Akungabazeki ukuthi uthando luwumuzwa oyingqayizivele nomangalisayo. Ukuyijabulela ngokugcwele, kubalulekile ukusungula uchungechunge lwemingcele futhi ungathathwa nganoma yisiphi isikhathi ngothando.
Ukubukeka kokuthatheka kuyingozi ngoba bungaqeda ubudlelwano uqobo. Ungakhohlwa ukuthi umugqa ohlukanisa uthando nokuthatheka cishe awukho, yingakho ingozi yekusasa elihle lobudlelwano. Esihlokweni esilandelayo sikhuluma ngomehluko phakathi kothando nokuthatheka.
uthando nokuthatheka
- I-Obsession yinto edlula lokho okubhekwa njengothando. Lokhu kuziphatha kuyingozi ngempela kunoma ibuphi ubuhlobo, kubangela ukungathembani okungase kuqede.
- Ukuthatheka kuphazamisa ubuhlobo ngendlela yokuthi kwenza indawo ezungezile ingabekezeleleki. Omunye wamaqembu usebenzisa ukulawula okuphelele empilweni yombhangqwana futhi lokhu kuyinto engeke futhi akufanele ibekezelelwe. Konke kuzungeza umbhangqwana nakho konke okunye kuya ngemuva.
- Ezimweni eziningi, ukuthatheka kubangelwa ukuntula ukuzethemba okuphawulekayo. Ingxenye obsessive uhlushwa isikhala esikhulu ekuphileni kwakhe futhi uyamgcwalisa ngenxa yokulawula akwenzayo kumlingani wakhe.
- Uthando kumbhangqwana lubaluleke kakhulu njengoba lunikeza inkululeko nenhlonipho, into egqamayo ngokungabi bikho kokuthatheka. Umbhangqwana kumelwe ufune inhlalakahle ethile nokuzibophezela futhi uqhelelene nokuziphatha okucindezelayo ngangokunokwenzeka.
Ukubaluleka kokubeka imingcele ekuthatheni izinto ngokweqile
- Uma sekufika ekuqedeni ukuziphatha ngendlela exakile kubalulekile ukuthi ingxenye ephethwe yikho ikubone. Isinyathelo sesibili ukukhulula amaketango futhi uvumele umbhangqwana uzizwe ukhululekile futhi ngaphandle kwanoma yiluphi uhlobo lokulawula.
- Into elandelayo yokunqoba ukuthatheka okunjalo ukukwazi ukudiliza lolo donga futhi ukuze ukwazi ukujabulela ngokugcwele nomlingani wakho. Kubalulekile ukwazi ukuthi ukuthatha kanjani umthwalo wemfanelo wamaqiniso kanye nendlela yokulawula imizwa eyahlukene ukuze ukuziphatha okunjalo kungenzeki futhi ebudlelwaneni.
- Uzwela lungesinye isici okufanele sicatshangelwe lapho ubeka imingcele ekuziphatheni ngokweqile. Ukuzibeka ezicathulweni zabashadikazi kusiza ukuqonda uthando ngendlela enempilo futhi ugweme ukuba nesimo sengqondo sokulawula esingase sibhidlize isibopho esakhiwe.
- Ukuntula ukuzethemba kanye nokuzethemba ngokuvamile kuholela ekuziphatheni okunjalo okungenangqondo kumlingani. Awukwazi ukuvumela ukungavikeleki okuthile nokungabaza uma kuziwa ebudlelwaneni nomunye umuntu. Ukwethemba nokuvikeleka kubalulekile uma kuziwa ekujabuleleni othandekayo ngendlela egcwele nenempilo.
- Uma umuntu engakwazi ukushiya ngemuva kokuthatheka kwakhe ngophathina wakhe, kungaba lula ukuya kuchwepheshe ukuze welaphe le nkinga. Ukwelashwa okufanele kungaphatha ukulawula okunjalo futhi wenze umuntu akwazi ukugcina ubuhlobo obunempilo ngokuphelele.