Ihlobo liza futhi nalo, isimo sezulu esihle namaholide. Kwabaningi kuvula isikhathi esingaphezulu kwesifanele sokuthola umlingani, kepha kwabanye, yisikhathi lapho ubudlelwano nomlingani wethu wamanje bungashintsha. Sifuna okusha izikhathi zokuzilibazisa Ukwabelana, sichitha isikhathi esiningi ndawonye futhi kungenzeka ukuthi kuvele izinkinga zokuqala. Umehluko. Ihlobo livula amathuba amaningi emhlabeni wezemizwa nobudlelwano, yingakho kufanelekile ukungena kulezi zici.
Impela, into yokuqala eza engqondweni ngaphambi kokufika kwesimo sezulu esihle yileso se "uthando lwasehlobo". Sonke sidlulile kuleso sigaba esishubile lapho kuhlala khona ama-crushes okuqala, ukwahlukaniswa kokuqala nezinyembezi zokuqala. Ukufunda okungokomzwelo okusifundise ukuvuthwa. Kepha ihlobo aligcini ngalezo zinyanga lapho amathuba amasha okuthola umlingani evuleka khona. Lezi yizikhathi lapho kufanele sixoxisane ngamaholide ukuze sivumelane nalezo zozakwethu. Lezi yizinsuku lapho, mhlawumbe, sinquma ukuthatha uhambo nabangane noma sisodwa, futhi umlingani wethu engakuboni kahle. Izimpikiswano zingavela, nezinkinga ngokuqinisekile ongazazi. Ake sikubone ngaleso sikhathi.
Ehlobo: izimo ezintsha ebudlelwaneni bezithandani
Izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo ziyasixwayisa: amaholide ehlobo yizikhathi ezivame kakhulu lapho ukuhlukana nezinkinga zobudlelwano. Iqiniso ukuthi kungahle kubonakale kungqubuzana nathi uma sinikezwa isifiso esijwayelekile esivame ukuhlanganyela ngaso isikhathi nezinto esizenzayo nomlingani wethu; noma kunjalo, kunezici eziningana ezingadala lezi zimo ezimbi:
- Ukulindela okungamanga: Amaholidi afika futhi sijabule ngomqondo wokukwazi ukuhlanganyela isikhathi, imisebenzi kanye nezikhathi zokuzilibazisa njengezithandani. Asigcini nje ngokusetha uchungechunge lwezinto ebesizilindele, kepha ngandlela thile size saze sahlela nokuhlela "injabulo". "Uma siya efulethini elisogwini sizoba nesikhathi esimnandi." "Ukuya eholidini kuleyo ndawo nabangane bethu umqondo omuhle kakhulu esingaba nawo, kuzoba kuhle kakhulu." "Uzobona ukuthi ngaleli holide silungisa kanjani izinto bese konke kuhamba kangcono." Lezi yizibonelo ezilula zokucabanga esingakwenza. Ukulindela okungahlangani ngaso sonke isikhathi futhi okungaholela ekudumazekeni.
- Ukugqoka: ihlobo yithuba elihle lokuchitha isikhathi esithe xaxa. Kepha kwesinye isikhathi, impela lawa mahora ahlala ngokufana angaholela ekugqokeni, ekudabukeni, ukungqubuzana nokuminyana, ukwenza ubuhlobo budlulele nobunzima bangaphambilini. Inkinga akuyona ngaso sonke isikhathi okwabelwana ngayo, kodwa indlela esisisebenzisa ngayo. Kwesinye isikhathi asishiyi indawo yokuzenzela, ukuvumela izinto zenzeke ngokwazo. Kwesinye isikhathi senza iphutha lokuhlela yonke into: ukuthenga, idamu lokubhukuda, ulwandle, ukuhlangana neminye imibhangqwana, idisco, uhambo lokuya ezintabeni ... Kuze kube sekupheleni, kufika ukukhathala, izingxabano nokwehluka. Kuyiqiniso elishiwo kakhulu emibhangqwaneni eza emaholidini ayo nezinkinga zangaphambilini.
Ngokusobala ngeke kuhlale kunje. Kepha kufanele sikhumbule ukuthi yisikhathi lapho lolu hlobo lwesimo lujwayelekile lapho kufanele sazi ukuthi singaphatha kanjani. Yisikhathi lapho kufanele sithathe izinqumo ngokuhlanganyela, sabelane ngemisebenzi ephathelene nekhaya, nezingane uma sinazo, futhi sichithe isikhathi esiningi nabasekhweni, njll. Okuqale kusungulwe njengesikhathi se "Ukuphumula nenhlalakahle", ingaphenduka ibe yinto ebucayi kakhulu nezinkinga.
Isikhathi sekhefu, isikhathi sokwakha
Endabeni yokungabi nabalingani, ihlobo yisikhathi esikhangayo kakhulu sokuhlangana nabantu abasha. Ukusungula ubudlelwano obukhona. Amandla alokho okuhehayo, i- ukwehlisa futhi usuku nosuku, bazonquma ukuthi lokhu kuhlangana kungavuthwa yini kube izithandani zeqiniso ngokubeka isisekelo esiqinile ngale kwehlobo.
Uma, ngakolunye uhlangothi, sifika kuleli holidi nomlingani wethu osevele esungulwe, kufanelekile ukubheka ezinye zezinto ezilula ongasijabulela ngalesi sikhathi, ngaphandle kwezingxabano ezingase zivele phakathi kwalokhu okubili. Ake sibone ukuthi yini okufanele siyicabangele:
- Funda ukusebenzisa isikhathi, kodwa ngaphandle kokucindezeleka: sungula cishe ukuthi yimaphi amaphrojekthi esingawenza, kuhlale kufanelekile. Kepha masingagcizeleli ukuthi "konke kuboshwe." Ivumela indawo ethile yokuzenzela kanye nokuzimela. Sizosebenzisa iholide njengombhangqwana, kepha lokho akusho ukuthi nathi sinelungelo lokuba nesikhathi sethu. Isikhala sethu. Kuthiwani ngosuku noma ezimbili lapho sithatha uhambo lokubaleka nabangane bethu? Banethuba lokuzijabulisa neqembu labangane babo, futhi lokhu akufanele kudale izinkinga noma kwephule ukuzibophezela. Kumele sikuvumele izindawo zakho zokuphumula, kanye nezikhathi zokuxakaniseka phakathi kwalokhu okubili, lapho okumele kwenziwe khona izinto ndawonye. Jabulani ndawonye.
- Isikhathi sokwabelana: Iseluleko esidingeka kakhulu okufanele sisikhumbule ukuthi akufanele sibheke amaholide ethu "njengesikhathi esibalulekile sokusisiza ukugcina ubudlelwane bethu buqhubeka." Ngokusho kochwepheshe kwezobudlelwano, lesi akusona isikhathi sokukhuluma ngothando noma ngobuhlungu benhliziyo. Ihlobo kufanele nje lihlose ukuphumula, ukwabelana ngemisebenzi kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho, zwelana, sijabulele futhi siqinise ubudlelwano bethu. Kwesinye isikhathi "ukuziphoqa" ukuthi sithuthukise ubudlelwane bethu kugcina kudala okuphambene. Ukuqhekeka nokwehluka. Kumele simane sishiye isikhala sokuzidela, ukuzilibazisa, ukwephula imikhuba, ukuhlangana futhi nalowo muntu esimthandayo sinokuthula okuphelele kwengqondo. Ayikho ingcindezi.