Ukuxhumana nabantu sekuvele kuyingxenye ebaluleke kakhulu empilweni yethu. I- inkathi ye-inthanethi Akuguquki nje kuphela indlela esixhumana ngayo, kodwa futhi nendlela esikhohlisa ngayo, noma esihlobana ngayo nomlingani wethu. Zingaba wusizo ekuboniseni uthando lwethu futhi zisigcine sixhumana nomunye umuntu, zisivulela iziteshi ezintsha, ezikhululekile nezisheshayo, kepha kujwayelekile ukuthi futhi usilethele enye inkinga.
Uthando ngesikhathi se-Intanethi siletha ubukhulu obusha obudinga ukulungiswa. Ubudlelwano bethu busuka ekubeni yimfihlo buye bangene endaweni eyinkimbinkimbi yesizinda somphakathi. Izinkundla zokuxhumana nazo ziphoqa imibhangqwana ukuthi ibhekane nezinye izinkinga: ukungabethembi ubudlelwano umlingani wakho angaba nabo kumaphrofayli abo, isikhathi esichithwa kuxhumana nge-Facebook, noma ku-WhatsApp ... i-virtual isivele igcwalisa okwangempela futhi kuyadingeka ukuqonda ukuthi ukuxhumana nomphakathi kubuthinta noma kubuzuzise kangakanani ubudlelwano bethu njengabantu abashadile.
Izinzuzo nezinkinga zobuchwepheshe obusha kulo mbhangqwana
Amakhodi wokuxhumana ashintshile. Manje izitatimende kanye ne- "Ngiyakuthanda" kungavela kumyalezo we-Facebook olandelwa "ukubonwa", ukuxhumana ubuso nobuso akusadingeki. Futhi kujwayelekile nokuthi ubudlelwano obuningi banamuhla buqale ngqo kulezi zikhala. Imithombo yezokuxhumana yenza lula yonke inqubo ye- usesho nokuyenga, lapho sihlala sikhombisa khona okusemandleni ethu ukuthola umuntu esimfunayo. Kodwa kwenzekani lapho sesivele sinomlingani? Zingasithinta kanjani lezi zikhala ezibonakalayo?
Izinzuzo zobuchwepheshe obusha
- Emphakathini wethu wamanje, kujwayelekile ukuthi amalungu amabili wombhangqwana abe nezibopho zawo zomsebenzi neminye imisebenzi ngokwehlukana. Kwesinye isikhathi kunesikhathi esincane kakhulu esingabelana ngaso isonto lonke, futhi ngenxa yalesi sizathu, ubuchwepheshe obusha buyindlela efaneleke kakhulu yokwenza lokho gcina isixhumanisi. Kunemibhangqwana eminingi eyazisa le milayezo yothando usuku lonke, amagama esingazisi ngawo kuphela esikwenzayo, kodwa nokuthi sizwa ini.
- Ubuchwepheshe obusha futhi buyindlela elula kakhulu ye- ukuxhumana izici ezithile. Ikakhulukazi lezo ezihlobene nendiza engokomzwelo. Kunabantu abathola emiyalezweni, ngokwesibonelo, izindlela ezilula zokuveza imicabango nemizwa yabo, ngokuzwakalayo, ababengeke bakwazi ukuxhumana nomlingani wabo. Banikeza ukusondelana "okungokoqobo" nokusebenzisana nomlingani.
Izinkinga ezihambisana nobuchwepheshe obusha kanye nokuxhumana nabantu
- Inkinga ye Ubumfihlo kungenye yezinto eziyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu. Ngokusetshenziswa kwezingosi zokuxhumana nabantu, kujwayelekile ukuthi sonke sabelane ngolwazi oluthile, kwesinye isikhathi olungathandeki kwabalingani bethu. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukungathembi kanye nesidingo "sokuphenya" ukuthi omunye umuntu unabangani nokuthi yiziphi izingxoxo abanazo ezingabonakala. Kujwayelekile ukuthi kuvele izingxabano lapho ilungu elilodwa lalaba abashadikazi lithatha ucingo lomunye lifunde imiyalezo yabo yangasese lapho bebhekene nomuzwa ocacile wokungathembani.
- Uchitha isikhathi esingakanani nsuku zonke ekuxhumaneni nomphakathi? Uma ukulingani wakho, ingabe uvame ukuhlola ifoni yakho? Uchitha amahora amaningi kwi-laptop yakho? Isimo sezulu ukuthi "silahlekelwe" sisebenzisa imithombo yezokuxhumana esikhundleni sokuxhumana ubuso nobuso nomlingani wethu kuyinkinga enkulu okufanele siyicabangele.
Ukuthola ibhalansi phakathi kokubonakalayo nokungokoqobo
Ukuze ubuhlobo bethu buthole lokho ibhalansi yabantu abaswele Phakathi kokubonakalayo nomhlaba wangempela, kufanele sisungule imihlahlandlela ethile phakathi kwalezi zinto ezimbili. Ubuchwepheshe obusha, njengoba sesivele sazi, bungasilethela izinzuzo ezinkulu nsuku zonke, buyindlela eqondile futhi ngasikhathi sinye lapho singaxhumana khona. Manje, ukuba khona kwethu ekuxhumaneni nomphakathi nakulowo esithandana naye, kuyisici okufanele sibhekane naso ku-nuances ngayinye yaso. Ake sibone amaphuzu alo ngamanye:
- Sizozama kube sobala ekuphathweni kwethu kwabangane kanye «nabalandeli» ekuxhumaneni nomphakathi. Lesi yisici lapho umona nokungathembani kuvame ukuvela khona. Kuyacaca ukuthi sonke sinelungelo lobumfihlo, kepha ukwethembana kubalulekile. Uma wena noma umlingani wethu unelukuluku lokwazi ukuthi lowo muntu usebenzisana nobani, kufanele kube nokwethembana kokubuza nokuphendula.
- Inhlonipho njalo imibono ebhalwa ngumlingani wakho kumanethiwekhi omphakathi. Futhi okuphambene nalokho. Uma kunenkinga noma iphutha, kufanele kuxoxwe ngasese, kungalokothi kuxhumane nomphakathi.
- Cela imvume kumlingani wakho lapho uyoshicilela okuthile kwakho, njengoba kunjalo ngesithombe.
- Kumele sibe nenkululeko nenkululeko yokuba nabangane bethu futhi sihlanganyele ekuxhumaneni nomphakathi nanoma ngubani esimfunayo. Kepha uma nganoma yisiphi isikhathi omunye umuntu, noma wena uqobo, ungathembi okuthile, kuyadingeka ukuthi ukhulume ngakho ngokuvuthwa nangobuqotho.
- Kufanele sikugweme ukuba nemibukiso, okusho ukuthi, ukuveza uthando lwethu nothando lomlingani wethu ngokuqhubekayo ngokusebenzisa amanethiwekhi omphakathi. Lokhu kuziphatha kugcina sekucindezela. Uthando lungcono ukulubonisa ngasese futhi ubuso nobuso nomuntu othandekayo.
- Kubalulekile ukucabangela imininingwane eyodwa: sonke sinakho okwedlule ukuthanda enetheni. Amanethiwekhi omphakathi afana ne-Facebook, asivumela ukuthi sibe nomlando wethu siqu ngezifundazwe nezithombe, lapho kubonakala khona ubudlelwane bethu. Nobabili niyicabangele. Ngakho-ke, akufanele sikhathazeke ngokubukeza lokho okwedlule okwedlule komlingani wethu, uma ufuna ukwazi, buza umlingani wakho uqobo.