Ukuba nomlingani kuhilela izici ezinhle ezaqala ekuqiniseni ukuzethemba ekuthuthukiseni imizwa yabantu bobabili. Kodwa-ke, kunezimo lapho umuntu angazizwa eyedwa ngokuphelele, yize ugcwele ebudlelwaneni bezothando.
Uma lokhu kwenzeka, kubalulekile ukuthola isizathu noma imbangela bese uzama ukukuxazulula ukuze ubudlelwano bungapheli noma buphele.
Izimbangela zokuthi kungani umuntu ezizwa enesizungu ebudlelwaneni
Kunezizathu eziningi zokuthi kungani umuntu, yize enophathina, ungazizwa unesizungu. Ezikhathini eziningi lobu bodwa bungaba ngenxa yezinkinga nomlingani wakho, kepha kwezinye izikhathi kubangelwa ukungaziphathi kahle noma ukuziphatha kwakho.
- Esinye sezizathu zesizungu esinjalo kungenzeka ukuthi singekho, ngoba okunamathiselwe umbhangqwana onakho akuyona into efunwayo noma leyo oyifunayo. Isibopho phakathi kombhangqwana siyisihluthulelo lapho bobabili abantu bezizwa bethandwa futhi beqondwa. Kubalulekile ukuthi okunamathiselwe kuhambisane futhi kube yilokho okufiswa yibo bobabili abantu futhi ngale ndlela kugwenywe ukuthi elinye lamaqembu ebudlelwaneni lizizwe lilodwa.
- Ngezinye izikhathi, isizungu sidalwa yizinkinga ezingokomzwelo ezihlukunyezwa ngomunye wabantu abasebudlelwaneni. Izinkinga ezinjalo kufanele zixazululwe ngokushesha okukhulu ngoba kungenjalo zingalimaza kakhulu ikusasa elihle labashadikazi. Awungeke uthwale umlingani wakho abhekane nezinkinga ezinjalo bese uzivalela emhlabeni oholela kulutho.
- Ukuchitha isikhathi esincane nomlingani wakho kungaba imbangela yesizungu. Izibopho zomsebenzi noma zomuntu siqu zivame ukudala ukuthi umbhangqwana ungasitholi isikhathi sodwa.
- Ukuzijwayeza nokuhamba kwesikhathi kungaholela kokungathakazeli okuthile phakathi kwezithandani futhi ngawo ekubonakaleni kwesizungu esesabekayo. Isibopho siyancipha futhi lokhu kwenza umuntu azizwe enesizungu yize esebudlelwaneni.
Yini okufanele yenziwe uma kuba nesizungu ngaphakathi kwabashadikazi
Isixazululo sizoxhomeka ngaso sonke isikhathi kunembangela noma isizathu esenza ukuthi ube nesizungu esinjalo. Ngemuva kwalokho sikunikeza uchungechunge lwemihlahlandlela noma amathiphu angasiza umuntu ukuthi aphume kulomuzwa wokuba nesizungu:
- Into yokuqala okufanele yenziwe ukuhlala eduze kwalezi zithandani bese uhlaziya isimo ngomoya ophansi. Akujwayelekile ukuthi uzizwe uwedwa futhi leyo yinto okufanele ixazululwe ngokushesha okukhulu.
- Kubalulekile kuqala kunakho konke ukujabula wena futhi ukusuka lapho, nikeza uthando kumlingani.
- Ukuxhumana nomlingani wakho kubalulekile futhi kubalulekile ukuze yonke into ihambe kahle ngangokunokwenzeka. Uma kunanoma iluphi uhlobo lwenkinga, kubalulekile ukuthi ukhulume ngayo nomuntu omthandayo.
- Akunasidingo sokwenza izinkuni zesihlahla esiwile. Kungenzeka ukuthi ubudlelwano abusebenzi nhlobo futhi kungcono kakhulu ukubulala lezi zithandani ngaphambi kokuba umonakalo ube mkhulu.