Intukuthelo iwuhlobo lomzwelo olucekela phansi ngokuphelele noma yibuphi ubuhlobo. Nakuba uthando lukhona, intukuthelo yenza ukuhlalisana kungenzeki futhi ukungajabuli kuzinza ngokugcwele ebuhlotsheni obushiwo. Uma kungekho ukulawula intukuthelo, ubuhlobo bugcina bubhujiswe ngokuphelele.
Esihlokweni esilandelayo siyakubonisa ungalawula kanjani phakathi kwabashadile.
Izinkinga zolaka kwabashadile
Ukuxabana njalo nokuthukuthela ngawo wonke amahora osuku kuyinto ecekela phansi noma yibuphi ubuhlobo. Injabulo ishintsha ngokuphelele ukungajabuli, okuholela ekubhujisweni okuphelele kwesibopho esidaliwe. Intukuthelo, intukuthelo, ukulwa kubangela ukungajabuli nokungakhululeki okukhulu emaphathini.
Ungaxoxa ngaso sonke isikhathi nomlingani wakho ngenhlonipho nangendlela ezolile. Intukuthelo yenza konke kuhlakazeke futhi Ukungqubuzana kuya ngokuya kuvame osukwini lwezithandani. Ngakho-ke kubalulekile ukwazi ukuthi ungayilawula kanjani intukuthelo futhi ukwazi ukuyilawula ngendlela efanele.
Indlela yokulawula intukuthelo ebudlelwaneni
- Okokuqala kufanele uthole inkinga ebangela ukuqhuma kwentukuthelo okunjalo. Uma usunikezwe ukuthi yini ebangela intukuthelo eshiwo, kuhle ukucabanga ngendlela ezolile neqoqiwe uma kuwufanele ngempela ukuthukuthela. Ezimweni eziningi, izimo zivela ezintweni ezincane ezilula okufanele zikhohlwe futhi zihambe.
- Kuhle ukucabanga ngezixazululo ezithile ezingalimazi inhlalakahle yombhangqwana. Akufanele uzivumele uthathwe intukuthelo futhi Cabanga ngokubaluleka kobudlelwano. Kulezi zimo, ukubekezela lapho ukhululekile kubalulekile ukuze izinto zingabi nomthelela omubi ekusaseni elihle lombhangqwana.
- Ukulawula kungesinye isici uma kuziwa ekuqinisekiseni ukuthi intukuthelo ayilimazi ubuhlobo. Ngaphambi kokuthi ngiqhume kufanele wazi ukuthi ucabanga kanjani kanye nokulinganisa imiphumela engaba khona kumbhangqwana wokuqhuma kwentukuthelo.
- Ukwazi ukuzwelana nabashadile kuyinto engasiza ukulawula intukuthelo.
- Kuhle ukuyibeka eceleni ngokuphelele leyo micabango enobugovu kanye nengenangqondo. Awukwazi ukusola yonke into komunye umuntu.
- Kufanele wazi ukuthi ukwamukela kanjani umbhangqwana njengoba unjalo, kokubili ubuhle bayo kanye neziphambeko zayo. Ekubekezeleleni nasekuphaneni amandla okuba nobudlelwano obuhle ngaphandle kokumemeza noma ukucasuka.
- Imicabango engemihle kumele ibekwe eceleni futhi ube nomqondo omuhle
- Imibukiso yothando kufanele iqhubeke ukuqinisa isibopho esidaliwe.
- Uze ukwazi ukuphatha intukuthelo kubalulekile ukugwema izimo ezihlukene zokungqubuzana nombhangqwana.
- Kunezinyathelo ezithile zokuphumula njengoba kunjalo nge-yoga noma ukuzindla, engasiza ukukhulula ukungezwani okuthile futhi ilawule izimo ezithile ezilimaza ubuhlobo.
- Kulezo zimo lapho intukuthelo iqhubeka naphezu kwemizamo yamaqembu ukuyigwema, Ungaya kuchwepheshe ukusiza ukuxazulula inkinga enjalo. Kunemibhangqwana eminingi ethatha isinqumo sokwelashelwa ukudambisa intukuthelo yomunye wabathintekayo.
Ngamafuphi, Intukuthelo iwumzwelo ongabhubhisa umbhangqwana othile. Akwamukelekile ukulwa ngaso sonke isikhathi futhi uguqule ukuphilisana kube inkundla yempi yangempela. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ukuqhuma kwentukuthelo kwenza kube nzima ngombhangqwana ukuphila ndawonye ngokusekelwe enjabulweni. Kungakho kubalulekile ukwazi ukuthi ungayilawula kanjani intukuthelo futhi uxazulule izingxabano ezihlukene ngendlela enengqondo nepholile.