Kungenzeka ukuthi nsuku zonke kunabantu endaweni yakho abaphula imingcele yakho nokwenza uzizwe ungakhululekile kaninginingi, kepha awazi ukuthi kufanele usabele kanjani. Ukuze usabele, into yokuqala okufanele uyikhumbule ukuthi kufanele wazi ukuthi yini ukwephulwa komngcele nokuthi abantu bangobani abakwenzayo.
Kunzima kakhulu ukubhekana nokwephulwa kwemingcele yabantu abasondele kakhulu kuwe, labo bemvelo yakho labo bantu abayingxenye yempilo yakho yansuku zonke, njengamalungu omndeni wakho.
Izinhlobo zokwephulwa kwemingcele
Ukwephulwa kwemingcele kungaba ngaphandle noma ngaphakathi. Ukwephulwa kwemingcele yangaphandle kuhlobene nendawo ebonakalayo, njengokuma eduze kakhulu, ukukuthinta ngendlela engadingeki, noma ukuziphatha ngendlela ejwayelekile noma esondelene kakhulu lapho lowo muntu emane nje engumuntu omaziyo noma owumuntu nje ongamazi. Lapho othile ethatha ukudla kupuleti lakho ngaphandle kokukubuza, kungahle kube ukwephula imingcele yabo yangaphandle.
Ukwephulwa kwemingcele kwangaphakathi Kubandakanya izinto ezinjengokuthatha umthwalo wemicabango yomunye umuntu, imizwa yakhe, noma indlela aziphatha ngayo. Lapho othile ethatha ukuthi uyazi ukuthi ucabanga kanjani, uzizwa kanjani noma ukuthi yini okufanele uyenze, wephula imikhawulo yakho yangaphakathi. Lapho othile ekutshela ukuthi wenzeni ngempilo yakho noma ezama ukukukhohlisa ngasese, bephula imikhawulo yakho. Imingcele yangaphakathi nayo yephulwa lapho othile ekubeka icala ngalokho okuzwayo.
Ngubani owephula imikhawulo yakho
Kukhona nabantu abaphula imingcele yakho ngoba abanamkhawulo. Banomqondo obuthakathaka ngokwabo futhi abahloniphi ubunikazi babo. Lokhu kungenzeka lapho:
- Kunabantu abangazi ukuthi bangaqonda kanjani izimpawu zomphakathi noma ulimi lomzimba. Laba bantu bangaphazamisa. Abanye balaba bantu bangaba nezinkinga zobuchopho noma izinkinga.
- Kunabantu abangahloniphi ngemikhawulo kusuka kwabanye ngenxa yokuphazamiseka kobuntu, njengobuntu bomngcele noma ubuntu be-narcissistic. Bangabi nandaba nemizwa yabanye futhi futhi banganaki nemikhawulo ngenxa ye-ego yabo enkulu.
- Abantu abangazethembi nabo bangaphula imingcele ngoba bazizwa bedingeka futhi bephansi kuwe. Bayakubona unamandla futhi bazama ukukuhlukumeza ngendlela yokuqala eyenzeka kubo.
- Umuntu ocindezela ucansi angaziphatha ngokungafanele kwabanye. Awazi ukuthi ungabhekana kanjani nemizwa emibi nokwesaba futhi udinga ukunakekelwa okuphuthumayo kochwepheshe. Umuntu ocindezelwa ngokocansi futhi ongelashwa ngochwepheshe angaba umuntu owephula amalungelo abantu ngezinkulumo ezithintayo, ezingafanelekile futhi angahlukumeza ngokocansi isisulu sakhe.
Le yimikhawulo abantu abake beqe ngayo kwesinye isikhathi nokuthi kumele uyiqaphele ukuze ungabavumeli ukuthi benze njalo empilweni yakho. Ngale ndlela ungabeka imingcele enempilo ebudlelwaneni bakho nabanye futhi uvikele izinkinga ngokuzayo.