Akungabazeki ukuthi ukuphela kwanoma ibuphi ubuhlobo inhlalakahle yabo. Uma lokhu kungenzeki, abantu abaningi baba nomuzwa wokwesaba ukushiywa umlingani wabo. Lokhu kwesaba noma ukwesaba kwenza umuntu angakwazi ukujabulela ngokugcwele umlingani anabo.
Esihlokweni esilandelayo sikunikeza uchungechunge lwezihluthulelo zokunqoba ukwesaba ukulahlwa kanye ukuze ukwazi ukujabulela ubudlelwano ngokugcwele.
Izihluthulelo zokunqoba ukwesaba ukushiywa umlingani wakho
Ukwesaba ukulahlwa okunjalo kuyoxhomeka kakhulu ekunamatheleni lowo muntu abe nakho ebuntwaneni. Ukuhlukumezeka kwasebuntwaneni njengesehlukaniso somzali kungadala umuzwa onjalo wokulahlwa ohlangothini lombhangqwana. Nakuba kungase kubonakale kuyinkinga engavamile, iqiniso liwukuthi abantu abaningi banomuzwa onjalo lapho besebudlelwaneni ngokugcwele. Lokhu kwesaba kuholela ekungazethembini nasekungathembeni okungalilungele ikusasa lobudlelwano uqobo.
Ungalahlekelwa imininingwane yochungechunge lokhiye noma amathiphu azokusiza unqobe ukwesaba ukushiywa umlingani wakho:
- Into yokuqala okufanele yenziwe ukukhomba imbangela noma isizathu sokuthi kungani ukwesaba okunjalo kukhiqizwa. Kusukela lapha kuqhubeke, kulula kakhulu futhi kulula ukubhekana nenkinga enjalo futhi uqinisekise ukuthi ubuhlobo abubi engozini.
- Ukwesaba noma ukwesaba ukushiywa umlingani ngokuvamile kungenxa yezinkinga zokuzethemba. Kuvamile ukuba umuntu othintekile abe nokungazethembi okuthile okubangela ukwesaba okunjalo. Ngakho-ke kubalulekile ukuzama ukuphakamisa ukuzethemba okunjalo futhi uzuze ukuzethemba okukhulu.
- Ukuhlala phansi ukhulume nesithandwa sakho ubuso nobuso ngale nkinga kubalulekile ekunqobeni lolo valo lokulahlwa. Ukuzwa ukuthi ukulahlwa kuyinto engelona iqiniso nhlobo kuyisihluthulelo sokukwazi ukunqoba ukwesaba okunjalo.
- Kungase kwenzeke ukuthi inkinga ingaxazululeki, naphezu kokuzama ngazo zonke izindlela. Ezimweni ezinjalo akukho okwenzekayo ukufuna usizo phesheya futhi Iya ohlotsheni oluthile lokwelapha imibhangqwana ukuze unqobe ukwesaba okunjalo.
- Elinye icebiso uma kuziwa ekunqobeni ukwesaba ukushiywa umlingani wakho ukuzinakekela futhi uzuze inhlalakahle ethile yomuntu siqu. Kunconywa ukwenza imikhuba ethile esiza ukujabula nokushiya ukwesaba ukulahlwa kombhangqwana. Ngale ndlela kungaba kuhle ukuzilolongela umdlalo ophumuzayo noma ukuzikhipha nabangane.
Ngamafuphi, Akulula neze ukugcina ubuhlobo nomunye umuntu futhi uhlale uzwa ukwesaba ukulahlwa. Uma kubhekwa lokhu, kubalulekile ukuthola ukwesekwa ngumlingani lapho unqoba leyo nkinga. Khumbula ukuthi akulula noma kulula ukunqoba ukwesaba okunjalo futhi kudinga ukubekezela nokubekezela okukhulu. Ukucabanga ngenhlalakahle nenjabulo yombhangqwana kuyisihluthulelo futhi kubaluleke kakhulu ukukwazi ukunqoba ukwesaba okunjalo futhi ujabulele ngokugcwele ubuhlobo ngokwawo.