantathu kaSternberg yothando
Lo mbono ubonisa ukuthi ukuze kube khona uthando kumbhangqwana, izici ezintathu eziyisisekelo kufanele zibe khona. Ukuhlanganiswa kwalezi zakhi kubangela izinhlobo zezixhumanisi kumbhangqwana. Izinto ezintathu ezingeke zishode othandweni yilezi ezilandelayo:
- Inkanuko isho isifiso socansi kanye nesici sothando umuntu anaso ngomunye umuntu. Inkanuko ijwayelekile ekuqaleni kwanoma yibuphi ubuhlobo.
- Ukusondelana kubhekisela kumakhemikhali asungulwa phakathi kwabantu bobabili. Le chemistry iyakhula sibonga ukwethembana nokuhloniphana okwenzeka ngokufanayo kubashadikazi.
- Ukuzinikela kuyisinqumo sokwelula isibopho esidaliwe kanye chitha ukuphila kwakho konke nombhangqwana. Ikholelwa kuphrojekthi efanayo nasekufezeni izinjongo ezihlukahlukene ngokuhlanganyela.
Uthando lokuxhumana phakathi kwabashadile
Njengoba sibonile ngenhla, uthando luyisici esiyinhloko ekuqaleni kwanoma yibuphi ubuhlobo. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ubudlelwano buyadamba. ukuba khona kolunye uchungechunge lwamanani abaluleke ngokulinganayo njengokuthembana noma ukubamba iqhaza. Umdlandla uthatha indawo kulokho okwaziwa njengothando lomphakathi. Lolu hlobo lothando luvela ngenxa yokuhlanganiswa kwezinto ezimbili ezibalulekile ukuze umbhangqwana uhlale: ukusondelana nokuzibophezela.
Uthando lokuxhumana luzwa umbhangqwana njengobudlelwane babangane abahle. Kukhona ukuhlangana okukhulu phakathi kwabantu bobabili futhi babelana ngayo yonke into, kusukela ezinzuzweni kuya ekuhlulekeni. Isikhathi senza ukuxhumana okuphelele phakathi kombhangqwana, into enomthelela omuhle esibophweni esidaliwe. Bangabahambi abanomgomo ofanayo ekuphileni.
Ukungabi bikho kogqozi kwabashadile
Kunemibhangqwana eminingi namuhla ekhipha inkanuko futhi ijabule ngendlela efanayo. Nokho, kweminye imibhangqwana, ukuntula intshiseko ngokuvamile kudala ukungajabuli nokukhungatheka okukhulu. Kuyiqiniso ukuthi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi uthando luvame ukuphelelwa amandla, nakuba kungenjalo ngenxa yaleso sizathu kudingekile ukuphika. Amaqembu angafaka umzamo othile kukho futhi abuyele ekubeni nothando oluthile ebudlelwaneni obalulwe ngenhla. Endabeni yokwabelana ngothando lokuxhumana nomlingani wakho, ungaya kochwepheshe abathile njengezazi zezocansi, ukuze uthando olulahlekile luphinde lube khona ebuhlotsheni.
Ngamafuphi, uthando lokuhlalisana luhlobo lothando olwenzeka kumbhangqwana phakathi neminyaka. Lolu hlobo lothando lubonakala ngokuthi lusekelwe ezintweni ezimbili ezibaluleke kakhulu zobudlelwane, njengokusondelana nokuzibophezela. Othandweni lokuhlalisana, injabulo phakathi kwabo bobabili izinhlangothi ibonakala naphezu kokuntuleka kothando kumbhangqwana ngokwawo.