Ubudlelwano besikhashana abenzi lutho ngaphandle kokucekela phansi umlingani. Ukuba ndawonye isikhathi eside noma ukuhlupheka ngenxa yokuncika okuthile ngokomzwelo kwenza kube nzima kakhulu ukuthi ubuhlobo buphele unomphela. Inkinga enkulu ngobudlelwano obuphakathi ukuthi ekugcineni ukuhlupheka kucacile futhi kuyabonakala futhi ukugcina ubudlelwano kuwukuhlushwa kwangempela kubo bobabili abantu. Esihlokweni esilandelayo sizokhuluma ngobudlelwano obuphakathi nendawo nokuthi kungani bungaba yingozi kumbhangqwana.
Ubudlelwano besikhashana kanye nezigaba zosizi
Umuntu kukho konke ukuphila kwakhe kuzodingeka abhekane nama-duels ahlukahlukene. Noma ngenxa yokushona kothandekayo, ukuphela kobudlelwane noma ukufa kwesilwane esifuywayo. Lezi yizikhathi ezinzima okumele ubhekane nazo ukuze uqhubeke nempilo. Ngemuva kwalokho sizobona izigaba ezihlukene ze-duel nokuthi labo bantu abanobudlelwano obuphakathi ngokuvamile benza kanjani kuzo:
- Isigaba sokuqala ukuphika. Umuntu osebudlelwaneni bokuvula/ukuvala uyenqaba ukubona iqiniso futhi wenza sengathi akunankinga nhlobo.
- Esigabeni sokuthukuthela bobabili abantu bayasolana ukuthi ubuhlobo bubi kangakanani.
- Intukuthelo ingena esigabeni sokudabuka. Ngokufanayo bobabili abantu bakhumbula nge-nostalgia ethile izikhathi ezijabulisayo zazihlala ebuhlotsheni.
- Isigaba esilandelayo kuzoba ukuxoxisana. Kuyo, abathintekayo ebudlelwaneni banikeza omunye nomunye ithuba elisha lokuzama ukuphinde bajabule. Abafuni ukuqeda ubudlelwano.
- Isigaba sokugcina yisigaba sokwamukela. Kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuthi ubudlelwano abusebenzi futhi kunengqondo ukubuqeda. Endabeni yobudlelwano obuphakathi, lesi sigaba asifinyelelwa, futhingoba abakwazi ukucabanga impilo ngaphandle komlingani wabo.
Ukwesaba ebudlelwaneni obuphakathi
Ukwesaba kuyimbangela yobudlelwano obuphakathi nendawo obungapheli. Naphezu kweqiniso lokuthi umbhangqwana ubangela ukuhlupheka nokuhlukunyezwa okukhulu, iqiniso lokuqeda ubuhlobo alicabangeki.Izinkinga zemibhangqwana zijwayelekile futhi zijwayelekile, nokho okungamukeleki ukuhlukana nokubuya ngokulandelana. Akungabazeki ukuthi konke lokhu kugcina kugqokile isibopho esidaliwe. Uma lokhu kwenzeka, kungabaluleka ukuphenya inkinga futhi uthole imbangela yayo. Uma ubuhlobo obuthile bungaphumeleli nganoma yisiphi isizathu, kufanele uqaphele ukuthi akusasizi ukubuyela kumuntu omthandayo, ngoba iqiniso lihluke ngokuphelele.
Ngamafuphi, akungabazeki ukuthi ubudlelwano obuphakathi abulungile kunoma ubani. Bamele ukuhlupheka okukhulu kulabo abaphethwe yikho. Akusizi ukulokhu uzinika ithuba uma ekugcineni ubudlelwano bungaqhubeki bese ukhubeka ephutheni elilodwa emva kwelinye. Kungcono ukuthola inkinga futhi kusuka lapho yenza ukuze ubuhlobo bungacabangi ukuhlushwa kwangempela futhi bobabili abantu bangajabula ngokwabo.