Izithandani ezisencane ezinezinkinga ebudlelwaneni, zisolana ngezinkinga
Isikhathi sokuhlukana nomlingani noma ubudlelwano besikhathi eside akusona isidlo sokunambitheka okuhle kunoma ngubani. Ngesikhathi sokuhlukana, kuvela uchungechunge lwemizwa nemizwelo okunzima ukuyiphatha. Lezi zinhlobo zemizwa zizohluka ngokuya ngezimbangela eziholele ekuhlukaneni kwabashadikazi.
Akufani-ke ngakho ukuthi lezi zithandani sezihlukene ngenxa yokungathembeki kunalokho okuphelile ngenxa yokuthi uthando alusekho. Ngaphandle kwalokho, imizwa ayifani kumuntu onquma ukubuqeda ubuhlobo, lokho kokunye okulindelwe ukuphela okufanayo.
Izigaba noma izigaba ngenkathi kuhlukaniswa umbhangqwana
Yize bonke ubuhlobo buhlukile, kunezigaba ezilandelanayo ukuthi umuntu ohlukana nomlingani wakhe impilo yakhe yonke uvame ukudlula:
- Umuzwa wokuqala ovela kumbhangqwana noma komunye wawo ukudumala. Lesi sici senza ukuthi bobabili abantu bahlukane kancane kancane, kuvuse imizwa enjengokudabuka, ukungabaza noma intukuthelo.
- Isigaba sesibili saziwa njengesikhathi sokwethuka. Elinye lamalungu amabili alo mbhangqwana linquma ukukhulisa ukuhlukana bese elinye iqembu lifikelwa ukwethuka lapho isinqumo esinjalo singalindelekile. Njengoba sibhekene nalokhu, ingxenye ethintekile yombhangqwana ingenza konke okusemandleni ukuze ingafinyeleli ekugcineni kwekhefu lokugcina. Ungacela usizo kumndeni noma kubangani noma kochwepheshe. Uma konke lokhu kungenakugwenywa, umuntu angasamukela kancane kancane lesi simo futhi ahlukane ngaphandle kwezinkinga.
- Lapho isinqumo sesamukelwe yizinhlangothi zombili, kuba nokuqhelelana ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo. Imizwa yokungabaza nobuhlungu ivela eqinisweni lokuthi kuzokwenzekani esikhathini esizayo. Kuyisigaba esiyinkimbinkimbi ikakhulukazi kubo bobabili, ikakhulukazi esimweni sokuthi kunezingane ezithintekayo.
- Isigaba esilandelayo ukwamukela ukwahlukana bese uqala ukubona ukuthi isisombululo esizedlula zonke kwaba ukwehlukana. Bobabili abantu bazama ukuba nethemba ngangokunokwenzeka futhi bazame ukwakha kabusha izimpilo zabo. Imizwa yokufutheka, intukuthelo noma intukuthelo ingena esikhundleni sezinengqondo eziningi.
- Isigaba sokugcina ukudala impilo entsha nokushiya ubudlelwane obudala esikhathini esedlule. Kunabantu abangafiki kulesi sigaba kuze kube ngemuva kweminyaka embalwa, ikakhulukazi uma bengakwazi ukwehlukana nesikhathi esedlule abanamathele kuso isikhathi eside. Kufanele wazi ukuthi ubheke kanjani phambili futhi wazi ukuthi ikhefu yinto engenzeka kule mpilo futhi esele ngemuva unomphela.
Ngamafuphi, Ukwehlukana kwezithandani akuyona into elula kunoma ngubani Futhi kubalulekile ukuncika emndenini nakubangane uma kukhulunywa ngokudlula esikhathini esinzima kangaka. Kuhle ukuba nombono omuhle futhi wakhe amaphrojekthi amasha akusiza ukuthi uthokozele impilo ngangokunokwenzeka.