Ukulawula ukucindezeleka akulula kangako indlela yokulibiza. Naphezu kokuhlala naye nsuku zonke, akuthina sonke esingabhekana naye ngendlela esingathanda ngayo. Kodwa kufanele kushiwo ukuthi nakuba abanye abantu bekholelwa ukuthi konke kuyeza kubo, kwabanye yisikhathi sokubhekana nakho.
Izindlela ezimbili noma imibono emibili eyenza ubuchopho bethu busebenze ngendlela ehlukile, yingakho, abantu abaqinile ngokomqondo bayazi ukuthi bangabhekana kanjani nokucindezeleka futhi bazokwenza ngendlela ephumelela kakhulu. Sizobhala lokho okumele basitshele khona ukuze nathi sikusebenzise.
Ukucindezeleka njengengxenye yempilo
Kuhlale kuthiwa uma ungamehluli joyina. Nokho, kulokhu sikhuluma ngento efanayo. Esikhundleni sokufela ukholo ngoba ubhekene nesimo esinzima, kufanele ugcine wonke amandla akho ukuze uphume kuwo futhi ungachithi amandla ngokukhipha imicabango emibi nakakhulu, okuyinto yebo, engasenzeli lutho. Kufanele ucabange ukuthi kwesinye isikhathi, kufanele silwe nezimo eziyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu ngoba ziyingxenye yempilo. Kodwa khumbula ukuthi akukho okuphakade futhi kuzodlula. Ngakho-ke, kufanele ubeke ubuso obuhle kakhulu.
Benza idrama yezinkinga ukuze balawule ukucindezeleka
Kuyinto engenakugwenywa futhi ukuthi uma sicindezelekile, sibona yonke into emnyama kakhulu kunalokho eyikho. Kodwa kufanele ukhumbule ukuthi kukhona nombala ompunga. Okungukuthi, izinga eliphakathi phakathi kwalokho kungabi nalutho futhi elizosisiza ukuba silinganisele imicabango yethu. Kungcono ukuthi sime sicabange ngalokho okusibangela ukucindezeleka futhi sibone imiphumela emihle kufanele ubahambele. Kufanele nje sibanikeze ukubaluleka abanako ngempela! Ukuze ungangezi ngaphezu kwalokho okungadingekile.
Babheja ngokugcina izinto abazithandayo
Ukuzama ukubhekana nesimo esinzima, akukho okufana nokubheja kulokho esikuthanda ngempela. Okusho ukuthi, chitha isikhathi sibe nekhanda elimatasa, isibonelo ezintweni esizilibazisa ngazo. Ngoba konke esikuthandayo kuzosenza siphumule ekukhathazekeni futhi kwandise umuzwa wenhlalakahle nenjabulo. Ukuzinika ikhefu njalo kungenye yezindlela ezingcono kakhulu zokulawula ukucindezeleka. Ngale ndlela, singakwazi ukwenza isikhathi sayo yonke into, ngoba siyasidinga. Njengoba sichitha amahora angu-24 sicabanga into efanayo amahora angu-18, ekugcineni inkinga izoba nkulu ngisho noma ingenjalo ngempela.
Bazungeza abantu abalungile
Kuliqiniso ukuthi asifani sonke kulendawo. Ngoba abanye abantu abahlushwa ukucindezeleka bavame ukuhoxa kukho konke futhi wonke umuntu agxile kukho. Kodwa abantu abaqinile ngokwengqondo bazokwenza okuphambene futhi kungenye yezinyathelo ezibalulekile ezingathathwa. Ngoba lnoma okungcono ukuthi uhlale unabantu eduze kwakho futhi ungazihlukanisi. Kodwa phakathi kwalabo bantu esibalulile, akukho okufana nabantu abaqondile. Zizosenza sichithe izikhathi eziphazamisekile futhi sibone ukuthi izinto zingasondezwa kanjani ngezindlela ezihlukahlukene.
Babheka uhlangothi oluhle njalo
Futhi igama elithi 'positive' liphinde libe ngumlingiswa oyinhloko futhi akumangalisi. Ngoba uma abantu abasizungezile benethemba, lokhu sekuvele kuyiphuzu esivuna lona lokulawula ingcindezi. Kodwa uma sibonga kuye singabheka uhlangothi oluhle lwezinto, okungcono nakakhulu. Hhayi lokho kuphela kodwa ukugxila eqinisweni lenkinga, njengoba izikhathi eziningi akukona okuningi njengoba sicabanga. Uma kunjalo, gcina lokho kulinganisela okusenza sibe nethemba ekugcineni komgwaqo. Kukho konke lokhu, udinga ukuphumula, isikhathi sakho samahhala, ukuzivocavoca nokuzilibazisa nsuku zonke. Uzobona ukuthi ukulawula ukucindezeleka kancane kancane kubonakala kulula kangakanani kunalokho obukucabanga.