Wagcina nini ukuba nesibindi Thatha isinyathelo sokuqala? Kungani ungaphumi kuleyondawo yokunethezeka lapho uzizwa uphephile kepha "akukho lutho olwenzekayo"? Siyazi, kwesinye isikhathi akulula. Sonke sinokulinganiselwa kwethu, ukwesaba, ukungazethembi.
Kodwa-ke, uma namuhla kukhona okuthile okugcwalisa imibono yakho nokuthi awunakulinga ukuzama, noma ukuqala, sikumema ukuthi ufunde le ndatshana. Kunokuthile okubalulekile okufanele ukubheke mayelana nokukhula kwakho uqobo futhi kukonke, mayelana nokuzethemba kwakho. Impilo ayilinganiswa ukuthi sineminyaka emingaki noma sineminyaka emingaki. Uma kungenjalo ngokuhlangenwe nakho, kwe izifundo ozifundile, kungaba zihle noma zimbi. Mhlawumbe awulokothi uthathe isinyathelo sokuqala ngaphambi kwalowo mfana omthandayo? Awuzizwa uphephe ngokuphelele? Ungakhathazeki, sikunikeza amathiphu ambalwa.
Phuma endaweni yokunethezeka!
Indawo yokududuza ibhamuza eli-placid. Kukhona lokho esiyikho, esinakho nsuku zonke. Konke kunjalo ukubikezela futhi azikho izingozi. Akekho ongazihlola noma athole ulwazi uma engadluli umkhawulo walowo mgoqo osivikelayo.
Uma kukhulunywa ngokukhuluma ngendawo yokunethezeka, kunabantu abaningi abangakwazi ukugwema ukubona ngeso lengqondo ikhaya elijwayelekile lapho umuntu esanamathele kuleso sibopho somndeni. Kodwa-ke, indawo yokududuza idlula okungaphezulu kwe- ukuvikela ngokweqile omama noma obaba, kwesinye isikhathi thina ngokwethu yithi okuthi, yize sizimele, siqhubeke nokuzivikela emhlabeni.
1. Kungani sikwenza? Kungani sisengaphakathi kwendawo yokunethezeka?
- Ngokwesaba i- wenze iphutha.
- Ukwesaba ukulinyazwa, ukuhlupheka.
- Ngoba sinethezekile empilweni yansuku zonke futhi asifuni ukushintsha.
- Ngoba kwesinye isikhathi, ukushiya indawo yokunethezeka kuyingozi, nakubantu abazizwa benesidingo sokuthi impilo yabo iphansi isilawuli, kuyingozi. Kubenza bangazinzi.
- Ngokunquma okulula.
- Ngamamodeli wokufundisa. Kwesinye isikhathi bagxilisa kithi umqondo wokuba nokuqonda nokuthathwa yileso simiso lapho kungenabungozi khona futhi konke kuyabikezelwa.
2. Yini edlula indawo yokunethezeka?
Kumele futhi sikhumbule ukuthi indawo yokunethezeka akuyona nje isikhala esisinikeza ukuphepha futhi lapho konke kuhlala kuzinzile khona. Futhi yilawo maphuzu lapho thina uqobo sihlala silingana njalo, lapho sazi konke, futhi siyikho, ukusho, ukuzibikezela.
Ukuzibeka engcupheni, ukuthatha isinyathelo ukudlula kuleyo ndawo yezokuphepha kuzosinikeza bonke lobu bukhulu:
- Ukuzihlola ukuze sizazi kangcono.
- Sinikeze amasu amakhulu okuzithuthukisa, ukuxazulula izinkinga.
- Siba badala ukukwazi ngokomzwelo. Sifunda ukuphatha ukwesaba, ukungavikeleki, ukwesaba ukungaqiniseki.
- Sivula imibono emisha engokwengqondo neyomuntu siqu, futhi sondla ilukuluku lethu. Ukukhula kwethu.
- Sizinika amathuba amakhulu okuhlangana nabantu, futhi sizicebise ngenethiwekhi enkulu yokuxhumana nabantu.
- Ukuphuma enkambisweni nakho kuyinto enhle empilweni yethu.
Impilo ingaphezu komugqa wokwesaba
1. Dlulisa umkhawulo wokwesaba
Labo abesaba impilo basaba ukuphila, ukuzizwela, ukuthanda nokukhula njengomuntu. Manje, ukwesaba, njengomzwelo wemvelo womuntu, kufeza umsebenzi oyisisekelo ukusisiza siphile futhi sigweme izingozi. Kusho ukuthini lokhu?
Ukuthi uma kukhulunywa ngokuwela leyo ndawo yokunethezeka, kufanele sikwenze ngekhanda nangebhalansi. Kufanele sivikele ukuzethemba kwethu nobuqotho ngaphezu kwakho konke okunye, okungukuthi, akusho siziphonse esikhaleni, kodwa ukugxuma nge-parachute nebhande lesihlalo.
Uma ngiphuma endaweni yami yokududuza kungenxa yokuthi ngiyakwazi engikudingayo. Futhi-ke, kwesinye isikhathi kufanele uthathe isibindi esikhulu futhi yiba nesibindi, sengozini. Ulahlekelwa yini ngokubuza lowo osebenza naye omthanda kakhulu? Okubi kakhulu okungenzeka ukuthi basitshela ukuthi cha, kepha ngeke kube kubi kangako futhi ingozi kufanelekile. Kuthiwani uma ethi yebo?
Manje, ukucela usuku akufani nokumemezela uthando lwethu zisuka nje. Yonke into ithatha isinyathelo sayo futhi kufanele sihlakaniphe, siqaphele futhi sazi ukuthi singazivikela kanjani. Futhi ngeke sishiye umsebenzi wethu noma ikhaya lethu ngaphandle kokucacisa kahle ukuthi sifuna ukwenzani, noma ukuthi lunjani ushintsho esiludingayo.
Shiya indawo yokududuza Kudinga isibindi ukubeka eceleni ukwesaba eceleni, kepha kufanele sikucacise kahle ukuthi yini esiyilwelayo noma ukuthi ngubani esizomshiyela ukwesaba noma amahloni ukuthatha isinyathelo sokuqala.
Futhi khumbula ukuthi impilo ihamba ngokushesha kakhulu, futhi lokho kwesinye isikhathi kuba kuhle amathuba okungenzeka ukuthi ngeke kuphindwe. Ngakho-ke hlala ubukele, ubheke okuzungezile, gcina ukukhululeka okuhle ngokomzwelo nangokwengqondo, futhi ube nethemba.
Impilo ihlale iletha izinto ezinhle kulabo abakwaziyo ukulinda nakulabo abanesibindi sokweqa umugqa, ukulwela abakuphuphayo nabakufunayo. Ungavumeli abanye bakutshele ukuthi bajabule kangakanani ngabakufezile. Phuma endaweni yakho yokunethezeka namuhla! Noma kubiza wena, noma ngabe ucabanga ukuthi ngeke ukwazi. Injabulo ingakolunye uhlangothi lokwesaba.