Kungokwemvelo ukubona namuhla ukuthi bangaki abantu abancike kakhulu ngokomzwelo kubalingani babo. Nakuba kulezi zimo kungenye yezinhlangano ezidinga ukuthi omunye umuntu azizwe ejabule futhi enze ukuphila kwakhe kube nenjongo, Kungase futhi kube nezimo zokusebenzisana ngokomzwelo kumbhangqwana.
Ku-codependency enjalo, omunye wamaqembu uyajabula kuphela uma eseduze nomlingani wakhe futhi omunye naye uncike ekuthembeleni kumlingani wakhe. Esihlokweni esilandelayo sizokhuluma kancane mayelana ne-codependency yomzwelo kumbhangqwana nezici zawo.
Ukuzimela ngokomzwelo kumbhangqwana
Ngendlela ecacile nelula, kungashiwo ukuthi ku-codependency, umuntu othembele udinga umlingani wakhe ukuze ajabule, futhi umuntu ozimele uhlala kuphela ukuze afinyelele inhlalakahle nenjabulo yomlingani wakhe. Isihluthulelo ukuze kungabikho ukuthembela okunjalo ukuthi umuntu ozimele wenza izenzo ezihlukene ngendlela enganaki ngokuphelele hhayi ukuze ondle ukuncika ngokomzwelo okukhona. I-Codependency igcina ibhidliza ubudlelwano uqobo, okubangela ukuthi kungabikho nelilodwa iqembu elijabule ngaphakathi kwalo.
Izimpawu ezicacile zokusebenzisana ngokomzwelo kumbhangqwana
Kunenombolo yezimpawu noma izici ezicace kakhulu, okubonisa ukuthi ebudlelwaneni bombhangqwana kukhona ukuhambisana okuthile ngokomzwelo phakathi kwezinhlangothi:
Ukungazethembi
Abantu abazimele bavame ukuba nokuzethemba okuphansi nokuzethemba. Bazama ukulungisa lokhu kuntuleka ngokusiza umuntu oncike kuye ukuba ajabule.
ukulawula umbhangqwana
Ukuze uzizwe uwusizo futhi ubalulekile empilweni, umuntu ozimele ulawula umlingani wakhe, ukuze aqhubeke nokuba nokuziphatha okuthile okuncikile kumuntu wakhe. Ukulawula okwenziwa uzakwethu kunenjongo yokululaza ukuzethemba kwakhe ukuze ngale ndlela bahlale bencike ngokuphelele ezingeni lomzwelo.
Ukwesaba ukuzimela kombhangqwana
Ukwesaba okukhulu kukhiqizwa yiqiniso lokuthi umbhangqwana uyaqaphela ukuncika ngokomzwelo abahluphekayo futhi bafuna ukuzimela kakhulu ebudlelwaneni.
I-Pensamientos obsesivos
Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi umuntu oncike kuye uba nokukhathazeka ngokuphelele ngozakwethu. Ucabanga ukuthi okuwukuphela komgomo wakhe ekuphileni uwukugcina omunye umuntu encike ngokomzwelo.
Izihlamba eziqhubekayo kwabashadile
Uma umlingani oncike kuye engenzi ngokuvumelana nephethini emisiwe, umuntu oncike kuye uyakusola lokho ngezihlamba ngenjongo yokumenza azizwe kabi. Lokhu kuhloswe ngakho ukugcina ukuncika kungokoqobo.
Usizo lwezengqondo ekukhokhweni kwemizwelo
Uma kuziwa ekuxazululeni inkinga enjalo, kubalulekile ukuthi umbhangqwana uwonke uzibeke ezandleni zesazi sokusebenza kwengqondo esihle. Ukwelapha okuphumelelayo kakhulu ngokumelene ne-codependency ukuziphatha kwengqondo. Lokhu kwelashwa kufuna uchungechunge lwezinjongo ezicace kakhulu:
- Qinisa ukuzethemba nokuzethemba kuwo womabili amalungu ombhangqwana.
- Ukuxhumana phakathi kwabashadile kanye veza imizwa ehlukene ngaphandle kokwesaba.
- Khuthaza ukuzimela nokuzimela okuthile kumbhangqwana
- qinisa i ukulawula imizwelo.
- Nqoba ukwesaba noma ukwesaba ukungabi nomlingani.
Ngamafuphi, ukusebenzelana kwemizwelo ngeshwa kuvame kakhulu kunalokho abantu abangakucabanga. Esimweni esinjalo kubalulekile ukubalekela ubuthi obunjalo futhi ukhethe njalo ubuhlobo obunempilo. Ngokuhamba kweminyaka, i-codependency eshiwo ngenhla igcina ibhubhise umbhangqwana futhi ilimaze kakhulu isimo somzwelo sazo zombili izinhlangothi.