Kulezi zinsuku, umuntu ongenayo iselula akavamile kakhulu. Ngenxa yakho, kulula kakhulu ukufinyelela ku-inthanethi futhi uhlanganyele ekuxhumaneni okuhlukahlukene kwezenhlalo. Endabeni yemibhangqwana, ukusetshenziswa kweselula esishiwoyo kungaholela kulokho okwaziwa njengokungathembeki okubonakalayo. Ngokucasha ngasese nokusondelana, abantu abaningi, yize benophathina, baxoxa nabanye abantu abangaphandle kobudlelwano.
Yilapho kuvela khona impikiswano futhi uma lokhu kungathathwa njengohlobo lokungathembeki. Esihlokweni esilandelayo sikhuluma ngalokho okwaziwa njengokungathembeki okubonakalayo futhi ingaba namiphi imiphumela ekusaseni elihle labashadikazi.
Kusho ukuthini ukungathembeki okubonakalayo
Kukhona ukukhuluma ngokungathembeki, lapho umuntu egcina ukuxhumana okuthile nomuntu ongaphandle kombhangqwana, ngokushintshana ngemiyalezo yokuqukethwe kwezocansi noma izithombe ezithile eziyingozi. Ubukhulu bokungathembeki okunjalo buzoncika kakhulu ekutheni umlingani uqobo uvumela ini. Ezimweni eziningi kakhulu, Kungukuhlaselwa okuthembakele okungaba khona ngaphakathi kombhangqwana.
Ungakuthola kanjani ukungathembeki okubonakalayo
Kunezimpawu ezimbalwa ezingakhombisa ukuthi umuntu wenza ngokungathembeki kumlingani wakhe. Okunye okucacile kungenxa yokuthi awukaze udedele iselula yakho futhi uhlale uphatha nayo.
Yize imfihlo nokusondelana kwabantu kufanele kuhlonishwe ngaso sonke isikhathi, umuntu ongathembekile uqobo uyenqaba ukuvumela umlingani wakhe ukuthi abheke umakhalekhukhwini wakhe. Uyakwazi ukushintsha iphasiwedi ukuze umlingani wakhe angakwazi ukubona okukuselula uqobo. Lokhu ngokungangabazeki uphawu olucace bha lokuthi lowo muntu kungenzeka ukuthi kukhona akufihlayo.
Ungakunqoba kanjani ukungathembeki okubonakalayo
Njengakwezinye izinhlobo zokungathembeki, okubonakalayo kunganqotshwa inqobo nje uma kunentshisekelo yangempela evela kulowo mbhangqwana ukulungisa izinto. Nawa amathiphu amathathu angakusiza ukunqoba ukungathembeki okubonakalayo:
- Uma kunezinsolo ezithile ngokungathembeki okuthile, kubalulekile ukuxoxa ngezinto nomlingani futhi nizame ukuxazulula izinto. Ukuntuleka kokuxhumana, Kungadala ukuthi ibhola likhule kakhulu futhi nobudlelwano buphele.
- Kubalulekile ukuthola isizathu sokungathembeki okunjalo futhi kusuka lapho, funa izixazululo ezingcono kakhulu. Bobabili abantu kufanele benze konke okusemandleni ukubhekana nale nkinga.
- Kwesinye isikhathi, kuyadingeka ukuthi uye kuchwepheshe ukusiza ukunqoba ukungathembeki okunjalo. Akukho okwenzekayo ukuya kudokotela wezengqondo onguchwepheshe wemibhangqwana, ngoba kwesinye isikhathi kuthiwe uchwepheshe ubalulekile lapho uxazulula izinkinga ezinjalo.
Ekugcineni, ukungathembeki empeleni kungenye yezindlela zokungathembeki okufanele kubhekwane nazo ngqo. Uma kunentshisekelo emaqenjini, kungenzeka ukuthi isivumelwano kungafinyelelwa kuso futhi kuqalwe kabusha. Uma, ngokuphambene nalokho, kungekho ntshisekelo yokuqeda ukungathembeki okunjalo, ubudlelwano buzogcina sebunqamuka.