Ngeshwa, ukuxhashazwa yisihlava esikhona ezikoleni eziningi nokuthi abazali abaningi kufanele baqaphe ukuze bazi ukuthi izingane zabo ziyahlupheka noma cha ... noma zikubangele noma cha. Abazali bezisulu kanye nabahlukumezi ngokufanayo kufanele bazi ukuthi ukuhlukumeza akuyona eyabantwana. Kungumsebenzi womphakathi wonke ukulungisa le nkinga yezenhlalo ngezinga elikhulu.
Ngamanye amagama, uma izisulu zitshelwa ngokuziphindisela ziphakamisa ukuthi ingane yakho isabise umhlukumezi futhi lesi akusona iseluleko esihle. Leli thiphu lingafaka noma yini kusuka ekuhlaziseni esidlangalaleni umlandeli we-intanethi ukusabalalisa amahemuhemu. Abanye bangathumela ngisho nasezinkundleni zokuxhumana noma umngani wabo asabise noma asabise lo msolwa oku-intanethi. Ngenkathi lawa macebiso angavimba isiqhwaga ukuthi sikhombe ingane yakho, siphinde sizenze isiqhwaga ... Kufanele uzibuze ukuthi ufuna ngempela yini ingane yakho ukwehlisa amazinga ayo aye ezingeni lomhlaseli.
Esikhundleni sokukhuthaza ingane yakho ukuthi ibe yisiqhwaga, yisize ifunde ukuthi ingalwa kanjani nokuhlukunyezwa ngendlela enempilo. Izingane zivame ukuthatha isipiliyoni sabo sokuxhashazwa zikwenze into enhle. Isibonelo, ezinye izingane zizoqala iqembu lokusekela ezinye izingane ezixhashazwayo. Hhawu, bebengahola umkhankaso wokuvimbela ubuxhwanguxhwangu esikoleni.
Isibonelo sokusebenzisa ngokunenzuzo izikhathi ezimbi ...
Isibonelo somfundi owenza lokho nje nguCainlin Haacke, owadala i-'Positive Post-It Day 'esikoleni sakhe. Ngemuva kokuhlukunyezwa nokuxhashazwa ontanga yakhe, esikhundleni sokuzigingqa kobuhlungu abuzwayo, waya esikoleni futhi beka amanothi eposi owabhalile ngamazwana akhayo futhi akhuthazayo ekhabethe lawo wonke umuntu.
Kulesi senzo esisodwa, kwazalwa inhlangano yonke. Okubaluleke kakhulu, kwamvumela ukuthi athole injongo ekuhlukumezeni abhekana nakho. Wayengasekho isisulu, kodwa wayesebenzisa lokho abhekana nakho ukusiza abanye abantu.
Qaphela ukuyikhuluma ubuso nobuso
Ezinye izikole zisacabanga ukuthi kuwumqondo omuhle ukufaka isiqhwaga kanye nesisulu egumbini elilodwa. Kepha ukulamula akukaze kusebenze ngenxa yokungalingani kwamandla okukhona phakathi kwalokhu okubili. Enye yezinto ezintathu eziyinhloko zokuhlukumeza ukuthi umenzi wobubi unamandla angaphezu kwelitshe. Ukuzama ukulamula noma ukhulume kuzoshiya isisulu sihlukumezeka kakhulu.
Izikhathi eziningi, izisulu zokuxhashazwa zesaba kakhulu ukuthi zingakhuluma ngokwenzekayo ngempela. Ngokwengeziwe, iziqhwaga zisebenzisa ukwesatshiswa ngesikhathi sokulamula ukuthulisa isisulu. Ukuthola iqiniso lokuthi kwenzekeni ngeke kuvele kulezi zimo futhi kugwenywe kangcono. Uma isikole sengane yakho sifuna lo muthi, ungavumeli ingane yakho ukuthi ibambe iqhaza.
Kungcono ukuphakamisa ukuthi kukhulunywe ngokuhlukile nesisulu, umlandeli, kanye nababukele. Ngakho-ke wena. INdodana izokwazi ukukuchaza kahle okwenzekile ngaphandle kokwesaba. Futhi, qiniseka ukuthatha izinyathelo zokuvikela ubumfihlo nokuphepha kwengane yakho. Ukwesaba ukuphindisela kungokoqobo.
Endabeni yami ngahlushwa ukuhlukunyezwa, umama waqala ukufunda ikarati isikhashana futhi ngangilokhu ngibekezelela ukuhlukunyezwa ngaze ngaba nezinga elihle lekarati futhi ngahlukanisa ubuso besiqhwaga sami kusukela lapho ngiyazihlonipha nokuhlukumeza okungatheni, futhi Ngaqala ukwesaba. Isifundo kwesinye isikhathi kuyadingeka ukusebenzisa amandla ukwehlisa umoya.