Ukuqubuka kuvamile ezinganeni ezincane, ikakhulukazi kulabo abancane abangaluphathi kahle ulimi futhi bakuthola kunzima ukuveza ngamagama leyo mizwa abayizwa ngaso sonke isikhathi. Ngisho nabantu abadala kwesinye isikhathi bakuthola kunzima ukubeka amagama emizweni futhi ngenxa yalesi sizathu, kubalulekile ukuthi abantu abadala baqale ukulawula imizwa yabo futhi bazi ukuthi bangayiphatha kanjani kahle, ngale ndlela ungafundisa ingane yakho amasu amahle kakhulu.
Intukuthelo ingadalwa yizizathu eziningi, njengokuntuleka kokuxhumana, kodwa futhi kungadalwa ezinye izizathu, njengalapho ingane isijwayele ukuba nakho konke ekufunayo ngesikhathi eyifunayo. Lokhu kungaba yinkinga enkulu ukuxazululwa ngokuzayo. Izingane zidinga ukufunda ukuthi awunakho okufunayo ngaso sonke isikhathi, yize ekuqaleni lokhu kubangela intukuthelo.
Izingane zingafunda ukuthi ukucasula kuyindlela esheshayo yokulawula abazali babo futhi okubi kakhulu, indlela engcono yokuthola abakufunayo. Uma bethukuthela futhi 'beyiphazamisa', abazali abaningi nje ukwehlisa intuthu kunganikeza izingane zabo lokho abakufunayo ukuze nje bangaqhamuki ngentukuthelo. Le akuyona indlela, ngoba izokulethela izinkinga ezinkulu ngokuzayo.
Lapho ubhekene nentukuthelo: hlisa umoya
Ukuze ukwazi ukubhekana nokuhlukumezeka, into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuhlala uzolile kuqala ukuze ukwazi ukwehlisa umsindo wengane ezwa imizwa enamandla kangaka. Ukuthintana ngokomzimba kuyadingeka ukuze izingane zehlise umoya, ngakho-ke ukubanikeza isandla sakho noma ukubanga kahle cishe kuyimpumuzo esheshayo yemizwa yabo eguqukile. Lapho ingane isizolile, kungaleso sikhathi (futhi kuphela lapho) lapho kukhulunywa nayo futhi kuxoxwe ngokuziphatha kwayo.
Kuyadingeka ukukhumbula ukuthi lapho ingane ihlukumezeka, kuyadingeka ukuthi ukhombe intukuthelo nalokho okulindeleke esikhathini esizayo sokuziphatha kwabo, kepha ungabizi izingane 'njengezimbi' ngokukhombisa imizwa yazo ejulile ifomu le-huff. Izinhlupheko zibonisa kuphela ukuthi zizizwa kanjani nokuthi azikwazi kanjani ukukutshela ngenye indlela.
Ukuxhumana kuyadingeka
Ukusebenza ngokuxhumana okuhle kusukela ebuncaneni kubalulekile ukuthi bangene emkhubeni wokukwazi ukuxhumana ngokukhululeka nabazali babo. Bangabuzwa ngqo ukuthi kungani bethukuthele (bazofunda ukuqamba imizwa yabo, ukukhomba inkinga futhi okungcono kakhulu, ukuthola izixazululo). Ngakho-ke, lapho sebebonisene, bazodinga usizo lwakho ukuthola ezinye izindlela nezixazululo ezibenza bazizwe bengcono futhi baxazulule inkinga ngendlela efanelekile.
Ngaphezu kokuxhumana, ukubekezela akunakuntuleka lapho ubhekene nentukuthelo. Ingane ekhombisa ukumemeza, ukukhala nokucasuka okuningi idinga ukubekezela kwakho nenduduzo. Into yokugcina ayidingayo ukuklabalasa kwakho noma imikhuba yakho emibi. Unokuphatheka kabi ngokomzwelo angazi ukuthi angakuveza kanjani ngenye indlela futhi uyakudinga, ube ngumhlahlandlela wakhe ongcono kakhulu wokuziqonda futhi ufunde nokuziveza.
Ukuphatha imizwa
Izingane zidinga ukufunda ukuphatha imizwa yazo ngokufanele ngozwela, ukuzethemba nangokuxhumana. Ukuphefumula okujulile kuyisidingo sokuthoba ingqondo ephazamisekile futhi ukuze baqonde ngakolunye uhlangothi ukuthi kunezinye izindlela zokuxhumana nokuthi ukucasuka akuwona neze umqondo omuhle wokuveza imizwa yabo.
Kubalulekile ukuthi abancane bathathe imithwalo yemfanelo njengoba bebancane nokuthi kusetshenzelwe ukuzimela nokuzimela ukuze babone ukuthi bayakwazi ukwenza izinto kahle nokulawula imizwa yabo. Ukuncoma kuyindlela enhle yokwakha ukuzethemba nokunciphisa ukucasuka, njalo ngesikhathi esifanele futhi ungadluli.
Nginabancane ababili, omdala kunabo bonke omncane unyaka nohhafu, iqiniso liwukuthi, impilo yami iguqukile, izingane zami ziyinjabulo yami, injabulo ekhaya, kodwa angikwazi ukuyeka ukubona ukuthi kunzima ukuhlala uzolile lapho ngikhathele noma ngikhathazekile, futhi basekuphakameni kwayo, ukhale lapho ngibamemeza angizizwa ngingumama ongcono kakhulu futhi kunzima ukuthi nginabo usuku lonke ngedwa ngakho konke. ikhanda lami ngokubafundisa ngendlela engcono, i-vetda ukuthi iseluleko sesifikile kimi kuhle kakhulu ukuze ngiqhubeke nokuthola amandla… .thanksssss