Umehluko kuzitayela zokuxhumana ungathinta nobudlelwano obunempilo kwesinye isikhathi ... Umuntu ngamunye unesitayela sakhe sokuxhumana, esithonywa yizici ezahlukahlukene ezihlobene nemfundo yakhe nemvelo. Lezi zitayela zilolonga indlela esizisingatha ngayo izingxabano, futhi lapho singakuqondi lokhu, ukungezwani kuyanda.
Ukunqoba izingxabano nomlingani wakho, kubalulekile ukuqonda izitayela ezahlukene zokuxhumana nokuthi kungani abathandekayo bethu bezisebenzisa. Ungathola nezeluleko eziwusizo ngokuqonda nje ukuthi kungani umlingani wakho exhumana futhi ebhekana nawe ngezindlela ezithile. Ungaphuthelwa yilezi zitayela zokuxhumana nokuthi ungazithuthukisa kanjani.
I-Passive
Ukulalela izifiso nezidingo zomlingani wakho ngenkathi ezabo zihlala zingeneliseki, abantu abangenzi lutho ngabantu abathokozela ubuhle. Inhloso enkulu yomuntu onendlela yokuxhumana engenzi lutho ukugwema izingxabano. Ngokuvumela abanye ukuthi bathathe isinyathelo, bazothi "abanendaba nokuthi kwenzekani" noma "bazohamba nokugeleza" ukugwema inkathazo. Uma uvumela umlingani wakho ukuthi aveze intukuthelo futhi avulekele ekuqinisekiseni, Lokhu kuzosiza umlingani wakho ongenzi lutho athole ukuzethemba nokukhula kwesipiliyoni.
Ulaka
Lapho abakhulumisana abanolaka bethukuthela, wonke umuntu uyazi. Basebenzisa amagama aqinile futhi anamandla futhi bangabonakala begxeka futhi benokhahlo. Abantu abanolaka balwela ukwamukela umthwalo wezenzo zabo. Ngoba bavame ukusola abanye, Izingxabano nalezi zithandani zingaba nzima futhi zingakwazi ukuxazululwa.
Uma uphola umuntu okhulumisana nolaka, udinga ukumkhuthaza ukuthi alalele ngaphezu kokukhuluma. Bafundise ukuthi bagweme ukuziphatha ngobuxhwanguxhwangu futhi benze imodeli yomzimba ezolile nenenhlonipho lapho kuqala izimpi. Uma kungekho okunye okusebenzayo futhi uzizwa njengalokhu okunye okubalulekile kungenalo uzwela, Ukwelashwa kungaba umbono omuhle wokuxazulula izinkinga.
Ulaka lokwenziwa
Abalingani abathandanayo abanolaka bangabhebhethekisa kakhulu kunabo bonke, ngoba bayisikhwama esixubekile. Njengabantu abangenzi lutho, bagwema izingxabano eziqondile. Kodwa-ke, ngaphakathi kuyabahlupha ukuthi izidingo zabo azifezekiswa. Lokhu kungagculiseki kuvela ngokungaqondile nemibhangqwana, imvamisa kuba ngamehlo agingqikayo, ukububula, nokungamnaki omunye umuntu.
Imibhangqwana enobudlova iyazi ukuthi ifuna ini, kepha ayinazo amathuluzi okuveza lezi zidingo ngendlela enempilo. Vumela umlingani wakho onolaka ukuba abhekane nezenzo zabo. Ungadlali ngokulandisa bese uphokophela ukuxhumana okucacile nokuzethembayo. Khombisa ukukhulumisana okunempilo futhi umkhuthaze ukuba enze okufanayo.
Ukwakha indawo ephephile yezingxabano kubalulekile kunoma yibuphi ubuhlobo. Ekugcineni, kufanele sethembeke kithina nakumaqondana ukuqinisekisa ukuthi sixhumana kahle. Uma ubona iphethini engakhi noma enobuthi kwisitayela sakho sokuxhumana noma somlingani wakho, ungethuki. Impela kungenzeka ushintshele kokungcono ... isinyathelo sokuqala ukubona ukuthi kwenzekani.