Akungabazeki ukuthi ukukwazi ukuxhumana ngokugcwele nomunye umuntu kuyinto emangalisayo futhi eyingqayizivele. Inkinga ngalokhu lapho kuthiwa uthando ludala ukuthi umbhangqwana uhlotshaniswe ngendlela yokuthi iqiniso ngokwalo lingahlanekezelwa. Umbono omuhle wombhangqwana othathwe ngokwedlulele ungagcina uyingozi kumuntu nasebudlelwaneni.
Esihlokweni esilandelayo siyakubonisa kungani kungafaneleki ukuthi umbhangqwana ube phezulu kanye ne-pedestal.
The idealization of the couple
Akulula ukwazi uma uzakwethu eqashwe ngokwedlulele. Imizwa lapho uhleli nomuntu othandekayo imnandi futhi iyamangalisa, okuthile okusivimbela ukuba sibone ukuthi, njenganoma yimuphi omunye umuntu, banobuhle babo kanye neziphambeko zabo. Kumele wazi ukuthi umuntu umbona kanjani ngezinto zakhe ezinhle nezinto zakhe ezimbi futhi ungamfaki esicongweni kwazise yinto engabusizi ngalutho ubudlelwano.
Ingozi yokuzenzela ebudlelwaneni
Ezikhathini eziningi, ukuthatheka kokuqala kwenza abantu abaningi bacabangele umbhangqwana ngemikhawulo engafanele. Into evamile ukuthi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, umuntu ngokwakhe uyaziwa kangcono futhi akabanjelwa e-altare. Ukuqonda ngokuvamile kwenzeka kubantu abanokuzethemba okuphansi kanye nokuzethemba. Ingozi enkulu ye-idealization enjalo ingenxa yokuthi kungaba khona ukuhambisa okuthile ngaphakathi kobudlelwano. Ingxenye eyenziwe kahle ilawula futhi ilawule yonke into futhi enye ingxenye yamukela ngaphandle kokuqhubeka kwesikhathi.
Ukulimala kumuntu ohlosiwe
Noma kungabonakala kungamanga, umuntu ofanele uyahlupheka futhi unesikhathi esinzima. Okulindelwe kumuntu wakho kuphezulu kakhulu futhi ukwesaba ukudumaza umlingani wakho kukhulu kakhulu. Ingcindezi yokwenza umbhangqwana ujabule ibaluleke kakhulu, into, njengoba kulindelekile, engabuzuzisi nhlobo ubuhlobo ngokwabo.
Okufanele ukwenze ukuze ugweme inhloso yombhangqwana
Okokuqala ukuhlala phansi nabashadikazi nikhulume ngokukhululekile ngale ndaba. Kubalulekile ukuvumela umlingani enze amaphutha futhi enze amaphutha njengawo wonke umuntu. Kusukela ngaleso sikhathi kuya phambili, kuhle ukuqala ukubona umbhangqwana njengomuntu wenyama negazi, ongawenza amaphutha. Kubalulekile futhi ukuqala ukuzazisa nokuzithanda futhi ukusuka lapho ubonise uthando kwabashadile. Ebudlelwaneni angeke kube khona oyedwa ngaphezu komunye futhi enze ukulingana phakathi kwabantu bobabili.
Ngamafuphi, ukwenza kahle umlingani kuyinto eyingozi kakhulu ngekusasa lanoma ibuphi ubuhlobo. Yiba nothandekayo phezulu nase-altare kusho ukungaboni amaphutha namaphutha ongase uwenze futhi uzithobe ngokuphelele ekulawuleni kwabo. Ebudlelwaneni kumele kube nokulingana kwezinhlangothi ezivumela ukuthi kusebenze ngaphandle kwenkinga futhi kuzuze inhlalakahle ekade ilindelwe.