Izinsika ezigcina ubudlelwane obuzinzile futhi obujabulisayo imvamisa zihlala ziyi- inkhulumomphendvulwano, kuvisisa, kuhlala kanye nalokunye, kuya ecasini. Zonke lezi zilinganiso zihlobene futhi zakha umgogodla wekhwalithi yethu yempilo nokweneliseka kwethu. Kepha kwenzekani lapho omunye wabo ehluleka, njengoba kunjalo ngezocansi? Izinguquko ezingokomzwelo ezibangelwa uhlobo oluthile lwenkinga oluhambisana nale nsika, zibuthinta ngokuphelele ubudlelwano bethu. Ukuya ocansini kuyadingeka, kuyisibopho sokusondelana nothandekayo, kubalulekile ukuzizwa ugcwele futhi wanelisekile.
Ngokuvamile, ukugcina ubuhlobo obuhle kusekelwe ngaphezu kwakho konke ekuxhumaneni nasekuhlalisaneni, kepha lokhu akusho ukuthi ubulili kulaba abashadile abubalulekile kangako. Lapho kunenkinga kulokhu Akufanele sikuqonde njengesibonakaliso esingenakuphikwa sokuthi uthando noma isifiso sesinyamalele, nakancane, kufanele kucace. Kwesinye isikhathi kungahle kube nohlobo oluthile lokungasebenzi kahle, noma kungenzeka ukuthi sibhekene nenkinga ethile engokomzwelo noma yomuntu siqu esivimbela ukuba sibuthokozele ngokugcwele ubudlelwano bethu bezocansi. Ukwazi ukuthi singabona kanjani, siphathane futhi sibhekane kanjani kubalulekile ukuze ubudlelwano bethu buqhubeke bunelise.
Izinkinga kwezocansi kwethu
Kungaleso sikhathi sokuhlala ndawonye nomlingani wethu lapho singabona khona ukuthi kukhona okungahambi kahle ebulilini bethu. Asikhulumi ngokuhlangana okuthile kwezocansi. Izinkinga zibonakala lapho sinophathina ozinzile, lapho sazi imikhuba yabo kanye neyethu. Kungenzeka ukuthi phakathi kwalokhu kusondelana, ngokuzumayo sithola ukuthi kukhona okungahambi kahle. Into eyenzeka kaninginingi futhi lokho kusikhombisa ukuthi kungahle kube nohlobo oluthile lokungasebenzi kahle. Kepha ake siyibheke ngokucophelela.
Kepha kuyini ukungasebenzi kahle kwezocansi?
- Ukungasebenzi kahle kungavela nganoma yisiphi isikhathi sesenzo socansi, kungaba sesigabeni sesifiso, enjabulweni noma ngesikhathi se-orgasm. Singakhuluma ngenkinga okwamanje lapho ushintsho olulodwa noma eziningi sezivele ziziphinda ngokuqhubekayo ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Zonke lezi zinto zivame ukusibangela ushintsho olukhulu ngokomzwelo lapho sicabanga ukuthi mhlawumbe, asisafuneki, noma ukuthi umlingani wethu akasasithandi.
Yiziphi izinhlobo zezinkinga ezivame ukuba khona?
Izinkinga kwezocansi kwethu zivame ukuba nezimbangela ezimbili: ngokomzwelo noma ngokomzimba. Kwesinye isikhathi sizizwa sithwele imizwa noma izinkinga. Ukungazethembi, ukungabaza ... izici ezingokwengqondo ezisivimbela ekujabuleleni ubudlelwano bethu. Kwezinye izikhathi, ubunzima bunemvelaphi ebonakalayo, futhi kuzohlala kungungoti ozosisiza ekutholeni isisombululo. Ake sihlaziye ukungasebenzi kahle okuyinhloko ngezansi.
1. Izinkinga emadodeni:
- Ukungabi namandla: ubunzima bokugcina ukwakhiwa.
- Ukujula ngaphambi kwesikhathi: impendulo ye-orgasmic noma ye-ejaculatory ngaphambi kwalokho obekufiswa.
- Ukujula okubambezelekile: izimpendulo ze-orgasmic noma ze-ejaculatory ezithatha isikhathi ukuvela.
2. Izinkinga kubantu besifazane
- I-Anorgasmia: ubunzima bokufinyelela ku-orgasm.
- I-Vaginismus: ubuhlungu obukhulu ngesikhathi sokungena.
Ukubhekana nezinkinga zobudlelwano ukuthuthukisa ubulili bethu
Iningi lezinkinga zocansi emibhangqwaneni empeleni kungenxa yezinkinga ezingaxazululiwe, ubukhulu okufanele benziwe phakathi kwalokhu okubili. Ukungathandwa, umona, ukungathembi, ukwesaba, ukunganakwa ... kungokoqobo okunenkokhiso ephezulu yemizwa kwesinye isikhathi eveza okungenakugwemeka ukuntuleka kwe-libido.
Kwamukele futhi wabelane ngemicabango yethu, ukungabaza nezidingo nomlingani wethu, kuyadingeka ukujabulela ngokugcwele ucansi. Uma inkinga yethu ingokomzimba, udokotela uzosinika isisombululo, kepha uma imvelaphi ingeyomuntu nengokwengqondo, kufanele siyixazulule ngokushesha okukhulu. Kufanele sikuvikele lokhu kungasebenzi kube okungapheli futhi kugcine sekuphazamisekile ngokomzwelo. Ucansi lubalulekile. Uma singazixazululi ngokwethu, singaphendukela kochwepheshe esizoqala ngabo ukwelashwa kwezithandani.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukuthuthukisa ikhwalithi yempilo yethu yezocansi kwesinye isikhathi kudinga izinyathelo ezilula, iziphakamiso ezilula ezingasetshenziswa phakathi kwalokhu okubili:
- Kufanele nichithe isikhathi nomunye. Uma phakathi nesonto izibopho zomsebenzi zingakuvumeli ukuba nezikhathi eziningi, zama ukwenza lezo zikhathi zekhwalithi, ushiye ukungezwani nokukhathazeka. Vumela impelasonto, noma isikhathi sakho sokuzilibazisa, ukuthi singabi nesikhathi esimisiwe. Vumela ukuzimela kuvele ngokwakho, ngaphandle kwezibopho.
- Yazisa umlingani wakho. Futhi okuphambene nalokho. Nikezela amagama anomusa, isenzo sokuthembela kanye nobunzima. Izinto ezincane zinikeza ubumfihlo, ukuphepha, kanye ukuzizwa ufunwa.
- Ukucinga izimo ezintsha noma ehlukile ongashintsha ngayo inqubo yakho. Kwesinye isikhathi ushintsho oluncane luyashaqisa kakhulu. Usuku olusehhotela, obalekele ezothando, noma ithoyizi, incwadi, noma izingubo ezisikisela okuthile, kungakuvumela ukuthi uhlole ubukhulu obusha ongathuthukisa ngabo ubulili bakho.
- Nikeza isimanga kumlingani wakho. Isidlo sasemini esine-aphrodisiacs, usuku olungalindelekile endaweni entsha ...
- Ungalindi ukuthi umlingani wakho "aqale" noma "enze okuthile." Ukuya ocansini kuyinqubo phakathi kwabantu ababili lapho bobabili benesinyathelo, sokuba nobuciko, ukwenza hlola futhi ujabulele.
Ukuphetha, into ebaluleke kakhulu kulezi zimo gcina ukuxhumana okuhle nomlingani wethu, khuluma ngokwemvelo nangokuzethemba. Kumele siveze okusikhathazayo, okusikhathazayo noma lokho esikudingayo. Izinkinga zocansi azibangelwa njalo ukungabi naluthando ngakithi noma kozakwethu. Izinselelo ezikhona empilweni yethu njengabantu abashadile zihlala ziyindlela enhle yokwazana nokukhula mathupha. Ucansi lubalulekile ebudlelwaneni bethu futhi singafunda kulo nakithi ngaso sonke isikhathi, inqobo nje uma sisondela kulo ngokuzethemba nangobuqotho.