Lapho abantu ababili beqala ubudlelwano bacabanga ukuthi benzelwe impilo kanti abacabangi ngezinkinga zesikhathi esizayo ezingavela ngaphakathi kwawo. Kodwa-ke, ukuhlala ndawonye nezinto ezithile kungadala uchungechunge lwezinkinga okufanele zixazululwe futhi kubhekwane nazo. Enye inketho uma kukhulunywa ngokubuyisa lo mbhangqwana ukuba uphile ukuya kudokotela wezengqondo ogxile emibhangqwaneni.
Akukhona ngokufuna izigebengu kepha ekutholeni izixazululo ezisiza ukuqinisa lobo budlelwano futhi. Akuwona wonke umuntu okwaziyo ukubona amaphutha futhi azibeke ezandleni zochwepheshe omuhle ohlinzeka ngochungechunge lwamathuluzi wokuqondisa kabusha lo mbhangqwana.
Lo mbhangqwana kufanele ubonane nini nodokotela bengqondo
Uma unezinkinga nomlingani wakho, qaphela kahle izizathu zokuthi kungani kufanelekile ukuya kudokotela wengqondo wabashadikazi:
- Isixazululo salezi zinkinga kumele sihlangane. Kubalulekile ukuhlala phansi wazi ukuthi kukhona okungahambi kahle. Ngokunikezwe lokhu, esinye sezixazululo ezingaba khona ukuya kudokotela wezengqondo owazi ukuthi angasiza kanjani ukuxazulula izinkinga ezinjalo.
- Ukuntuleka kokuxhumana kwabashadikazi kungenye yezimbangela ezivame kakhulu okudingeka ukuthi ziye kuchwepheshe. Kubalulekile ukuthi ngamunye azi ukuthi omunye unjani nezinkinga abangaba nazo ebudlelwaneni.
- Ngaphandle kokuthandana ngokuphelele, abantu abaningi bazizwa benesizungu ngenxa yokushoda kothando kozakwethu. Lesi yisibonakaliso esicace bha sokuthi kukhona okungahambi kahle ngakho-ke kubalulekile ukuthola isixazululo ngakho.
- Kuliqiniso elinohlonze ukuthi ukufika kwengane kwabashadikazi kungadala ukuthi ubudlelwano buzamazame. Ukukhulisa ingane kuwumthwalo omkhulu kakhulu futhi kuyindaba yezimbili. Uma lokhu kungenzeki, izinkinga ziqala ngaphakathi kombhangqwana.
- Ucansi lungaba yinto ejwayelekile, okuholela ezinkingeni ebudlelwaneni. Uma lokhu kuqhubeka isikhathi futhi kungaxazululwa, kungenzeka ukuthi kungadala ukuphela kombhangqwana.
- Ngaphandle kokwethembana umlingani akakwazi ukuhlala isikhathi eside kakhulu. Ukwethemba kubalulekile futhi kubalulekile ukuze ubudlelwano buhlale isikhathi eside futhi bunempilo. Uma kwenzeka ukuthi ukungathembi okwesabekayo kuvele, kubalulekile ukuya kudokotela wezengqondo wabashadikazi ukuzama ukuthola izixazululo.
Kungani kubalulekile ukubona isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo sabashadile
Kunezinzuzo eziningi umbhangqwana oya kuchwepheshe ngale ndaba:
- Qinisa ubudlelwano nomunye umuntu futhi buyisa isifiso sokuchitha isikhathi nomlingani wakho.
- Thuthukisa ukuxhumana phakathi kwezithandani.
- Nikeza izixazululo ezingxabanweni ezingaba khona phakathi kobudlelwano.
- Thola ubudlelwano obunempilo nobuhlala njalo.
Ngamafuphi, lapho ubhekene nobunzima nezinkinga ngaphakathi kwabashadikazi into enhle ukubheka izixazululo bese uzama ukwenza isiqiniseko sokuthi konke kuhamba kahle futhi. Ukuya kusazi sokusebenza kwengqondo semibhangqwana kuyindlela enhle kakhulu yokuxazulula izingxabano ezahlukahlukene ezivela ebuhlotsheni.