Uma kuziwa ekubeni nobudlelwano obunempilo nomunye umuntu kubalulekile ukusungula uchungechunge lwemikhawulo ngaphakathi kwayo. Nokho, ukubeka leyo mikhawulo akuwona umsebenzi olula noma olula kunoma ubani onomlingani. Ubunzima buvela ngoba imingcele eshiwo ngenhla kufanele ifune, ngakolunye uhlangothi, inhlalakahle yabo bobabili abantu futhi, ngakolunye, ubuhlobo ngokwabo.
Esihlokweni esilandelayo sikunikeza iziqondiso ezidingekayo ukumisa imingcele ebuhlotsheni obunempilo futhi uzuze inhlalakahle ethile kuyo.
Imikhawulo phakathi kwabashadile
Ukubeka imingcele phakathi kobudlelwano akuyona into engaphezu kokwazisa othandekayo ukuthi nakuba kungase kube nezifiso noma izintandokazi ezihlukile kwezabo, inhlonipho ikhona ngaso sonke isikhathi kwabashadile. Akekho olungile kunomunye njengoba ukuhloniphana nokulinganisa kumele kube khona ngaso sonke isikhathi. Imikhawulo phakathi kwabashadikazi iyinto enenzuzo ngempela kunoma yiluphi uhlobo lobudlelwano:
- Asibeke eceleni kakhulu ukuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo kanye nokukhohlisa phakathi kwabashadikazi.
- Ukuxhumana kumanzi kakhulu phakathi kwabantu bobabili, into ezuzisa kakhulu ubudlelwano.
- Kukhuphula ukuzethemba nokuzethemba kwabashadile
- Yehlisa amazinga okucindezeleka ekhiqizwa nsuku zonke.
- asigcine ubudlelwano obunempilo ngokuphelele.
Indlela yokubeka imingcele phakathi kwabashadile
Kukhona uchungechunge lwezinkombandlela noma amathiphu okufanele uwalandele lapho usungula imikhawulo ethile phakathi kobudlelwano:
- Imingcele kufanele ibekwe ngezikhathi ezifanele umbhangqwana. Akufani ukuwasungula lapho imimoya ingaphezulu kunalapho bobabili abantu bekhululekile futhi besamukela ngokuphelele.
- Imingcele isungulwa ukuze ubuhlobo bube nempilo ngangokunokwenzeka futhi buhlale ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Kuyisivivinyo sangempela sothando nenhlonipho kuyena nangomunye umuntu.
- Lapho ubeka imingcele, kubalulekile ukugcina ibanga elithile phakathi kokunamathela ngokomzwelo kumbhangqwana kanye nezidingo ubudlelwano okumelwe bube nazo ukuze bufinyelele izinga elithile lenhlalakahle ngaphakathi kwalo. Nakuba kuyinto engase ibize ekuqaleni, ungangabazi ukwenza ithimba elivela kothandekayo futhi umise ngokushelela imingcele eshiwo ngenhla phakathi kobudlelwano.
- Lapho ubeka imingcele, kubalulekile ukuba qotho futhi uthembeke kuwe ngokwakho. Akunakwenzeka ukwenza sengathi umbhangqwana uyayihlonipha imingcele uma singakwazi ukuhlonipha owabo.
Ngamafuphi, imingcele phakathi kwanoma ibuphi ubuhlobo ayinayo enye inhloso ngaphandle kokufeza ukuthi umbhangqwana ukhuthazele ngokuhamba kwesikhathi futhi ube nempilo ngangokunokwenzeka. Kubalulekile ukuthi lokhu kugcwaliseke, kube nenhlonipho yomuntu ngamunye ukuthobela imingcele ebekwe umlingani wakhe. Akuyona into elula noma elula ukusungula, nakuba kuyinto ebalulekile lapho umbhangqwana usebenza kuzo zonke izici.