Nakuba kungase kubonakale kuyinqaba, Umuzwa wokucasuka uvame ukutholakala emibhangqwaneni eminingi. Kuyinto engokwemvelo evame ukuvela lapho kuliwa nomunye umuntu. Uma lokhu kwenzeka, kubalulekile ukukwazi ukukuxazulula, ngoba uma kungenjalo kungadala inkinga enkulu ngekusasa elihle lombhangqwana.
Esihlokweni esilandelayo sizokhuluma ngokuthi kungani ukucasuka kuvela othandweni kanye okumele ukwenze ukuze ukwazi ukuqeda.
Ukucasuka kwabashadile
Lolu hlobo lomuzwa ngokuvamile luvela ngemva kokuzwa ubuhlungu ngozakwethu. Ukuze into ingahambi kakhulu, ukucasuka kufanele kube okwesikhashana futhi kunyamalale ngesikhathi esifushane. Bese sikubonisa ukuthi yiziphi izimo lapho ngokuvamile kuvela khona ukucasukela umuntu oyingxenye yobudlelwano:
- Engazi ukuthi angakuveza kanjani lokho umuntu akuzwayo kumlingani, kungaholela ekucasukeleni okuthile kothandekayo ukuthi avele obala.
- Ukuba khona kokuhlukunyezwa ngokomzimba noma ngokwengqondo nguzakwethu, kubangela ukucasuka okunamandla ngakuyo.
- Ukuntula ukuzethemba okubangelwa ukungathembeki okuthile Kungaholela ekucasukeleni okukhulu komunye umuntu.
Izimpawu zokuthi kukhona ukucasuka kumlingani
Uphawu olucacile olungabonisa ukuthi kukhona ukucasuka okuthile kwabashadile, Kubangelwa ukungakwazi ukuxolela into ebibuhlungu ngempela. Umonakalo otholiwe mkhulu futhi ubalulekile kangangokuthi noma yisiphi isenzo noma isenzo somunye umuntu singase sicasule kakhulu. Okunye okukhomba ukuthi kukhona ukucasuka okukhulu kwabashadikazi, kungenxa yokuthi ukuthenjwa okukhulu sekuphelile.
Ungakunqoba kanjani ukucasukela umlingani wakho
Uma ukucasuka kukhula futhi kunganqotshwa, kungakuhle ukuthi uhambe ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka kuchwepheshe owazi ukuxazulula inkinga enjalo. Mayelana neseluleko, kubalulekile ukucabangela lokhu okulandelayo:
- Ukuxhumana nenkhulumomphendvulwano kuyisihluthulelo kunoma yiluphi uhlobo lobudlelwano. Abantu bayaqonda ngokukhuluma futhi kungenzeka ukuxazulula le nkinga. Kuhle ukuhlala ndawonye nophathina futhi uvume ukucasuka onakho ngaye.
- Uma amagqubu ekhona, kubalulekile ukwenza izinqumo ezizosiza ukuqeda inkinga. Uma kungekho okwenziwayo, Kungenzeka ukuthi kancane kancane inkinga izogxila futhi ingase iqede ubuhlobo.
- Ukufuna usizo komunye umuntu kungaba ukhiye ekuyekeni ukucasuka futhi ujabulele ngokugcwele umbhangqwana. Sibonga uchwepheshe omuhle, ukwethembana nokuvikeleka kungasetshenzwa ebuhlotsheni futhi kukwenze kuqhubeke ngaphandle kwenkinga.
Ngamafuphi, ukuzwa ukucasukela uzakwenu kungaba kuhle ukusebenza ngokuthembana ebudlelwaneni futhi ukwenze kuqine kakhulu. Uma ukucasuka kungaxazululeki, kungenzeka kakhulu ukuthi kungaholela ekupheleni kobudlelwane.