Njengoba nje kukhona abantu abaluthwe yizinto eziyingozi noma eziyingozi njengezidakamizwa, kukhona abantu abangakhombisa ukulutheka okukhulu othandweni. Njenganoma yiluphi uhlobo lokulutha, ukuba umlutha wokuwela othandweni akuyona into enhle ngoba kusho ukuncika kakhulu komunye umuntu nomuzwa wokungajabuli ongalungile ebudlelwaneni.
Ukulutheka kumuntu oyedwa ngokuvamile kudala ubuhlobo obunobuthi lokho akukwazi futhi akufanele kuvunyelwe nganoma iyiphi indlela. Esihlokweni esilandelayo sizokutshela ukuthi yimiphi imihlahlandlela okufanele uyilandele ukuze welaphe ukulutheka kumuntu.
Okufanele ukwenze uma umlutha udalwa kumuntu
Akulula ukukwazi ukwelapha ukulutheka okunjalo, njengoba umuzwa ngomunye umuntu unamandla kakhulu. Bese sikunikeza uchungechunge lwamasu okufanele uwalandele lapho ubhekana nokulutheka okuzwa komunye umuntu:
- Ngokuvamile umuntu obonisa ukulutheka okukhulu komunye, ngokuvamile ubona iqiniso ngendlela ehlukile kunalokho eliyikho ngempela. Kufanele wazi ngaso sonke isikhathi ukwehlukanisa ukuziphatha okuncikile kanye nobuthi kulezo ezinempilo.
- Umlutha uphinda uchungechunge lwamaphethini akhonjwa ngaso sonke isikhathi. Amaphethini anjalo ngokuvamile aholela ekubhujisweni komuntu. Endabeni yothando, kuyafana ngakho-ke kubalulekile ukwazi indlela yokubona amaphethini amanje futhi ukusuka lapho ukwazi ukwenza ngendlela engcono kakhulu futhi uthole isisombululo esanele.
- Njengomthetho ojwayelekile, uthando oluncikile nolunobuthi luvame ukushiya umuntu owumlutha ehlukanisiwe nomhlaba wonke. Umuntu owumlutha uyasuka enganakile emndenini nakubangane, ahlale kuphela kumbhangqwana. Ukulutheka kancane kancane kudla umuntu kuze kube yilapho kumkhawula kuzo zonke izici zokuphila. Ukuze uphume ebuhlotsheni obunobuthi obunjalo, kubalulekile ukuba nokusekelwa kwendawo eseduze kakhulu.
- Kuyinto evamile ukuthi umuntu omluthayo achithe sonke isikhathi sakhe ebudlelwaneni futhi konke okunye kuthatha i-backseat. Ngokunikezwa lokhu, kulula ukusuka kude ngangokunokwenzeka othandweni olushiwo futhi unikeze isikhathi esithile ezintweni zokuzilibazisa ukuze uhlukane nokulutha okunjalo. Akulimazi ukuphuma nabangani futhi nibuyele ezikhathini ezimnandi.
- Lapho welapha ukulutheka okunjalo, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi umuntu azi ukuthi unenkinga futhi ufuna ukuyixazulula. Kusukela lapha kubalulekile ukuqeda ubuhlobo obunobuthi obunjalo futhi ukulwele noma ukubuqeda. Akufanelekile ukuqhubeka nobudlelwano lapho ukuncika ngokomzwelo kubonakala kakhulu futhi lapho okungekho khona ukulingana noma ibhalansi.
Ngamafuphi, ukukhombisa ukulutheka okuthile kumuntu kufana nokuthi ubudlelwano bunobuthi futhi abufaneleki. Nakuba kungelula ukuhlukana nomuntu, kodwa kufanele uqaphele ukuthi akuyona into enhle lokhu futhi uqede lo mkhuba ngokushesha.