Idealization ikhona ebudlelwaneni obuningi banamuhla. Kuyacaca ukuthi lokhu kuyinkinga enkulu, ikakhulukazi ngoba iqiniso lihluke ngokuphelele.
Kufanele ubeke eceleni yonke into ezungeze ukucabanga okuhle futhi uphile uthando lweqiniso ngezinto zalo ezinhle nezinto zalo ezimbi. Esihlokweni esilandelayo sikhuluma ngengozi yokwenza umlingani wakho azizwe elungile.
Kungani umbhangqwana ucatshangwa kahle?
Ukwenza kahle umlingani wakho kungaba yinto evamile ekuqaleni kwanoma yibuphi ubuhlobo. Ekuqaleni, phakathi kokuthandana, iqembu ngalinye libonisa okuhle kakhulu ukuze indaba yothando ihlale ingunaphakade. Ngakho-ke ukwenza kahle umlingani kuwukuziphatha okuvamile nokungokwemvelo.
Kodwa-ke, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, akukuhle ukuthi ikusasa lobudlelwano libe nombhangqwana okhuliswe ngesisekelo esikhulu. Kubalulekile ukusebenzisa ingqondo futhi ubone ukuthi lunjani uthando lwangempela. Kodwa-ke, lokhu kuyinkimbinkimbi, ikakhulukazi lapho imizwa nemizwa kunamandla kakhulu futhi kunamandla kunokucabanga ngokwakho.
Ingozi yokwengeza umlingani
Akukho lutho olungalungile ngokuncoma umbhangqwana futhi ngokuqhubekayo ugqamisa zonke izici zabo ezinhle. Ingozi yangempela iwukudlula lokhu kufiseleka nokufaka ibhandishi elingavumeli iqiniso ukuthi libonakale. Bese sikhuluma ngezingozi umlingani anazo ngobudlelwano:
- Enye yezingozi zombono onjalo ukuba nezinkinga zokuzethemba. Ezimweni eziningi, umuntu owenza i-idealizes umlingani wakhe unokuzethemba okuncane futhi Unokuzethemba okuphansi kakhulu.
- Ngaphandle kwezindaba ezishiwo ngenhla zokuzethemba, ukwenza kahle kozakwethu kuphakamisa ukuncika okukhulu ngokomzwelo. Ukuba nomlingani wakho ezinyathelweni kufana nokuncika okubalulekile ngokomzwelo nsuku zonke.
- Ukuhlala nomuntu ophelele ongenawo amaphutha kuzoba nomthelela omubi ebuntwini benye ingxenye yombhangqwana. Kukhona ubuvila obubalulekile kuyena njengoba konke okuhle kuthathwe ingxenye efanelekile.
- Amanga awakwazi ukuba khona ebudlelwaneni obuthathwa njengobunempilo. Ukuhlale ufisa umlingani wakho kusho ukungaboni ngale kweqiniso futhi uphila emangeni amakhulu. Uthando olufanele luwuthando oluyinganekwane olungalingani nomhlaba wangempela.
- Inkinga enkulu nge-idealization ukuthi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi kuyaphela futhi ukudumala kubonakala phakathi kwabashadile. Kunzima ukubona ukuthi ibiphilwa kanjani ezweni elingelona iqiniso ngokuphelele elikude neqiniso.
Ngamafuphi, akukuhle ukuba nobudlelwane lapho omunye wabathintekayo uzithola ekhuliswe esisekelweni futhi efiseleka ngokuphelele. Konke lokhu kusho ukuqhela emhlabeni wangempela futhi uzicwilise ezweni eliqanjiwe nelokucatshangwayo.