Ukuba ngumzali kunzima, futhi sonke siyakwazi lokho. Izingane zidinga abazali bazo ngaso sonke isikhathi futhi lokhu kungakhathaza ngezinye izikhathi. Ngaphezu kwakho konke, uma unosuku olunzima emsebenzini nalapho ufika ekhaya, konke kuyizidingo noma izinkinga. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthembela kumlingani wakho ukuze akwazi ukuphatha kangcono ukuba ngumama / ukuba ngubaba futhi wenze impilo yomndeni iphumelele kakhulu. Izingane zidinga abazali abajabulayo abacabanga ngenhlalakahle yabo neyezingane zabo.
Yize kunezizathu lapho kungekho ukusekelwa phakathi kwezithandani ezingenza ukuba ngumzali kube nzima kakhulu. Isizathu esikhulu sokuba ngumzali kungaba nzima kakhulu ukuthi kubeka ingcindezi enkulu ebudlelwaneni obuphakathi emndenini: ubudlelwano bobuzali. Imibhangqwana ivame ukuzwa ukwehla kwenjabulo yomshado okuthinta inhlalakahle jikelele yakho uqobo neyomndeni.
Kwenzekani kwabashadikazi ngemuva kokuba ngabazali
Ngemuva kokuthola ingane nazo zonke izibopho umuntu anazo njengabazali, kwesinye isikhathi imibhangqwana ingazizwa ukuthi izinga labo lokuxhumana lehlile. Kungenzeka ukuthi imibhangqwana ibe nokuxhumana okungcono ngenkathi kungesibo abazali. Noma (imvamisa kungenxa yomsebenzi), kungenzeka futhi ukuthi abazi ukuthi bangazisingatha kanjani izingxabano kahle nokuthi bazizwe sengathi ukuzethemba kwabo kuyaqala ukwehla.
Uma lokhu kwenzeka, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi abashadile bahlale bekhumbula ukuthi kufanele basebenze ekuxhumaneni kwabo ngoba ukuze babe ngabazali abalungile abakwazi ukuswela ukuxhumana okuvulekile njalo. Ngezinye izikhathi bangazizwa befana izinguquko ezingezinhle zibonakala zingaphezu kwalezi ezinhle.
Imibhangqwana eqala ukuba nezinkinga zokuxhumana ingabenza bazizwe sengathi ubudlelwano babo abuhambi kahle, ngenxa yalesi sizathu kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi basebenze kukho ukuze bathuthukise isibopho sabo esingokomzwelo futhi.
Kunezinye izinto ezithonya nazo
Ezinye izinto, ezifana nobudala kanye nendlela impilo ebonwa ngayo, nazo zingaba nomthelela ekutheni ubuzali bukuthinta kanjani wena. Abazali asebekhulile ngokuvamile baba nengozi ephansi yokudangala kunabazali abasebancane futhi bajwayele ukujabulela inkululeko yabo ngokwengeziwe.
Abazali abaseneminyaka engama-20 ubudala babonakala benoshintsho olunzima kakhulu ekubeni ngabazali njengoba belwa nendima yabo kusuka ebusheni baye ebudaleni, ngasikhathi sinye lapho befunda ukuba ngabazali. Lokhu kungenxa yokuthi abazali abancane abancane okokuqala abakhulile ngokugcwele, futhi kunengozi eyengeziwe yokuguquka okuxakile kusuka ebusheni kuya ebudaleni.
Ezinye izinto ezingathinta nobabili ubudlelwano nomlingani kanye nemizwa mayelana nokuba ngumzali ifaka phakathi ukuthi ngabe ukukhulelwa kuhlelwe noma cha, imizwa ngaphambi kokuzalwa kwengane, nezinga lokuphazamiseka kokulala lapho uba ngumzali omusha.
Yize kungezona zonke izinto eziguqukayo ezithinta ubudlelwano nokuba ngumzali zingaphansi kokulawulwa komuntu (iminyaka, indlela yokuziphatha kwabashadikazi, izidingo ezithile zezingane zethu, njll.), Kuningi okusemandleni akho nokuthi ungakwazi lawula isimo. Ukushintsha isimo sengqondo ngokubeletha kungenza umehluko omkhulu ekuboneni kwakho. Nazi ezinye izinto umuntu angazenza ukuthola injabulo eyengeziwe nenjabulo ngaphandle kwesipiliyoni nokunciphisa ukucindezeleka. Ukusebenzela ukuba nenhlalakahle enhle yangaphakathi nenjabulo njengombhangqwana kubalulekile.
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