Musa ukulandela umuntu ongakufanele. Ungachithi imizamo, isikhathi nemizwa kulabo abangakuthandi. Kwesinye isikhathi empilweni kuyakhokhela ukuzidedela uhambe uzivumele utholakale, utholakale njengoba unjalo kubo bonke ubukhulu bakho nokubaluleka kwakho.
Kukhona labo abathi bayathandwa ngaphandle kokuqala baqonde ukuthi ukuze babongwe, kuyadingeka ukwazi ukuthi kufanele bathande kanjani. Ubudlelwano obunomthelela kwesinye isikhathi budinga imihlahlandlela eyisisekelo kanye nezimiso ezisisebenzelayo ukusivikela. Ukusivumela ukuthi sikhule ngaphakathi sikuqonde lokho Uma kunokuthile okungafanele sikhohlwe yikho, kungukuzithanda. Reflexionemos sobre ello en «Bezzia»
Ungagijimeli umuntu ongasafuni ukuba eceleni kwakho
Impela nawe usebenzise isikhathi empilweni yakho lapho ubugxile kuyo yonke imicabango yakho kumuntu oyedwa. Ekwenzeni bakubone, ekuyengweni, ekuthatheni ukunakwa komuntu okukhanga. Kujwayelekile futhi kuwela ngaphansi kwezikimu ezijwayelekile zokukhohlisa.
Kulungile manje kunezikhathi lapho kufanele futhi "ukuzidedela." Kunabantu abaningi abachitha isikhathi sabo esiningi nokuzethemba kwabo bephupha ngento engeke yaba futhi engasoze yaba khona. Okwamanje lapho sazi ukuthi umuntu akanandaba nathi ngokombono wokuthinta, into enempilo kakhulu ukukucabanga, futhi uyeke.
Eqinisweni, kuyadingeka futhi ukubheka lo mbono kulokho izimo lapho kugcinwa khona nobudlelwano, siyabona ukuthi izinto azisasebenzi. Ukuthi sichitha isikhathi nokuzethemba kwethu.
- Ungalandeli abantu asebevele bazi ukuthi ukuphi. Akusizi ukubuza ukunakwa lapho kungasekho uthando oluqotho, noma ukufuna uthando lapho lungasekho. Kuyindlela yokuzibhubhisa.
- Uma umuntu omkhangayo engakuniki nezimpendulo ezinhle, yeka "ukubalandela." Kumele ulipholise lelo nxeba, lokho kudumazeka. Noma kunjalo, u- "cha" ngesikhathi ungcono kunokuphila okungaqinisekile.
Bavumele bakuthole, bakuthole
Ngomqondo wokuthi "sibavumele basithole" asivikeli noma yini ephathelene nomthetho wokuheha. Akuyona neze indaba ukulinda izinto zivele zodwa uma sizifuna. Empeleni, konke kunencazelo elula.
Ukuze utholakale, kufanele uqale uzithole
Okuthile okulula kangako kuyisici esingafinyelelwanga wonke umuntu okwamanje. Ngakho-ke, kuyadingeka ukuthi siqonde kuqala ukuthi ngaphambi kokufisa ukuthola umlingani ofanele, kufanele siqale sibe yilowo muntu ofanelwe ukutholakala.
- Yazi ukulinganiselwa kwakho, uthuthukise ubuhle bakho.
- Zemukele njengoba unjalo, uhlakulela ukuzethemba nokuzithanda.
- Zijabulise ukuba wedwa. Abantu abesaba ukuba wedwa cishe njalo bafuna ubudlelwano obuxhomekile, yingakho kunesidingo sokuzenzela okuhle wena, ucabanga ukuthi awudingi umaqondana ukuze ujabule.
- Uyajabula ngalokho onakho nalokho oyikho, futhi uma kuvela umuntu empilweni yakho ofanele amakhona akho, amanani kanye namaphrojekthi, wamukelekile. Kodwa-ke, ukuthola umlingani akufanele kube yisidingo esibalulekile. Into yokuqala ukuthola ukulinganisela kwethu.
Vula ingqondo yakho uvikele inhliziyo yakho
Ukuze ubavumele bakuthole, usuvele usigcwalisile leso sinyathelo sokuqala: leso sokwazi kwangaphakathi nokuzithanda. Isinyathelo sesibili sidinga nobukhulu obubalulekile.
- Shiya emuva ukwehluleka izolo. Ungabheki abantu ngokucasuka ucabange ukuthi bazokulimaza, nokuthi bazokukhaphela. Awusona ukwehluleka kwakho, ungumuntu onesibindi ofunde kukho konke okuphilayo futhi obuka umkhathizwe ngethemba.
- Vula ingqondo yakho kule mibono, kodwa ngasikhathi sinye, vikela inhliziyo yakho. Ungayiniki umuntu ngakho konke ubukhulu bakho, ngaphandle kwemingcele nangaphandle kokulawula. Gcina "ucezu" oluhle kuwe futhi ungalokothi ulahlekelwe ukulawula. Unganikeli konke mahhala noma ubeke phambili izidingo zomunye umuntu kunezakho.
Ukuvumela bakuthole kungaba yisiqalo sendaba enhle
Ukubavumela ukuthi bakuthole kucabanga ukuthi umuntu othile uzokubona njengoba unjalo, ngaphandle kokwenza kahle. Bayakuthola kubo bonke ubukhulu bakho futhi bakuthola ngaphandle kokuthi ufakazele izinto ongeyona. Kungumhlangano oqotho, ojwayelekile futhi oqondile.
- Akukho okuphoqiwe, akekho olindele noma yini ngaphandle kokuphupha konke. Yilezo zinhlobo zobudlelwano lapho kokubili umlingo wethuba nokuhlangana kwabantu ababili abavuthiwe abakwaziyo abakufunayo kumele kuhlanganiswe ndawonye.
- Ukuvumela bakuthole kusho ukuqala uthando oluvuthiwe nolwaziwayo, lapho sibeka khona eceleni amalebula, ubuciko, nezindaba zethu zangaphambilini. Okuthile okulula njengokuyeka ukudlula kwethu, ukwesaba, ukungavikeleki kanye nokushiyeka okuvumela ukuthi sihlale lapha futhi manje ngokuzethemba okuphelele, kuzosisiza kakhulu.
Izindaba ezimnandi zingenzeka ngengozi, kepha ungakhohlwa ukuthi ukuzigcina, sidinga ukuhlakulela ukwethembana, inhlonipho, uthando, ukuxhumana nsuku zonke, nokuthi ukubuyisana okwakhiwe kuleyo mininingwane emincane eyakha izimpilo ngokuphelele.