Kuliqiniso langempela futhi elicacile ukuthi abantu badinga ukusungula izixhumanisi ezahlukahlukene ebudlelwaneni nabanye, ukuze uthole uthando. Endabeni yemibhangqwana, uhlobo lokunamathiselwe olukhona kuzo luzokhombisa ukuthi ubudlelwano buphilile yini noma uma, kunalokho, bunobuthi futhi bungaxwayiswa kahle.
Esihlokweni esilandelayo sizokhuluma nawe ngendlela eningiliziwe, yezinhlobo ezahlukahlukene zokunamathiselwe ezingenzeka ebudlelwaneni kanye nezici zabo.
Amakilasi okunamathiselwe kulowo mbhangqwana
Lapho ukhuluma ngokunamathiselwe ebudlelwaneni obuthile, Kumele kuqashelwe ukuthi kungaba nezigaba ezintathu noma izinhlobo:
- Uhlobo lokuqala lokunamathiselwe aluqiniseki futhi kungakhombisa ubuthi obukhulu ngaphakathi kwezithandani. Ukungazethembi nokungathembani kwelinye lamaqembu kuphawula ikusasa lobudlelwano okukhulunywa ngabo. Umuntu onobuthi futhi engavikelekile uyakwazi ukuphatha izinto njalo ukuze alawule izenzo zombhangqwana ngaso sonke isikhathi. Udinga ukuba nomlingani wakho eceleni kwakho usuku lonke, ngoba ukubheka njengento yempahla yakho nokuthi ingeyakho. Umbhangqwana ozithobayo uswele isikhala somuntu futhi ulawulwa empilweni yabo yansuku zonke.
- Uhlobo lwesibili lokunamathiselwe olungenzeka kule mbhangqwana yilokho okwaziwa njengokude noma ukubanda. Kulokhu, azikho neze izimpawu zothando nothando ebudlelwaneni futhi kubalulekile ukuba nendawo yomuntu siqu ngokuphelele kude nezithandani. Indlela yokwenza kulolu hlobo lobudlelwano ihluke ngokuphelele ezindimeni ezijwayelekile zombhangqwana wendabuko obhekwayo. Inkinga yalolu hlobo lokunamathisela ivela lapho omunye wabantu abadinga uthando nokuthandwa kothandekayo futhi engakutholi. Ukuze okunamathiselwe kude kusebenza ebudlelwaneni, bobabili abantu kumele bavumelane futhi bamukele izinkambiso ezisunguliwe.
- Ukunamathiselwa okuphephile kubonisa ukuthi lo mbhangqwana uphilile nokuthi ungahlala ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Ngokungafani nokunamathiselwe okungavikelekile, ukwethemba uzakwethu kudlala indima ebalulekile futhi ebalulekile kulolu hlobo lokunamathiselwe. Ukuboniswa kothando nokuhlala njalo futhi lokhu kwenza abashadikazi bajabulele ukuzinza okukhulu. Ukuxhumana phakathi kobudlelwano kungenye into ebalulekile yokuthi konke kuhambe kahle.
Ekugcineni, lezi yizinhlobo zokunamathiselwe ezingenzeka ngaphakathi kombhangqwana. Ukunamathiselwa okuphephile kufanele kube yikhona okukhona kubo bonke ubudlelwano ngoba kufana nokuthi umbhangqwana uphilile futhi ufuna ukuhlala kahle. Uma kwenzeka kukhona okungavikelekile noma okunamathiselwe okukude, kubalulekile ukuhlala eduze kombhangqwana futhi ukhombise ukuthi ubudlelwano obunjalo abulungile ukuthi isibopho sigcinwe. Njengezinto ezibalulekile njengokuthembela, ukuthanda noma ukuhlonipha othandekayo, kumele babe khona njalo ebudlelwaneni obuthathwa njengobunempilo obungenabo ubuthi.