Kokubili ukuzethemba okuphansi nokuphakeme kungadala izinkinga ezingokomzwelo nezenhlalo yabantu. Ngenkathi amazinga aphezulu okuzethemba angaxhunyaniswa ne-narcissism, amazinga aphansi okuzethemba angahlobene nokukhathazeka komphakathi, ukungazethembi nokudangala.
Uhlobo lokuzethemba olunempilo kunakho konke ukuzethemba okulingene, okususelwa kakhulu ekwaziseni ukubaluleka komuntu okungaphansi kokuziqhathanisa nabanye. Ngalo mqondo, uma inhloso yakho ukukhulisa ukuzethemba okukhulu kuwe, kungcono ukugxila ekubeni namazinga aphezulu okuzethemba. Ungaphuthelwa yilezi zindlela zokuzizwa ungcono ngawe.
Yeka ukuziqhathanisa nabanye abantu
Ukuzama ukukhuphula ukuzethemba kwakho ngokuzilinganisa nabanye kuyiphutha elikhulu. Isiko lethu lokuncintisana lisitshela ukuthi kufanele sikhetheke futhi sibe ngaphezu kwesilinganiso ukuze sizizwe kahle ngathi, kepha ngeke sonke sibe ngaphezu kwesilinganiso ngasikhathi sinye ...
Kukhona njalo umuntu ocebile, okhangayo noma ophumelelayo kunathi. Lapho sizihlola ngokwalokho esikuzuzile kwangaphandle, imibono kanye namakhono abanye abantu, “umuzwa wethu wokuzethemba ubhonsa njengebhola le-ping-pong, ukhuphuka uphinde wehle igxathu negxathu ngempumelelo yethu yamuva noma ukwehluleka. Imithombo yezokuxhumana iyandisa le nkinga, njengoba abantu bethumela izikhathi zabo ezinhle nempumelelo enhle, ukuthi siqhathanisa nempilo yethu yansuku zonke engcolisiwe nenamaphutha.
Ukuze sakhe ukuzethemba okuhle, kufanele siyeke ukuziqhathanisa nabanye. Esikhundleni sokukhathazeka ngokuthi ulinganisa kanjani abantu abaseduze kwakho, cabanga ngohlobo lomuntu ofuna ukuba yilo. Setha izinhloso bese wenza isenzo esihambisana nezindinganiso zakho.
Phila ngokuvumelana nezimiso zakho zokuziphatha
Ukuzethemba nokuzethemba kuncike KUKUHLONIPHA. Uma uphila impilo ehambisana nezimiso zakho, noma ngabe ziyini, maningi amathuba okuthi uzihloniphe, uzizwe uvikeleke kakhulu, futhi ube ngcono nakakhulu empilweni. Isibonelo, ucwaningo olwenziwe eNyuvesi yaseMichigan luthole ukuthi abafundi abasusele ukuzethemba kwabo emithonjeni yangaphakathi, njengokuba ngumuntu olungile noma ohlangabezana nezindinganiso zokuziphatha, bathola amamaki aphezulu futhi mancane amathuba okuthi basebenzise utshwala nezidakamizwa noma babe nezinkinga ukudla.
Ukuze uzizwe umuhle ngawe, kubalulekile ukuba nobuqotho futhi uqiniseke ukuthi izenzo zakho ziyafana nezabo amazwi. Isibonelo, uma ukudla okunempilo nokubukeka kahle kakhulu kubalulekile kuwe, uzozizwa ungcono uma ugcina indlela yokuphila enempilo. Lapho izenzo zakho zingafani namazwi akho, usengozini enkulu yokuzihlasela. Umgxeki wangaphakathi uthanda ukuveza la maphutha. Kubalulekile ukucabanga ngezimiso zakho eziyisisekelo bese wenza ngokuvumelana nalezo zinkolelo lapho uzama ukwakha ukuzethemba kwakho.
Yenza okuthile okunengqondo
Njengabantu, sivame ukuzizwa kahle ngathi lapho senza okuthile okunengqondo, sibamba iqhaza emisebenzini emikhulu kunathi futhi / noma esiza abanye. Le yindlela enhle yokwakha ukuzethemba nokuthuthukisa amazinga okunempilo okuzethemba.
Lapho wenza imisebenzi enenjongo, kubalulekile ukuthi ucabange ngalokho okubonakala kunenjongo kakhulu kuwe. Kwabanye abantu, lokhu kungasho ukuvolontiya endaweni yokuhlala engenakhaya, ukufundisa izingane, ukubamba iqhaza kwezepolitiki zendawo, ingadi nabangani, njll. Ngakho-ke ungathola nokuzethemba okuhle.