Kuthiwa ngubani onomngani, onengcebo. Kepha lokhu akwenzeki ngaso sonke isikhathi, ngoba obunye ubungani bungaphenduka buhluke futhi buqale ukudala imizwa emibi nezinkinga okungafanele zivele uma bekungubungani obuhle. Sibhekisa kugama asebevele beqambe igama lalo njengo 'ubungane obunobuthi'.
Ubungani obunobuthi bungakwenza kubonakala ngezindlela ezahlukahlukene futhi nathi sikwazi ukuba yingozi kulo mqondo kwabanye abantu. Ukubazi nokubona izimo lapho silimaza khona abanye abantu ngokuziphatha kwethu kuyinto edingeka kakhulu ukuze sikwazi ukujabulela ubungani obuhle, okuthile okudingeka ngempela enjabulweni yethu.
Izinkinga zakho zihlala zibaluleke kakhulu
Kulobu bungani akukho ngempela ukuphindisela. Laba bantu banobugovu ngakho-ke bahlala bekhuluma ngezinkinga zabo amahora, behlula wonke umuntu futhi belingisa konke, kepha uma kukhulunywa ngokulalela nokusiza abanye abalaleli futhi bayishintshe indaba ngokushesha. Bazosebenzisa imishwana ejwayelekile ukusika isihloko esithi 'dlula kuso' noma 'kuzodlula' noma 'bajabule' bese bedlulela esihlokweni esilandelayo, esivame ukuhlangana nabo. Kulobu bungani asizizwa siphindiselana, kuphela yibo abaphikisi futhi basisebenzisa ukusitshela ngezinkinga zabo nokukhungatheka kwabo.
Azikho lapho kudingeka
Uma sibadinga kunoma yikuphi, noma ukusiyisa kwenye indawo ngoba asinayo imoto noma ukusisekela ngoba sishiye umlingani wethu, bayohlala benokuthile okungcono abangakwenza. Bangobungane obuthakathaka, obususelwa kuphela ezikhathini ezimnandi futhi ukuze bathole okuthile kithi. Kungakho lapho kudingeka lapho bengabaleka noma bamane bangaphenduli, ngoba leyo akuyona into ebazuzisa nganoma iyiphi indlela.
Abajabuli ngempumelelo yakho
La umona nobugovu ayinandawo ebunganeni obuhle. Uma umngane enza kahle, khona-ke sonke siyajabula. Abangane abanobuthi abajabuli ngoba akubona babo futhi bahlala befuna ukuba yibo abanezinto ezihamba phambili. Kwesinye isikhathi kunabangani abasondela kwabanye abantu ngenhloso yokuphakamisa ukuzethemba kwabo, ngakho-ke abathandi ukubona laba bantu bethuthuka, ngoba kubenza bazizwe bengaphumeleli kangako futhi bengazethembi ngokwengeziwe. Ngakho-ke izizathu zabo zobungani zinobugovu futhi azikho qotho.
Awukwazi ukubethemba
Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi usuyekile ukumtshela izinto laba bantu ngoba abanakwethenjwa. Kuphakathi kokuthi batshele izimfihlo zakho kubantu besithathu noma bavele bakugxeka phambi kwabanye abantu ngezinto obatshele zona futhi ezibalulekile kuwe. Uma ungeke ubethembe abangane bakho ngakho-ke ababona abangane abanjalo.
Bakhuluma nawe kuphela lapho bedinga okuthile
Lokhu kuyingxenye yalabo bungane obuhamba phakathi inzalo emsulwa nobugovu. Bakhuluma nawe kuphela lapho bedinga okuthile kuwe, kungaba ngumusa noma ukwesekwa ngokwengqondo. Uma umuntu eqhamuka kuphela lapho ezizwa kabi futhi efuna ukukutshela ngezinkinga zakhe noma lapho akudinga khona ngoba engenaye omunye umuntu angaya naye ephathini, kungcono ubaleke, ngoba abusoze baba ubungani beqiniso futhi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi uzobe uchitha isikhathi nomzamo.
Abakwamukeli njengoba unjalo futhi abakusekeli
Lobu bungani bungafinyelela ngifuna ukushintsha izinto ngawe noma ukukugxeka kanzima ngokuziphatha kwakho. Siyazi ukuthi abangane abahle basho izinto ebusweni bakho, kepha laba ngabantu abangaxhumani ngempela nawe futhi kunezinto ngawe abangazithandi yingakho bezama ukukuguqula.
Zikwenza uzizwe njengenguqulo yakho engaqinile kangako
Lobu bungani zilulaza isimilo sakho, zibucayi futhi ezikhathini eziningi zifuna ukukhanya ngezindleko zakho. Uma ukunye nalaba bantu awukwazi ukuba nguwe futhi awuzwa ukuthi uwuhlobo lwakho oluhle kakhulu, uzethembile, unamandla futhi ujabule. Uma uhlala uzizwa umubi kakhulu eduze kwalaba bantu, sekuyisikhathi sokuthi ushintshe inkambo yakho ubayeke bahambe.