Kuze kube namuhla, kusenabantu abaningi abavame ukudida uthando nokuncika. Yimiqondo emibili ehluke ngokuphelele futhi ukuthi ukugcina ubudlelwane obunothando obunempilo akuhlangene nohlobo lobudlelwano obuthembele kuye.
Lokhu kudideka kubangelwa ubukhulu obuncane umphakathi, Inikeza imizwa ehlukene engavela ngaphakathi kombhangqwana. Esihlokweni esilandelayo sizokhuluma ngezinsika eziyisisekelo okumele lusekelwe kuzo uthando olunempilo.
Uthando oluphilayo uma kuqhathaniswa nothando oluthembele kuye
Kufanele uqale emcabangweni wokuthi uthando yinto ekhethwa abantu ababili. Ngamunye unikela ngochungechunge lwamagugu asiza ubudlelwano ukuba buhambe kahle futhi ngaphandle kwezihibe. Kepha ukufuna nokuba nomunye umuntu akusho ukuthi bayadingeka kuwo wonke amahora osuku. Ngeke lube khona uthando oluthembele nganoma yisiphi isikhathi ngoba uma ubuhlobo buphela, bobabili abantu kumele babe namandla anele okwakha kabusha izimpilo zabo.
Ukwehlukana nomuntu omthandayo, okuhlala kunzima futhi kuyinkimbinkimbi kepha kuthiwa ubuhlungu yinto ecacisiwe kunoma yibuphi ubuhlobo. Endabeni yothando oluthembele kuye, kunengxenye ebalulekile yokulawulwa ngomunye wabantu okungafanele ivunyelwe ngaphansi kwanoma yiziphi izimo. Uthando olunempilo futhi ngaphandle kwanoma yikuphi ubuthi kumele kusekelwe enkululekweni yabantu bobabili nokungabi nalutho oluthile lokwesaba ukuthukwa okungenzeka kube khona ngokujabulela izenzo ezahlukahlukene ezikhiqizwe ngaphandle kobudlelwano.
Izinsika eziyisisekelo nezisisekelo othandweni olunempilo
Uthando oluthathwa njengolunempilo futhi olusuka ekuthembekeni okwesabekayo, kufanele lusekelwe ngaso sonke isikhathi ezinsikeni ezinhlanu ezingathathwa njengezisisekelo futhi ezibalulekile:
- Ebudlelwaneni obuthathwa njengobunempilo, ukuxhumana okuhle nokuxoxisana phakathi kwabantu bobabili akunakushoda. Kufanele wazi ukuthi ungalalela kanjani konke okushiwo elinye iqembu futhi nivumelane ngezinkinga ezingaba khona.
- Insika yesibili ukwethembana phakathi kwalokhu okubili. Kufanele uthembele ngokugcwele ngoba uma kungenjalo kungenzeka ukuthi umona owesabekayo uzovela futhi lokhu kuholele kobuthi obuthile phakathi kwalabo abashadile. Uma kungekho ukwethembana, akunakwenzeka ukuqhubeka nobudlelwano.
- Emshadweni kufanele ngaso sonke isikhathi nihloniphane. Kubalulekile ukuhlonipha umkhakha wangasese nanoma yiluphi uhlobo lwesinqumo ofuna ukusithatha. Ukulawula yonke into kuyisibonakaliso esicacile nesifanele sobudlelwano obuthembele.
- Ukuphindaphinda kubalulekile kumbhangqwana. Ngamunye kufanele athole futhi anikele ngezingxenye ezilinganayo. Kumele kube nokubandakanyeka okuphelele kulo mbhangqwana. Kwanele ukusho futhi, ukuthi la malungu amabili ayalingana ngamalungelo nezibopho ezifanayo.
- Uthando nokubonisa uthando nakho kuyisihluthulelo sokuqinisa ubudlelwano obunempilo ngangokunokwenzeka. Ukusondelana kwabo bobabili abantu kubalulekile lapho kujabuliswa izikhathi zodwa nabashadikazi. Lokhu kuzosiza ekuqiniseni ubudlelwano bakho kakhulu.