Impela nawe unabo labo bangane noma abangane, ojwayele ukushicilela konke abakwenzayo kubo amanethiwekhi omphakathi. Lolu hlobo lokuziphatha luvamile ikakhulukazi emibhangqwaneni. Njalo, kwesinye isikhathi noma nsuku zonke, bavuselela izindonga zenethiwekhi yabo yezithombe ngezithombe noma izikhundla ezichaza ubudlelwano babo, kanye nokusondelana kwabo.
Ngemuva kwalokhu kuziphatha kunezincazelo eziningi esizozichaza ngezansi. Manje, asisho ukuthi ukusetshenziswa kwezingosi zokuxhumana nomuntu kuyinto embi, ngokuphelele. Lezi ziteshi zilungele impela wabelane ngokuhlangenwe nakho okuhle Nokho, kulabo esibathandayo, kumelwe siyazi imingcele futhi silondoloze ukulinganisela. Asikhulume Bezzia kulesi sihloko esithakazelisayo nesiyimpikiswano.
Ubudlelwano balezi zithandani nokuxhumana nabantu
Sonke sithanda ukwabelana ngezici ezinhle zempilo yethu ezinkundleni zokuxhumana. Siyizindaba ezijabulisayo nezimnandi, njengemizwa, kuhlala kuyinto esithanda ukuxhumana nayo. Manje, ngeke sigxeke lapha ukuthi umuntu wenzani noma akenzi ini kulezindaba. Intshisekelo yethu igxile kwabashadikazi, ngakho-ke ake sibone ukuthi yiziphi izici ezibalulekile lapho ujoyina lezi zici ezimbili: izithandani nezingosi zokuxhumana nabantu.
1. Vumelana nomlingani wakho ukuthi yini okwabelwana ngayo nokuthi yini engekho
Kwenzeke kaningi. Abantu abafaka izithombe nomlingani wabo ku-Facebook noma ku-Twitter, ngaphandle kwemvume yakhe.
Ebudlelwaneni bethu, into yokugcina okufanele siyenze thatha izinto kalula. Ngoba uthanda umuntu, ngoba uyingxenye yempilo yakhe, awunalungelo lokwenza izinto obala ngaphandle kwemvume yakhe. Ngakho-ke, kufanele kuvunyelwane kusengaphambili ukuthi yini eshicilelwe nokuthi yini engashicilelwanga, yini esifuna ukuyaba nokuthi yini engafanele.
2. Ungabelani ngolwazi ukuze uthole ukuqiniswa kwengqondo
Iphrofayili yabantu abaningi ababejwayele ukwabelana ngazo zonke izici zempilo yabo kumanethiwekhi omphakathi kungenzeka kube okulandelayo:
- Bangabantu abafuna ukuqiniswa okuhle ngezici ezahlukahlukene zempilo yabo. Ukulayisha isithombe kuyaqiniseka "Ukuthandwa" ngesikhathi esifushane. Okusho ukuthi, akudingeki baye emcimbini noma behlele emgwaqweni ukuze bathole ukunconywa.
- Ukuqiniswa kwengqondo okutholakala ekuxhumaneni nomphakathi kuvame ukusebenzela ukukhulisa ukuzethemba okuphansi.
- Uma ubudlelwano bakho buzinzile, buhamba kahle futhi ujabulile, akudingeki udinge ukuqiniswa ngokwengqondo okuvela kunoma ngubani futhi ngisho nangaphansi kwalabo obajwayele nabantu ongabazi abahlala kuwe Facebook noma ku-Twitter. Ubani okufanele sikhathazeke ngaye ngumlingani wethu, futhi nguyena okufanele asinikeze lokhu kuhlonishwa nsuku zonke ngendlela esondele futhi eyimfihlo.
3. Awukholelwa ezinkundleni zokuxhumana into ongeyona
Ezinkundleni zokuxhumana singathola ukuziphatha kwazo zonke izinhlobo. Kusukela kulabo abakha amaphrofayli angamanga anikeza izici ezingokomzimba nezingokwengqondo ezingahambisani neqiniso, kulabo abafuna ukugqamisa ubukhulu obuthile ukuze "Zenzele" impilo ephelele.
Ezingeni lezithandani, lokhu singakubona ngezikhathi ezithile kulabo bangane abashicilela izithombe nabalingani babo olwandle, bedla isidlo sakusihlwa, beya ohambweni, futhi beshicilela izigcawu eziqhubekayo zothando ezidwebayo "Lezo zithandani eziphelele" ukuthi wonke umuntu unomona.
Kufanele uthole ifayela le- ibhalansi futhi ushiye isikhala sobumfihlo. Impilo yomphakathi ingaphansi kokugxekwa nokuphawula, ngakho-ke, sichayeka kulokho esikwenzayo "ngoba siyakuthanda" ngesikhathi esithile, singaqondwa kahle ngabanye.
Yabelana ngezithombe noma ngezimo esidlangalaleni ngesilinganiso nebhalansi. Futhi cabanga ukuthi konke okuvezayo kule mithombo yezindaba, kuzohlaziywa futhi kwahlulelwe yilabo abangabangani bakho, noma yilabo ojwayelene nabo ku-Facebook obabathanda ngaleso sikhathi, kodwa ongabazi.
4. Ungacabangi ukuthi uma ungaveli ezinkundleni zokuxhumana "awukho"
Kungenzeka ukuthi lesi sitatimende besingakacaci ngokuphelele kepha sizokunikeza isibonelo esilula. Umbhangqwana uhlela uhambo. Lapho befika lapho beya khona, bathola ukuthi balahlekelwe ikhamera nokuthi yabo ukuhamba (nganoma yisiphi isizathu) azisebenzi.
Lokhu kusho ukuthi ngeke bakwazi ukuthatha izithombe zohambo lwabo. Futhi ngaphezulu kwalokho, ukuthi ngeke bakwazi ukwabelana ngakho konke abakwenzayo kulelo holidi kumanethiwekhi abo omphakathi. Uyini-ke umcabango wokuqala? Uma ngingabelani ngayo, kufana nokuthi angiluthathanga lolu hambo, Angikwazi ukufakazela kubangani bami ukuthi "bengilapha" nomlingani wami.
Kungabonakala ngathi kunehaba ngandlela thile, kepha kuyiqiniso elijwayelekile kakhulu. Ngakho-ke gcina lezi zilinganiso engqondweni:
- Amanethiwekhi omphakathi ayithuluzi elihle le- ukuxhumana, ilungele ukwabelana ngolwazi kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho. Noma kunjalo, impilo yangempela ayikho kuleso sikrini seselula noma sekhompyutha. Impilo engakulethela ukwaneliseka okukhulu yileyo oyakha nomlingani wakho.
- Gcina ibhalansi phakathi kwezikhala ezimbili. Ukuthi awuphathi iselula yakho uhamba nayo leyo selfie nomlingani wakho kuzokususa ukumamatheka kwakho. Injabulo isemgwaqweni, kulowo moya ohelezayo olwandle, ngokunambitheka kwalawo ma-dinner noma kulowo ohamba epaki.
- Okubalulekile ukuthi ukusondelana nomlingani wakho, lowo okungekho omunye umuntu onendaba naye ngoba akuwona obala. Ngoba nobabili niyakha ngasese futhi ngoba akekho omunye onendaba. Uthando lwakho ngolwakho nolomlingani wakho, akuyona into ongabelana ngayo ezinkundleni zokuxhumana.